Hope your well.
Please can you help me. I am 40yrs old, dating a paraplegic man aged 53. He depends on a wheelchair and his very strong arms. He is paralysed from the below the nipples down. I have searched your site for help but the stuff was not specific enough. I guess because disabilities are so variable and people have such specific needs.
I want to know how to have a fulfilling sex life with this man. I am turned on by his mind/thoughts/ideas/spirit but not his body. He has managed one partial erection in 6 months of sexplay. I am frustrated by the lack of erection. He uses an hitachi to have an ejaculation, but its so rapid, I just don't find it arousing.
I am so used to being followed around by hard cocks. I am missing the hot hard flesh. Dildo's don't do it for me. I want hard flesh and I don't know how to get it.
I'm not sure if I've painted a very good picture for you but maybe you can advise with what I have managed to say.
I always appreciate your advice!
Darling you cannot get blood from a turnip. One of the most important aspects of dealing with a differently abled person is to accept them as they are. Enjoy all the things you mentioned but forget the hard cock. What's to keep you from having an affair with some guy who can offer a hard cock while you continue your affair with the man who covers all the other aspects of a great connection? I'd say it's your social upbringing that says you can only have sex with one man at a time. Nonsense! It's your life and you can do with it what you will.
Just keep your own counsel and tell no one. Especially not your current lover who is wheel chair bound. I admire both of you greatly for finding ways to enjoy sex with each other. Just be realistic! Meanwhile I'll bet you mean the world to him.