How Do I Feminize My Son?

Mon, 09/17/2012 - 14:10
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am a pregnant soon-be mother of a son on his way. I however really wanted it to be a girl. So I have been doing some research, & it looks like a thing I could try doing is feminizing him to make him at least similar to a girl rather than a boy. As far as I can tell it looks like feminizing boys is actually a good thing. Now, I am not completely sure of that just yet, which is why I am sending you this email, so that I can try & discuss this with you.

After all, I only want what's best for my son. But anyways, while feminine men are not exactly women, I find that feminine men are still more pleasant to be around than men who aren't. They have better hygiene. They smell better; smell like perfume. They are more civilized. They have more class. They are less prone to violence & aggression which makes them safer to be around. They make better husbands because they are men that women can relate to better. & they have a better fashion sense which makes them a better choice for women seen in public.

Let’s face it, there was a time when the masculinity in men was needed for the benefit of the community, I understand that, but now in the 21st Century, with the technology that we have & everything, it’s not very useful for a man to strive to be masculine anymore. In fact, in today’s world the problems it comes with outweigh the benefits, even. I have been doing lots of research about parents feminizing their sons, & I as far as I have researched these parents who have feminized their sons have seen positive results. Which is the reason why, as a pregnant mother of a son that’s almost due, I have been thinking about feminizing him as much as I can by raising him to be just like Mommy’s little girl.

It seems feminists are saying to raise our sons the same way we would raise them if they were daughters. Since you are both, a feminist and a sexologist, I thought you might be a good person to talk to about this. I have already chosen a unisex name, Addison, for him; & if I make up my mind to go forward with this I will start by buying girl clothes, girl toys, and girl bedding for him. After reading this in some website I found; "Balls make us Fight. Fight makes the Man. But You won't Fight. You don't have Balls. You're not a Man.”

Taking that into consideration; maybe I truly don’t want him to be a man because I don’t want my Poopykins to even be sent on a road where the possibility might be that he would become some violent, aggressive brute. I’d rather he grow up to be a “sissy” than one of those men who get thrown in prison for things like breaking another man’s back in a bar fight or one of those men who you have to be cautious or fearful of. Now, I know most men are not like that, but I don't want to raise my son in a way that might let him turn out that way, which is why I want to feminize him just to make sure. Most people prefer to be in the company of men who don't know how to fight than men who do, anyways.

From what I’ve researched, feminized sons have better bonds between their mothers. They like to do more things together with their mothers. They are much more affectionate. They are more docile & friendly, which is a huge plus. They are more civilized. They are more hygienic & don’t go & get themselves all covered in dirt & track dirt all over the house & onto everything they touch. They sit down to urinate, which means no piss all over the toilet & on the floor around it. They are less wild & out of control full of energy, which makes them easier to manage. They are more behaved than boys who are not feminine. They are less likely to get into fights with other kids. They are less likely to become trouble makers like some boys are. They are less likely to become sexual, which means less likely to become engaged in affairs & less likely to masturbate due to disregard for their penises. It’s also been shown that feminized boys tend to do better in school than their more masculine counterparts.

As far as I can tell I think that feminizing my son would be quite beneficial not just for me but for him, too, & civilization. This is the 21st Century, not ancient Greece. Men don’t need to be tough, aggressive fighters anymore. Civilization is evolving, & I believe that men becoming more feminine would be a step up for society. I mean, for instance, take a look at how shitty the patriarchal countries are, like Iran. Then take a look at the more matriarchal societies, such as Sweden, & see how much better off they are & how much better they are thriving! A thing that I can for sure say would be beneficial about the feminization of men is that there would be no more war.

I would like to point out that war caused by masculine aggression has killed FAR more people than even the spread of HIV & all other diseases caused by anal sex! I don't ever want my son to be killed in a war! & feminizing him will make it so that could never happen. I understand that if a society is under attack by another that it is in their best interest to fight against it, but my whole point is that if vast majority men lost their fighting spirit there wouldn't even be societies attacking other societies to begin with!

If men of this world were feminized, we wouldn't even need soldiers because there wouldn't be any men out there plotting to attack other societies. In that case, feminizing men would save many lives! There'd be no more war or terrorism. It really pisses me off that my tax money goes to pay for a war because of men who want to fight & go get each other killed & destroy each other’s towns & villages with their women & children, instead of it actually going to things useful to the community. I’ll be glad the day men of this world become feminine enough to no longer want to go & start wars anymore! Considering the vast majority of violent crime is perpetrated by men, if men of this world were feminized enough & became more like women, there would be a lot less violence in this world, & self-defense wouldn't even need to be a big issue!

