I'm 29, and I've only ever, been able to orgasm with a vibrator.
I have gross larger labia and hood, so i've never been able to reach orgasm through penetration. I have tried, tried and tried with my own hands, and so have others, to no avail. No luck. I haven't even had sex in 2 years because there's no point anymore. Have I desensitized myself because of using a vibrator for so many years? Believe me, I love toys but I don't want to have to need them for the rest of my life.
I don't date due to this. I think it's just part of my stupid development/anatomy, I wasn't born lucky with a tight little porno vulva. I'm not insecure, I'm slightly shy when I guy thinks I'm "loose" or "easy" which is so obviously untrue, but I'm not ignorant to different anatomies etc. I just think I should give up trying. I use porno and my hands, nothing. I know it sounds like I'm trying "too" hard, but I'm not really, I'm just tired of trying lol. I just don't know what to do anymore.
You are another victim of porn! Very few women (except in porn) can climax from a penis thrusting in and out of a vagina whether or not it's tight, with small lips and hairless from being waxed. You believe there's a problem with your "gross larger labia and hood" but I'd say both are to your advantage if you knew more about female sexuality. Instead your mind is full of the kind of images that entertain men in the X rated crap you've been watching! All this is by way of saying STOP watching porn and learn more about your own sexuality.
I am including links to get you started. From now on let D&R be your source of sexual inspiration. Time for you to create your own sexual fantasies that include your vibrator during a hot fuck when you start dating again.