I am a pregnant soon-be mother of a son on his way. I however really wanted it to be a girl. So I have been doing some research, & it looks like a thing I could try doing is feminizing him to make him at least similar to a girl rather than a boy. As far as I can tell it looks like feminizing boys is actually a good thing. Now, I am not completely sure of that just yet, which is why I am sending you this email, so that I can try & discuss this with you.
After all, I only want what's best for my son. But anyways, while feminine men are not exactly women, I find that feminine men are still more pleasant to be around than men who aren't. They have better hygiene. They smell better; smell like perfume. They are more civilized. They have more class. They are less prone to violence & aggression which makes them safer to be around. They make better husbands because they are men that women can relate to better. & they have a better fashion sense which makes them a better choice for women seen in public.
Let’s face it, there was a time when the masculinity in men was needed for the benefit of the community, I understand that, but now in the 21st Century, with the technology that we have & everything, it’s not very useful for a man to strive to be masculine anymore. In fact, in today’s world the problems it comes with outweigh the benefits, even. I have been doing lots of research about parents feminizing their sons, & I as far as I have researched these parents who have feminized their sons have seen positive results. Which is the reason why, as a pregnant mother of a son that’s almost due, I have been thinking about feminizing him as much as I can by raising him to be just like Mommy’s little girl.
It seems feminists are saying to raise our sons the same way we would raise them if they were daughters. Since you are both, a feminist and a sexologist, I thought you might be a good person to talk to about this. I have already chosen a unisex name, Addison, for him; & if I make up my mind to go forward with this I will start by buying girl clothes, girl toys, and girl bedding for him. After reading this in some website I found; "Balls make us Fight. Fight makes the Man. But You won't Fight. You don't have Balls. You're not a Man.”
Taking that into consideration; maybe I truly don’t want him to be a man because I don’t want my Poopykins to even be sent on a road where the possibility might be that he would become some violent, aggressive brute. I’d rather he grow up to be a “sissy” than one of those men who get thrown in prison for things like breaking another man’s back in a bar fight or one of those men who you have to be cautious or fearful of. Now, I know most men are not like that, but I don't want to raise my son in a way that might let him turn out that way, which is why I want to feminize him just to make sure. Most people prefer to be in the company of men who don't know how to fight than men who do, anyways.
From what I’ve researched, feminized sons have better bonds between their mothers. They like to do more things together with their mothers. They are much more affectionate. They are more docile & friendly, which is a huge plus. They are more civilized. They are more hygienic & don’t go & get themselves all covered in dirt & track dirt all over the house & onto everything they touch. They sit down to urinate, which means no piss all over the toilet & on the floor around it. They are less wild & out of control full of energy, which makes them easier to manage. They are more behaved than boys who are not feminine. They are less likely to get into fights with other kids. They are less likely to become trouble makers like some boys are. They are less likely to become sexual, which means less likely to become engaged in affairs & less likely to masturbate due to disregard for their penises. It’s also been shown that feminized boys tend to do better in school than their more masculine counterparts.
As far as I can tell I think that feminizing my son would be quite beneficial not just for me but for him, too, & civilization. This is the 21st Century, not ancient Greece. Men don’t need to be tough, aggressive fighters anymore. Civilization is evolving, & I believe that men becoming more feminine would be a step up for society. I mean, for instance, take a look at how shitty the patriarchal countries are, like Iran. Then take a look at the more matriarchal societies, such as Sweden, & see how much better off they are & how much better they are thriving! A thing that I can for sure say would be beneficial about the feminization of men is that there would be no more war.
I would like to point out that war caused by masculine aggression has killed FAR more people than even the spread of HIV & all other diseases caused by anal sex! I don't ever want my son to be killed in a war! & feminizing him will make it so that could never happen. I understand that if a society is under attack by another that it is in their best interest to fight against it, but my whole point is that if vast majority men lost their fighting spirit there wouldn't even be societies attacking other societies to begin with!
If men of this world were feminized, we wouldn't even need soldiers because there wouldn't be any men out there plotting to attack other societies. In that case, feminizing men would save many lives! There'd be no more war or terrorism. It really pisses me off that my tax money goes to pay for a war because of men who want to fight & go get each other killed & destroy each other’s towns & villages with their women & children, instead of it actually going to things useful to the community. I’ll be glad the day men of this world become feminine enough to no longer want to go & start wars anymore! Considering the vast majority of violent crime is perpetrated by men, if men of this world were feminized enough & became more like women, there would be a lot less violence in this world, & self-defense wouldn't even need to be a big issue!
Now, here's another thing that concerns me about doing this, will this really work enough that he will be close enough to being like a girl that suppose if someone were to first meet him, they would think he is a girl? I found a website that has an article that goes into depth on how to do this: http://malefemininitygenderrolereversal.blogspot.com/2012/02/how-does-fe...