Now, here's another thing that concerns me about doing this, will this really work enough that he will be close enough to being like a girl that suppose if someone were to first meet him, they would think he is a girl? I found a website that has an article that goes into depth on how to do this:

Anyways, I'm going to copy and paste it here:

"Some Mothers and other women ask the Question...How do I get my guys to be more Feminine? Their Reasons could be Abusive husband, an Unruly Male Child, Unchecked "Macho" Behaviours from their Testosterone. Whatever. As a man that has always been Feminine Oriented, I was more into Feminizing myself, but it sure would have been Nice to have someone Encourage me and Guide me on the Road to Femininity!

A Friend of mine sent me the following E-mail, and asked me to publish it on the Blog. It deals with the Subject of How to Feminize a Male. You might Agree with what he might Disagree. The Purpose of this Forum is to bring different Perspectives on the Trends of Male Femininity and Empowerment of Women....Not All Agree, but different Perspectives are Welcomed and Encouraged. I hope you enjoy the Posting from Tony!

I would like to write an article for your blog Titled how to steer your boy down the feminization trail. and ways to demale your son. Demale techniques If you are like many single moms thinking about feminizing your SON or sons, there are many things to consider. Have you been fanning his macho boy ego?? Have you bought him gender specific toys and games? If so it is time to put that to an end. Proper and effective feminization has to move along sort of gradually, unless you are one of the 'Radical Feminists" who have a secret network and can do some very special things with their highly trained girls, to help take out a boys "special boy makers" and leave him no choice but to become a girl. [but that is in radical instances.]

Most normal moms need to look at how their boys are dressed. You can't just get up one day and say, "Randy you are wearing panties today" or no more soccer for you boy, now it is Cheerleading for you. If that was done more boys would be running to the local police or school nurses and complaining of abuse.

Things that moms need to start doing.

Wardrobe changes like slowly bleach shrink and destroy any shirts that have Male or Macho Ego themed brands . No more Nike Adidas, Vans dc shoes Osiris, and generally skater type shirts. Sneakers as well need to be made more unisex. stay away from blue and boy orientated colors. Some of our moms , love to secretly "cook' their boys expensive brand name sneaks in the microwave for a few minutes to make them fall apart when he is wearing them. so then they have a reason for buying him cheap unisex converse all star sneakers or Wall-mart or K-Mart specials.

As if it is 'his' fault for not taking care of his stuff, you will have done wonders to lower his male self esteem and ego. The cheaper and more ugly the sneakers the better. Most of our Demale Society mothers love converse because they can point out in a mall "hey look that girl has the same shoes, they look good on you too. *See how we slowly assimilate the boy to a more feminine outlook? His brand name macho shirts are replaced with more pastel and softer colors. Name brand jeans fade into sweat pants and slacks. As for video games, keep them as non violent as possible. Do not give in to sports titles, fighting games ww2 shooters. as they fan the boys violence. More girl or female orientated games like Tomb Raider, resident evil has z great girl character if you want to let him play some violent game .

Chores: you must insist your boy do and complete chores. Do not let him feel and act like a little prince.

Sports: Most boys love or try sports. While the exercise is a good thing the male bonding is a no no. They do not need strong male role models ,and macho friends if you want a real sissy boy to blossom. Try again "secret' destruction ' maneuvers. If you have a macho skater boy, mess up his skate board, so it falls apart, and looks like he abused it. Baseball gloves go missing, bats break, football equipment dry rots or shrinks.. and can all be made to seem like it is HIS fault.

And when he is bad ground him from sports. Do not let him play if he is bad. But if you have an over sported brat and you want him to become a sissy cheerleader.. you must get him started on male hormone blockers and female hormones.. as young as 9, is ok as the female hormones will stunt his growth and make him more lady like in appearance, and the male hormone blockers will not allow his muscles to get strong like other boys , make him slower and more calm and eventually quit sports, which at that point, you suggest more lady like activities. We use a vitamin replacement trick, putting androcour in a vitamin b12 bottle and female hormones in a vitamin c bottle. They work wonders.

If any moms need dosage help or instructions , our resident friend and feminist leader Dr Lucy will help you. The results of a boy taking this special formula is what more moms need to do and try it is a must. Feminized Men Make the Best Husbands! Women that Take Control of their Relationships with Men and Boys, and Encourage Male Femininity are the Pioneers of the Future!"

