Does Using a Vibrator During Birth Make Things Easier?

Wed, 11/14/2012 - 10:18
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello,

This is a general question. Have you heard of women using a vibrator while in labor? In the past, using a vibrator has been the only way I've enjoyed getting large objects in and out of my vagina. Now that I am pregnant, I wonder if it will make things easier once I give birth.

I know how busy you are, so if you answer, I'll feel super lucky :) If you do a YouTube video, I'll feel like I experienced a miracle :)

K

Dear K,

A friend of mine used her vibrator during labor, but it was a home birth. Sexual arousal masks pain as you already know. My idea of perfection would be a water birth using the Mystic Wand made out of latex and can be used under water. I'll include our Douala Jessica to see what she thinks. She has attended numerous births. When is your due date?

Dr. Betty

Hi K,

It's wonderful that when imagining childbirth you are thinking about what has opened you up the most sexually. Indeed, the hormones and much of the physiology of labor is similar to that of sex.

A vibrator is certainly something to try during childbirth, as is clitoral stimulation of any other kind. That said, you might find a vibrator to be too much in labor. The sensitivity of every aspect of the body is heightened and a vibrator may (or may not) feel overstimulating or too strong. For example, the sense of smell gets incredibly heightened in labor. I have seen women who find even the most quiet whisper very irritating. So it may be that a vibrator feels fantastic, but it also may be that a very gentle touch is adequate. Remember that as the baby comes down, her or his head will be stimulating the clitoris from inside as well.

I would additionally say that Betty's mention of her friend's birth expresses how her friend found an environment in which she felt safe to use a vibrator and relax. It is most important that you consider what is going to make you feel safe and relaxed. What are the conditions and environment that open you up the most sexually? Those are likely some of the conditions and environment you will want to open up in childbirth. Questions like, how safe and comfortable would you feel using a vibrator in front of your midwife or doctor? In front of nurses? Etc. When you imagine your birth, what environment and who makes your body feel relaxed and safe.

Finally, I think it's important to remember that the magic of childbirth is that this is what the female body was built to do. The hormones of late pregnancy and childbirth soften the joints, lubricate the vagina and make the skin more stretchy. So while imagining a whole baby coming through the vagina seems huge and impossible, the transformation that your body will begin to go through long before your cervix is dilating and your vagina is stretching are a gift your body will give you. Then in labor, you, your partner and your doctor or midwife, get to do all kinds of things that either support or discourage the opening and stretching.

You might like to read books by the midwife Ina May Gaskin. WHile she does not speak specifically about clitoral stimulation, she does talk about kissing and maximizing sexual energy to support the birth.

Jessica

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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