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I'm 54 and a blowjob virgin.
I've tried twice-gagged the first time and the second time was ok but it really makes me uncomfortable and i know my new b/f really likes it; I dont know how to tell him i don't know how to do it. I've seen a couple of your youtube videos, but since we haven't even had regular sex yet after 4 months due to a back injury of his, I dont feel quite ready to attempt an inexperienced BJ and be embarassed etc. he does his best to pleasure me and i him but i want the true lovemaking experience first.
Maybe i'm being selfish here, I don't know. can you help me??
Dear M,
Why is it so difficult to ask a lover what they like instead of guessing with no actual experience to back you up? I'm sure he'd be very appreciative if you were honest with him. You're not being selfish you're being foolish by not discussing this like a grown woman instead of acting like a silly girl who is embarrassed.
A blow job doesn't mean swallowing the entire penis which is called "Deep throat". Most of us wrap our hand around the base and focus on the last 3 or 4 inches especially the sensitive rim around the head of his dick. C'mon woman! Speak your mind so you can enjoy your new lover throughout the New Year.
Dr. Betty
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Educate yourself: read a book
I never had much experience and wanted to get better at it, so I read Violet Blue's book on the subject. It's really a good book, makes you think about why it's such an erotic act, the exchange of power, all that stuff. I naively used to think that a blow job was all about your mouth. In the past, when I had tried to give a blow job, my jaw got really tired. Now I know it's not just your mouth, it's your hands, your tongue, your lips, your eyes. I find water soluble lube very helpful too. A blow job doesn't have to end there, it can be part of foreplay, it can end up a hand job, lots of possibilities. The biggest key to a good blow job is enthusiasm. Sounds like you have that already.
Educate yourself: read Violet Blue's book
I never had much experience and wanted to get better at it, so I read Violet Blue's book on the subject. It's really a good book, makes you think about why it's such an erotic act, the exchange of power, all that stuff. I naively used to think that a blow job was all about your mouth. In the past, when I had tried to give a blow job, my jaw got really tired. Now I know it's not just your mouth, it's your hands, your tongue, your lips, your eyes. I find water soluble lube very helpful too. A blow job doesn't have to end there, it can be part of foreplay, it can end up a hand job, lots of possibilities. The biggest key to a good blow job is enthusiasm. Sounds like you have that already.
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