So If you have any advice that wasn't mentioned in the article above or about anything that you might think would not work that was mentioned above, or if whether this could even work or not, or if this would even be healthy for him, or a good idea or not, I would be interested in your advice or feedback.

Dear G,

Yours is one of the strangest emails I've ever received. It reads a bit like a science fiction story or a movie. It would be illegal to give a boy child hormones so he could become a girl unless he insisted he was a girl. This happens when a boy or girl believes they belong to the opposite gender and they become Transsexuals. That said, I do believe how most mother raise their sons as Little Princes waiting on them hand and foot creates a lot of unnecessary macho men.

Maybe you'll get lucky and give birth to a gay son. However, no hormones for him unless he requests a sex change. Otherwise with you approach, he might turn out to be a bigger monster or a man who hates women and makes them all suffer for it. Treating him as a Mother's boy in your actions might work but forget all that destructive crap of damaging his toys. Many liberated moms today do not color code clothes and buy gender neutral toys. Just love him and let him develop naturally while giving him a lot of affection. I repeat no hormones unless he wants to become the opposite sex.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Mon, 09/17/2012 - 17:26

Dear G your very very anxious. There are many kinds of masculine as there are many kinds of feminine. Raise your son to ID as a gentleman and be a nice person yourself as an example for him to follow. The fear of being physically assaulted by other men is the source of nearly all male dickish behaviour, as that fear will make him go with the brutish crowd. Getting him to do judo from an early age will teach him to be physically confident and secure and not afraid so he can be himself.  It makes girls more confident too and judo teaches people of both sexes to be peaceful and use their skills defensively or to assist people who are helpless. Women can be assholes too (Sarah Palin?) so just raise your kids to be confident and peaceful (the teachings of judo) and to be nice people from your well balanced discipline  and example. Parenting isn't easy so seek good advice all the way through as you have here and you'll learn and that should ease your anxiety.  Good luck. 

Forced Compliance from by Social Influence, Gender Bias

Mon, 09/17/2012 - 20:53

This letter seems suggest similar things to what things men and society would do in the dark ages and early victorian era to control women. Not let women ride bicycles or play rough games, only give little girls dolls to play with, teach children from an early age that to be obedient and submissive was the proper way BUT giving boys more freedoms as they matured, while less freedoms to girls, for example.  

If you teach a child morals, not utter submissiveness, from an early age- they will become adults capable of making smart decisions. Not aggressive tyrants hellbent on proving that they are right (when if thought out with a clear head, it would only cause harm). This applies to all genders.

Teaching a child what to think and not how to think leads to a mind uncapable of innovation and change- a blatant, "This is wrong, because I have said so. I don't care what you have to say." 

Also, in the letter, G mentioned less masturbation as a pro of feminization. Uh, what? Am I not on

I am a feminist and a fan of

LilithLand's picture
Tue, 09/18/2012 - 01:13

I am a feminist and a fan of letting people be themselves. I see nothing wrong with a masculine woman and a feminine man or vice versa. And I find masculine men sexually appealing by the way. With that being said, I think this email is really fucked up. Male hormone blockers, "demaleing", this is horrible. And very anti-male. If someone chooses to change their gender, that is their right as an adult. But to do this to a child without their consent is abuse. And I agree with Olgapot, this smacks of the kind of control women have had to deal with throughout history. 
I think this mother needs to let her son be what he is. Give him dolls and trucks and let him make up his mind. Don't make it up for him. And if he is masculine, then let him be himself and raise him to be the best masculine guy around. And if he is more feminine, that's good to. But it should be the kid's choice.

Really? You need to find another focus in your life

Tue, 09/18/2012 - 01:51

The post was like "science fiction" I hope you have a happy, healthy child that with the support of a loving family grows into a happy, healthy, respectful adult. Children learn from their surroundings, give them opportunities to possess knowledge and BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL in your own life.

Truth or troll?

Tue, 09/18/2012 - 04:55

While reading this piece, I have been debating with myself whether it was really written by a pregnant woman, or whether it might be the most elaborate troll I’ve ever seen. I’m leaning towards the troll theory. If this piece was written by an expectant woman who has already rejected her son before he’s even made it into the world, it’s terribly sad. She needs help, and ought to seriously consider giving him up for adoption to a family who can love him for who he is. If this is some sort of demented practical joke (say by university students with too much time on their hands), the author is still in need of help. I hope she/he gets it, and the sooner the better. A mind is a terrible thing to waste.

this sickens me, trying to

Wed, 09/19/2012 - 14:02

this sickens me, trying to force a kid into an identity!!!

