Hi Dr. Betty,
I am a nineteen year old woman who has been masturbating for as long as I can remember. I have tried countless times to use my hands (and followed your detailed instructions for First Orgasm three times) and it does not do anything for me. The way I have always masturbated is using a blanket or a pillow and sort of humping it. Sometimes I feel satisfied, sometimes I don't, but it always feels good.
My concern is that I identify as queer and at the moment am much more attracted to women. Unfortunately, humping a blanket isn't exactly a two person activity. I want to understand how to use my hands in order to guide my future partner(s) and to know what it is I want. Additionally, to be a better partner to them. What exactly is it that I am achieving by using a blanket/pillow that I can't seem to do with my hands? In addition, how do I go about explaining this to future lovers?
If you want to become more proficient by pleasing yourself with your fingers then you gotta dump your pillow humping. Otherwise you will not know how to touch your future girl lover. Right now, your masturbation technique is very indirect clit stim. The good part is the "humping" or pelvic movement that is combined with pressing your clit nto your blanky or pillow, a common childhood masturbation technique. Since you've been using this system for "as long as you can remember" it will take more time to learn a new approach. Keep practicing.