Dear Dr. Betty,
I'm having a hard time being able to relax with my new boyfriend. We've had sex many times and it's enjoyable, but when it comes to me cumming... it just doesn't happen and he always has to say something about it after we have sex. He doesn't understand why hes not getting me off and it makes me feel guilty because he wants to so bad.
I feel like i'm thinking about it too hard during. He also mentioned something about how a girl squirting is so hot and I just wish I could do it. How can I relax more during sex? How do I achieve being able to squirt? I feel like I don't know my own body well enough, even though i've been having sex since I was 13 and im 22 now.
You need to go into the website and search the topics you want answers to. One of the biggest problems for girls and women today besides lack of sex information and education is their boyfriend's need to "make her come." It's their absurd need to view their sexual prowess through a woman's response.
Like in porn where women always scream with phony earth shattering sounds as he pounds away slamming his dick into her vagina which is NOT how most of us can orgasm. Your problem is NOT learning to relax during sex. You must learn how to have orgasms through the regular practice of masturbation then you can tell your BF what you like. His sex education is watching porn where women are paid to please men.