Dear Betty and Carlin,
Note: Up front I'd like to apologize for the length of this, but if you hang in there, I believe you'll find it an interesting topic to discuss.
I found your page through your YouTube channel, and I am a big fan of your videos. Now that I'm hear I've spent about 20min looking through Betty's art. I had no idea she was so talented!
I'd very much like to hear you two speak in a video about Female Ejaculation, or "Squirting" as it is often called. As I'm sure you are aware, there is a near epidemic of it in pornography. I'm not sure how this trend in porn got started, but it has grown much more common over time. I make no judgement on that one way or another, but what does trouble me is the rising number of "squirters" out there who are not in porn (just your average girls). Further, I have actually heard some women say they don't think they have ever orgasmed because they "haven't ever squirted".
Similarly, I have heard some guys say they've "never made a woman squirt" like it was a bad thing. Granted, most of these encounters have been in online discussions, so I did feel I could just dismiss those, but even that has changed recently. A random woman I had met at a bar told me she was a "squirter", and she had an expression that communicated to me that I should be impressed. I never got to find out, but that's what she said in the course of conversation. Finally, recently one of my buddies started dating a girl that "squirted" during sex (without warning him), and he claims some of it hit the floor several feet away. He didn't elaborate, but I didn't get the vibe it was a good experience for him. Again, just his perspective.
I believe there is growing pressure of some kind for women to "squirt", and I can't think of how this got introduced other than through pornography. Now I don't claim to know everything about sex (that's your job), so correct me if I am wrong, but I have done some reading and apparently there are some "skene's glands" there that could allow -some- women to "ejaculate", but at most this fluid should only be a dribble from what I have read. My conclusion is that in most, if not all of this genre of porn, I believe these women are just urinating. Again, no judgement one way or the other, but if I'm right why not just call it "watersports" like they did in the old days. And why are so many young women (and men) being mislead by this?
I consider myself a good lover, at least so I've been told, and I have brought many women to orgasm either orally or manually (and once during intercourse) but I've never seen "squirting". I've heard them scream, I've heard them be silent, and I've seen women's bodies do all kinds of things in the grip of an orgasm, but not that.
I know an orgasm when I see and feel one, and no one is going to tell me that a female orgasm without "squirting" isn't a real orgasm, but that seems to be the myth that is growing in popularity. If I am wrong on any of this, please correct me. Either way, I'd really like to hear both of your thoughts on this, especially on YouTube. My hope is it may help others who are wondering about this subject. However, please don't use my name.
For me this squirting business is more like a parlor trick than a valid sexual response.
Although for a few women it's simply what happens when they have vaginal sex. We did the You Tube so take a look. Go onto our website and check out several of my essays on the so-called G Spot. Between you and me and any one else who will listen, I think it's a load of crap that got commercialized with all the G toys, books and videos. Now no one wants to tell the truth but I will. I've got nothing to lose.
Thanks so much for the video and the email. I'm glad I'm not off base on this. I've done a lot more reading on the subject and frankly I'm convinced this is a gimmick. I noticed some things during my research... Most everyone in support of it, even doctors, seem to be selling something. Be it a book on how to do it, a video on the same, porn, or a special toy. Most women's blogs on the subject seem as though they're horrified at the thought of it being pee.
Honestly, I think they need to call it "squirting" to feel normal, and I find that sad. If your sexual response is to urinate I see no need to be ashamed. Other women seem to be into it on purpose because its the "New" sexual thing, they feel special, and I believe they're also propping up their man's sexual ego. Finally the little legitimate medical science I've found seems support that its very rare, and very little fluid.
The tragedy is this seems to be holding back honest sexual development in society and adding confusion as to what qualifies as a female orgasm. How, in this modern age is this possible, considering all that's been done to demystify female sexuality since the 50s and liberate women in this regard? I consider myself a modern man, and I find it appalling.
Thanks again, and keep being honest!
We are in complete agreement. You named it loud and clear:
"Most everyone in support of it, even doctors, seem to be selling something. Be it a book on how to do it, a video on the same, porn, or a special toy. Most women's blogs on the subject seem as though they're horrified at the thought of it being pee."
So they have named it "female ejaculation" which is no more than a teaspoon that mostly goes undetected. We now know that "squirting copious amounts is fresh urine that comes from the bladder." But again we call it "female ejaculation" because to admit it's urine disgusts them.
And finally: "Other women seem to be into it on purpose because its the "New" sexual thing, they feel special, and I believe they're also propping up a man's sexual ego."
Yes, again. Men love it because it proves they are good lovers. This whole hype around "female ejaculation" is like politics to control people's minds with PR which is mostly based on lies and BS. We must continue to be truth tellers.