When politically correct runs amok

Thu, 09/20/2012 - 09:03

Uh,  lets get one thing straight.  As a real male parent of a real boy,  you don't sit down with a latte and plan their life for them over lunch,  which is what this appears to be.  Gawd,  what a control freak.   Your child is going to be whoever he is going to be.  No matter what you want.  You have to RELATE to your child and LOVE him not MANUFACTURE him.   Relate to him.  Get back to us in 10 years and tell us all your grandiose plans for changing your child.  Hell,  you don't even know him yet.  What's going to happen if you can't get him to put the toilet seat down,  do you put him up for adoption?   In the end, you'll probably settle for him putting his toys away any more than care WHAT toys he plays with.  Good Gawd.  I think mommy needs help.
In fairness,  of course you can give your child good values.  Good values don't support meanness, abuse,  little princes,  or fear of sharing feelings.  These things don't always directly have anything to do with gender.  There are gender differences,  but there are also those who genderize everything and forget that our genitals develop the exact same way.  We are all human.
As to your thoughts on war,  we forget that modern warfare is more of a "submit and follow orders" thing not a "I am going to do what my mommy taught me" thing.  In government cowardice is rewarded and much easier to work with than courage.  What you teach him will matter,  but he needs to be able to actually choose peace over war,  and for most of us who are not president,  that is a problem.  So if enough of us choose jail over war,  it might get through,  but it is not really much of a choice.  In fact, I've often wondered if in the old days,  when parents "owned" their sons and daughters,  the appeal for war would have to be put to the parents.  Children were farm slaves owned by the parents. It was more like asking a large manufacturer to give up its work force.  Even government had to ask politely then.  Nowadays,  once your kids get emancipated it's all peer pressure and goverment propaganda that gets most boys to join up. The parents don't have a say now.  Kind of an interesting change in society.  So,  since your kids are forced to be taken anyway,  you can see why most parents,  conservative or otherwise,  take a "must support the troops" view.  As a parent,  you "support the troops" with a gun to your head.  It either that or a funeral.  See how clever the government is.  They already have your valuable cannon-fodder.  So,  "support the troops".  But if your kid can fix that,  I wouldn't care if he left the seat up every time.  But I am a guy.

I hope this is a troll

Thu, 09/20/2012 - 12:48

This is child cruelty. Just let your son be.


Thu, 09/20/2012 - 14:00

I really think it is a troll. The more I read it, the more it seemed inauthentic and deliberately designed to be as outrageous as possible.

I didn't bother reading it

Thu, 09/20/2012 - 14:24

I didn't bother reading it all it's so long, but I tend to a agree. 

Most definitely a troll

Sat, 09/22/2012 - 23:21

I think this person is a total fabrication of a disturbed mind. I also think the same person who wrote this email created the blog they've linked to. I think they're probably in need of some good psychiatric help. 


Sun, 09/23/2012 - 09:40

In general, I applaud the fact that we can express just about any thought or point of view on Dodsona and Ross, without fear of censorship. However, in the case of this letter, be it a troll or not, it could have been censored. I don't think it is sincere, I think it is just someone seeking attention; in either case,  I don't think the writer of this epistle should enjoy all the attention that he/she has gotten here.

so disturbing

Sun, 09/23/2012 - 14:29
bluecar (not verified)

I actually felt physically sick after reading this.  Everybody here is saying it's just a troll; I hope so, but still -- you guys know this stuff does happen sometimes, right?  The writer Ernest Hemingway is one example: his mom dressed him as a girl when he was a kid and he spent the rest of his life trying to be the most macho guy ever, before he finally blew out his brains with a shotgun.  So much for feminization.  There was also a story like this a few years back in Texas -- again, a mom who really wanted a girl decided to pretend her son was a girl, she had everybody fooled, and it wasn't discovered till he was 10 years old or so:  the state put the kid in foster homes and put her in prison for abuse; he ended up alright, but only after many years of pain and counseling.  So, "G," it's seriously wrong to feminize boys, or to masculinize girls -- boys and girls are both wonderful in their own ways, and if you can't accept the gift that nature is giving you, please just give your child up for adoption.

All baby boys were dressed as girls in 1899

Sun, 09/23/2012 - 17:33

Earnest hemmingway was no exeption, and by 1905 we see him on the far right of this photo  dressed as a boy

I also felt physically ill- I

Sun, 09/23/2012 - 21:12

I also felt physically ill- I started pacing up and down the room and almost had to restrain myself against the urge of banging my head against a wall. But I didn't want to mention it in my original respose, as not to colour the content.

