Wanting a Threesome. How Do I Tell Them I Have HSV-1?

Mon, 10/08/2012 - 09:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

Last year my ex and I were both diagnosed with HSV-1. At the time we were not exclusive and he had just split up with his girlfriend. We tried to make things work between us, as this was an emotional and hard time for both of us, but we parted ways at the end of last summer and I haven't not seen him since. Before I hooked up with my ex, I was sleeping with one other guy, we'll call him Craig. Craig and I were always open and honest with each other and we were safe and respectful.

After things ended with my ex, the other guy and I continued to get hot and heavy. He knew what had happaned and he's never had an outbreak. I myself have only had the one outbreak. Now, I have the best sex of my life with Craig and we both like kink. I have always wanted a threesome and he is totally into having one with me. The problem is finding another woman who would accept my HSV-1. I've never had to tell another partner, since Craig new about it as it was happening, and I'm scared to. How do I disclose this and is a threesome still possible, given my situation?

Thanks Betty!

Best,

Wanting a Threesome

Dear S,

I could understand your concern if you had genital Herpies. But a cold sore? While exposure to HSV-1 is extremely common -- as many as 90% of American adults have been exposed to the virus -- there is no stigma to having a cold sore. However, HSV-2 or genital herpes can cause concern and embarrassment. Although there is no cure for genital herpes, an infected person can take steps to prevent spreading the disease and still have a happy sex life.

Read more: http://www.umm.edu/altmed/articles/herpes-simplex-000079.htm#ixzz28dwVQvZr

Personally speaking, I had cold sores in grade school and throughout my twenties. It always happened when I wanted to look my best like being in the school play! Or later on when having a special date. As I grew older, they disappeared. In the 70's I had my first genital Herpes outbreak and like many others, I thought I had some terrible genital disease and my sex life was over. Then I learned how many others also had the virus and I got over being so obsessed. I've had years when it remained dormant. During periods of stress, it can reappear but I have never seen it as a serious problem.

I was sexually active with a man from 2000 to 2009. When I had an active sore, we abstained from sex. He has never had an outbreak. A best friend has lived with her lover for 8 years and he has Herpes. She has never had an outbreak either. So why do you treat having HSV-1 like it's similar to a death sentence? A cold sore is so minor. You can tell the girl you invite into your bed that you once had a cold sore and I would imagine she'd laugh at your confession. But maybe it's nice of you to be so concerned and she will appreciate how caring you are.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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