Anyways, I'm going to copy and paste it here:
"Some Mothers and other women ask the Question...How do I get my guys to be more Feminine? Their Reasons could be numerous....an Abusive husband, an Unruly Male Child, Unchecked "Macho" Behaviours from their Testosterone. Whatever. As a man that has always been Feminine Oriented, I was more into Feminizing myself, but it sure would have been Nice to have someone Encourage me and Guide me on the Road to Femininity!
A Friend of mine sent me the following E-mail, and asked me to publish it on the Blog. It deals with the Subject of How to Feminize a Male. You might Agree with what he says....you might Disagree. The Purpose of this Forum is to bring different Perspectives on the Trends of Male Femininity and Empowerment of Women....Not All Agree, but different Perspectives are Welcomed and Encouraged. I hope you enjoy the Posting from Tony!
I would like to write an article for your blog Titled how to steer your boy down the feminization trail. and ways to demale your son. Demale techniques If you are like many single moms thinking about feminizing your SON or sons, there are many things to consider. Have you been fanning his macho boy ego?? Have you bought him gender specific toys and games? If so it is time to put that to an end. Proper and effective feminization has to move along sort of gradually, unless you are one of the 'Radical Feminists" who have a secret network and can do some very special things with their highly trained girls, to help take out a boys "special boy makers" and leave him no choice but to become a girl. [but that is in radical instances.]
Most normal moms need to look at how their boys are dressed. You can't just get up one day and say, "Randy you are wearing panties today" or no more soccer for you boy, now it is Cheerleading for you. If that was done more boys would be running to the local police or school nurses and complaining of abuse.
Things that moms need to start doing.
Wardrobe changes like slowly bleach shrink and destroy any shirts that have Male or Macho Ego themed brands . No more Nike Adidas, Vans dc shoes Osiris, and generally skater type shirts. Sneakers as well need to be made more unisex. stay away from blue and boy orientated colors. Some of our moms , love to secretly "cook' their boys expensive brand name sneaks in the microwave for a few minutes to make them fall apart when he is wearing them. so then they have a reason for buying him cheap unisex converse all star sneakers or Wall-mart or K-Mart specials.
As if it is 'his' fault for not taking care of his stuff, you will have done wonders to lower his male self esteem and ego. The cheaper and more ugly the sneakers the better. Most of our Demale Society mothers love converse because they can point out in a mall "hey look that girl has the same shoes, they look good on you too. *See how we slowly assimilate the boy to a more feminine outlook? His brand name macho shirts are replaced with more pastel and softer colors. Name brand jeans fade into sweat pants and slacks. As for video games, keep them as non violent as possible. Do not give in to sports titles, fighting games ww2 shooters. as they fan the boys violence. More girl or female orientated games like Tomb Raider, resident evil has z great girl character if you want to let him play some violent game .
Chores: you must insist your boy do and complete chores. Do not let him feel and act like a little prince.
Sports: Most boys love or try sports. While the exercise is a good thing the male bonding is a no no. They do not need strong male role models ,and macho friends if you want a real sissy boy to blossom. Try again "secret' destruction ' maneuvers. If you have a macho skater boy, mess up his skate board, so it falls apart, and looks like he abused it. Baseball gloves go missing, bats break, football equipment dry rots or shrinks.. and can all be made to seem like it is HIS fault.
And when he is bad ground him from sports. Do not let him play if he is bad. But if you have an over sported brat and you want him to become a sissy cheerleader.. you must get him started on male hormone blockers and female hormones.. as young as 9, is ok as the female hormones will stunt his growth and make him more lady like in appearance, and the male hormone blockers will not allow his muscles to get strong like other boys , make him slower and more calm and eventually quit sports, which at that point, you suggest more lady like activities. We use a vitamin replacement trick, putting androcour in a vitamin b12 bottle and female hormones in a vitamin c bottle. They work wonders.
If any moms need dosage help or instructions , our resident friend and feminist leader Dr Lucy will help you. The results of a boy taking this special formula is what more moms need to do and try it is a must. Feminized Men Make the Best Husbands! Women that Take Control of their Relationships with Men and Boys, and Encourage Male Femininity are the Pioneers of the Future!"
So If you have any advice that wasn't mentioned in the article above or about anything that you might think would not work that was mentioned above, or if whether this could even work or not, or if this would even be healthy for him, or a good idea or not, I would be interested in your advice or feedback.
Yours is one of the strangest emails I've ever received. It reads a bit like a science fiction story or a movie. It would be illegal to give a boy child hormones so he could become a girl unless he insisted he was a girl. This happens when a boy or girl believes they belong to the opposite gender and they become Transsexuals. That said, I do believe how most mother raise their sons as Little Princes waiting on them hand and foot creates a lot of unnecessary macho men.
Maybe you'll get lucky and give birth to a gay son. However, no hormones for him unless he requests a sex change. Otherwise with you approach, he might turn out to be a bigger monster or a man who hates women and makes them all suffer for it. Treating him as a Mother's boy in your actions might work but forget all that destructive crap of damaging his toys. Many liberated moms today do not color code clothes and buy gender neutral toys. Just love him and let him develop naturally while giving him a lot of affection. I repeat no hormones unless he wants to become the opposite sex.