My partner and I have some amazing sex, but she orgasms very quickly. It's very passionate and arousing for the both of us, but after she comes, she eagerly asks if I came as well. At first, I was honest and told her no. This seemed to really upset her and she felt she was inadequate in bed. After a while, I just started saying that I did orgasm just so she would feel better about herself.
Because of this, I haven't orgasmed with her in months. My partner is satisfied but I wait until she falls asleep to masturbate and orgasm. If we do spend time on getting me to orgasm, she gets frustrated, so I fake it to end it quickly. My question is this: how can I tell my partner that I am unsatisfied in bed without hurting her feelings or lowering her morale?
My Dear Woman, you have just fallen into the standard snake pit of pleasing your partner by sacrificing your own pleasure. I usually hear this from heterosexual women discussing the same problem. They think they are taking too long and to protect her lover's ego, they fake an orgasm.
Come clean with her and the sooner the better. While we all know honestly can be difficult it's much better than what you are going through now. You both need to grow up and understand different women have different timing for their orgasms. If she can't handle the truth then it would be better to move along than to suffer your current situation any longer.