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I Have No Sensation in My Vagina

Sat, 05/05/2012 - 09:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey Dr. Betty!

I have an uncooperative vagina. My clitoris and I get along really really well but my vagina and I? Not so much. For much of my teens I had vaginismus that prevented me from wanting any sort of penetration during masturbation sessions. There was no partner-sex. Now that I'm in my early twenties I have wanted to expand my routine a little and include penetration. So far most of my issues with vaginismus have disappeared, but I now have next to no sensation in my vagina.

I'm not trying to necessarily reach a vaginal orgasm (my clitoral orgasms keep me happy)or female ejaculation or anything to that degree, but for the sake of partner-sex I would just like to feel a little bit of pleasure from being penetrated! So far I have tried clit stim while gently penetrating myself with a dildo. If I go too deep into my vagina it feels straight up uncomfortable. I have also tried just holding the dildo in my vagina while squeezing the vaginal walls on and off and stimulating my clit. Heck, I've tried it without clit stim and still, NO FEELING! What the heck? What is going on here? I am getting the same ammount of pleasure from sticking something in my mouth or ear. The fullness is there, but sexual stimulation? Nope!!!

J

Dear J,

The vagina is the birth canal and other than at the entrance, it offers very little sensation that is sexual other than the fullness you experience. You are a victim of mis-informatin with all the crap going on about the magical mysterious G spot which is pressing up into the ceiling of the vagina into the urinary tract that is surrounded with erectile tissue that is part of the internal clitoris.

In a sense your concern is a continuation of the ancient idea of vaginal orgasms which many men still would prefer. Our clits are mysterious small and powerful little penises and many guys fear competition. So relax. There is nothing wrong with your vagina except your expectations. During sex with a partner, simply add clitoral stimulation at the same time. Otherwise you're doing fine.

Dr. Betty

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sensations in vagina

Sat, 05/05/2012 - 21:49
dancinggrannie (not verified)

I agree with Betty that the clitoris is the main part of your sexual feelings but i also think that with time as you explore your vagina more you'll start feeling more sensations. I think it is just more subtle. The best feeling to me is to combine both. When you do that, than the "full" feeling definitely becomes sexual. And for some of us there are definitely interesting areas in the vagina. When i was young, it wasn't called G-spot but that's probably what it is. Just relax, don't worry and it'll happen.

If I am reading your post

Sun, 05/06/2012 - 10:35
Collette

If I am reading your post correctly, you have tried penetrating your vagina while masturbating, but have not yet tried penetrative sex with a man. I would advise you to not worry about it and just see what happens if and when you do. To me, there is no feeling as wonderful as my lover inside my vagina. Granted, I don't always come from it. Clitoral stimulation is more reliable for that. But it feels divine nonetheless. I like to use a dildo in my vagina while using a vibrator on my clit because my vagina seems to like to have something to grab onto. But other than the sensitivity at the entrance that Betty describes, there's not much to it.

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