Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I am fascinated and hugely turned on by women with big clits and large labia.
However, my wife isn't one of those, and my fascination doesn't matter, because everything else about her is perfect enough for me.

Unfortunately, we can't make a person who has exactly, to the letter, all the attributes that we desire in fantasy.

I don't have any idea how many men there are out there who are hung like a horse, but I would hazard to guess there are as many who aren't. One of my favorite on-liners goes something like this.....

"It isn't the length of the wand which matters so much as the magic that lies within it". I've never fucked a woman who wanted a man hung like a horse, and I've had sex with  thirty-three women in my life.

I wonder how much the influence of pornography has colored the feelings and expectations of men and women, to the extent that it has shaped how we view our own sexuality.

To the extent that what we see are men who are horse-hung, and picture-perfect females.  Neither of which necessarily represent reality.

Reality being, that there are hung men and flawless women, but conversely, there are just as many of us who will never fit the criteria of prototypical porn stars.

I am a man who was not blessed with impressive penile endowment.  (See subject line for my phrase for it).

However, I know how to use what I've got, and judging by the amount of screaming my wife lets loose with while we are gettin' busy, I think I must be using it pretty well.
I would say, that if a potential partner is right in every other area, then make it work. 

If that can't be, keep looking and discarding and you will probably find the cock of your dreams out there somewhere.  

I would  personally be more than a little upset if a woman dumped me; a nice  gentle, and  considerate man, for some self-centered egotistical asshole, simply because he had a monster cock.

Good luck with that............
The Border Reiver

because her boobs are average and so too small for you or her inner labia are too large. C I'd tell someone who said that what I'm teling you. Try not to be so prescriptive and try and be a bit more open minded about what can turn you on. There's lots of different kinds of hotness and whether we're androsexual or gynosexual if we focus on what we prefer too much and have very definite ideas it can blind us to all the other creative possibilities and make the search for a lover that much more difficult. 

My libido was widened by ishotmyself.com  and blogs like naked men happy women can do that for people who are androsexual too. 

I agree with Jake. I don't get this at all. Why turn
down the wonderful opportunity to have a new sexual experience with a lovely
person? So it's possible the stimulation isn't the best you could possibly have. Just because something isn't THE BEST doesn't make it not good. And what challenges you makes you find new things and grow sexually and personally. We can say we're generally

into this or that, but it's not set in stone. And isn't trying new things what
really makes life interesting? 

Anyway, if I

only opted for the best stimulation I'd never have sex with men. No woman would. There's
nothing that gives as good as the shower head. But to absolutely limit myself
to the shower head would be stupid.

I'm in total agreement with the comments about being more open-minded. My wife is blonde and fair, but my preference in partners has much more often been for women with dark hair and dark eyes. That didn't matter when I met her, because of who she is as a person. Had I ruled her out simply because of her physical characteristics, I'd have missed connecting with the person I was meant to spend my life with. And that would have been both very sad and very foolish. C's friend will be much better off with a new partner who can really appreciate him. It's not going to break his heart to lose a potential partner whose ultimate criterion was so limited. And perhaps there is something about C he would have been terribly disappointed in himself had he spent a bit more time with her. C may be doing herself a favor in ditching him, but she's doing an even bigger favor for him.

Betty is so right about how physical 'perfection' may go along with an awful personality. I went to school with a woman I'll call Diane, who joined our class as a senior. She was stunningly beautiful, dark-haired, and had all the guys mesmerised. Until, that is, they actually dated her and found that she was one of the most arrogant and unpleasant people they'd ever encountered. She quite literally went through every guy in our class, one after another, until no one would date her under any circumstances, no matter how externally gorgeous she was. In retrospect I feel sorry for her, because only a very unhappy life could have made her turn out that way. But as Betty says, lovers beware. A perfect body can conceal an absolute jerk.

Sorry. Although Betty and other commenters might be taking the high-road I'll put it bluntly: C, you're shallow. The fact that you have the nerve to ask such a question shows your sophomoric, adolescent, self-centeredness.
Look in the mirror and if you see perfection in yourself then you can ask and seek it in others.
In my opinion, dump the guy because he deserves better than a shallow person like you who would dismiss the entire package, just because of a "small package". Actually it's not even a small package. It's just not the porn star BIG package that you're looking for.
Then again maybe you have a future career as a dominatrix with a small cock humiliation website. Lots of guys are into that and would pay you for it.