I have been sexually active for about 2 years now. I've been with the same man for a little over a year. We have great sex but I never get an orgasm. My legs tremble and it gets so intense that I HAVE to make him stop. He tells me to relax and let it go, but I can't. However, when I masturbate, I can only orgasm by rubbing myself on a pillow or something that vibrates. I get nothing by using my fingers. When I use a dildo or during sex, it feels great. I know we're hitting my g-spot but nothing happens. I just get a good feeling from it. What should we do? What will send me over the edge?
Thanks so much!
Another perfect example of a young woman leaving her orgasm up to the young man she's having sex with. While he cares and is doing his best, his primary sex ed has most likely been porn. Also you are the perfect example of how the G spot has returned women's orgasms back into vaginal stimulation. Women cleared up that misconception back in the 70's but it's back in spades along with all the other attacks on women's rights thanks to our backward government.
Your clitoris is your primary sex organ for pleasure and orgasms. Vaginal penetration or G simulation is a secondary form of arousal for the largest number of women. Now you get to discover your own orgasm by masturbating. Once you take control of your clitoris, you can share that information with your boyfriend. Male sexuality operates quite differently than ours. For us, it's never about relaxing or letting go, it's much more about a commitment to use everything we've got to come! Read the essays I've included to educate yourself about female sexuality.