Let Boys be Boys

Wed, 02/05/2014 - 17:35
Luke (not verified)

Nuff said.

I think this is very scary.

Wed, 03/12/2014 - 17:29
Chillswil (not verified)

I think this is very scary. If you can't accept that you are pregnant with a boy, than you are no better than what you hope to eradicate.. Let him make his own decisions on who and what he wants to be. You cannot e doctrinaire him with this hate for man and what makes do. If you change him, i have a problem with it, but if he decides it for himself to become more feminine it is fine. Dont try to change him just because of his sex. You should try to change to suit what he wants.

We Need To Feminize Boys! No "Let Boys Be Boys" Bullshit!

Sat, 06/07/2014 - 01:25
Iandria (not verified)

This womon is a true visionary! You know, for a website that is supposed to be feminist-positive I'm rather miffed at the comments here. I think that just "letting boys be boys" is exactly the problem. If we ever want to get to that feminist utopia we all dream of, we need to change males to get there! If it means changing masculine boys' identities to feminine, drugging them up, and having them do the female role, then so be it. If it sounds extreme to you, tough! It's what has to be done if we want to make this world a better place for wimmin. By changing men into women(woo-men). Otherwise, men are going to keep us down and they always will like they always have!
You moderate feminists, if you want change, you're going to have to stop diddle-dallying with our issues, and start making some progress here. You are just keeping us behind by going soft on these issues. Now, I have no problem with masculine wimmin or masculine gender queers or feminine men for that matter, but masculine cis males are the root source of patriarchy which is what wimmins' oppression stems from, and we need to do something about these pricks. Seriously! We can't go soft on men and just let them be to keep doing what they do if we want to start seeing some progressive change. I want to see some progress within the wimmins' movement in my lifetime. I feel like we haven't gotten much further over the past few decades and I feel like it's because we are going too soft on men by just letting them continue to perpetrate their oppressive nature on wimmin. We NEED to change them! If enough moms follow suit with what this mother is doing and enough masculine boys are feminized, we would finally eliminate patriarchy once and for all! This might actually make the mark in the history of mankind when wimmin will finally be free from the shackles of patriarchy once and for all! This could be it, folks. I know it may sound extreme, but think about it!

man with partial feminine upbringin

Mon, 09/22/2014 - 04:09
urmila (not verified)

I was raised by mother as a girl until I was 5 year old. I have an elder brother who is agout 12 years elder to me. Mother had some complication during her first delivery and was advised to avoid future pregnency.After 11 years, she got a clearence for her doctor, that was when i was concieved. Docrors had told her this will be her last, and she will be operated so that she cannot even try to have another child.
My Father was an authoratarian man, and was quite insensitive. My brother was goin on his father's way and was a spoiled brat always trying to his way, and quite quqrrelsome too. My mother wanted to have a gentle well behaved girl very badly as her second child. and i believe, she was taking some herbal medicines,which was supposed to help her in that and when she was told it was a boy again, she was crestfallen and even to take me in her arms or feed me. After quite bit of persuation and few harsh words from father, she relented. But at that time itself she gecided that she will raise me as a girl.
I always wore cute little dress mostly in pink or pastel colors had my ears pierced when i was 2 and wore ear rings or studs My hairs was allowed to grow and was braided most of the time and decorated with flowers. She always asked me play with girls and we were playing some tradional girly games in addition to plying home, where i always was either a mother or daughter. and she used to rake me out to the temple and to the neibhours, especially during festival day with new silk dresses. to keep my skin soft and to have good complesion, she used to ge bath after saoking my skin with oil mised with termuric poder and henna
All that had to stop when i was 5 since i had start schooling. Both myself and mother were sad when my tresses were cut and given a boy cut and had start wearing shorts and shirts, But my mother, unknown to others, used to have me in panties and camisoles under my boy's clothes until i was 10. Un school i avoide out dooe games like football. my mother had arranged for  both classical music and barathanatyam dance teachers ro train me, so that i acuire the feminine grace .
She didnot gave me any hormone blockers. but my food is to have fenugreek and flak seed powder mixed with wheatflour, before frying rotis. I believe all that has made me a good man, little shy perhaps I am married and have 2 kids, and i am not sexually very agressive. mywife is happy that i am sensitive and readily share household duties.
I dont know what your readers think about this and am curious to know their opinion/

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