I've Given Up on Sex

Sun, 12/02/2012 - 11:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm 29, and I've only ever, been able to orgasm with a vibrator.

I have gross larger labia and hood, so i've never been able to reach orgasm through penetration. I have tried, tried and tried with my own hands, and so have others, to no avail. No luck. I haven't even had sex in 2 years because there's no point anymore. Have I desensitized myself because of using a vibrator for so many years? Believe me, I love toys but I don't want to have to need them for the rest of my life.

I don't date due to this. I think it's just part of my stupid development/anatomy, I wasn't born lucky with a tight little porno vulva. I'm not insecure, I'm slightly shy when I guy thinks I'm "loose" or "easy" which is so obviously untrue, but I'm not ignorant to different anatomies etc. I just think I should give up trying. I use porno and my hands, nothing. I know it sounds like I'm trying "too" hard, but I'm not really, I'm just tired of trying lol. I just don't know what to do anymore.

Dear S,

You are another victim of porn! Very few women (except in porn) can climax from a penis thrusting in and out of a vagina whether or not it's tight, with small lips and hairless from being waxed. You believe there's a problem with your "gross larger labia and hood" but I'd say both are to your advantage if you knew more about female sexuality. Instead your mind is full of the kind of images that entertain men in the X rated crap you've been watching! All this is by way of saying STOP watching porn and learn more about your own sexuality.

I am including links to get you started. From now on let D&R be your source of sexual inspiration. Time for you to create your own sexual fantasies that include your vibrator during a hot fuck when you start dating again.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Large labia and hood

Sun, 12/02/2012 - 12:12

I think large labia and hood look much more sexy than a  synthetic porn star who has had surgery.

whole awesome experience

Sun, 12/02/2012 - 17:51

In my humble opinion, sex with a partner feels reallly nice and is a wonderful experience, even if you don't have an orgasm. Or you can do like Betty advocates, think of intercourse as  foreplay and then get off with your vibrator. I certainly wouldn't give up on sex for this reason. Maybe if you are with someone and everything meshes, you will have an orgasm. Maybe not. It's a shame to throw out the whole awesome experience just because you haven't figured out yet how to incorporate your vibrator orgasm into it.

Porn labia creep me out

Tue, 12/04/2012 - 20:19

I've watched porn and I've changed diapers and to me it's very creepy how the porn ideal looks so infantile, literally. I find it funny that labiaplasty is so popular here but we are horrified at the idea of FGM. Conversely, some African women are horrified at our ideals of labiaplasty because they feel that longer labia contributes to sexual pleasure for both sexes.
I guess we all have issues with our vulvas. I wish my clit was larger and have some cosmetic issues with my labia but it's nothing I feel needs to be corrected by surgery. It's probably similar to the issues that men have with their penises.

"Gross larger labia and hood" are ideal for cunnilingus

Sun, 10/06/2013 - 03:15

Hours of cunnilingus with your "gross larger labia and hood" sounds wonderful to me and I would have thought well worth trying with a partner as most real men will love your vulva.

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