Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I don't get why bigger is better than average in this case. Most women you'll have intimate relations with have/will have an average vagina that will stretch and lengthen to accommodate your no doubt lovely penis. And please don't forget girls like me, who can't even take the whole length of the Tantus Acute (it's 6" but you have to subtract at least two for the base and the huge chunk that just doesn't fit inside me, no matter how aroused I am). We want to get fucked with abandon and for you to thrust without worrying about a bruised cervix.

If you get regular erections every day the regular pressure means a penis tends to get very slightly bigger and wider over the years. Having a nice erection is a good feeling and having a massive cock is a good fantasy but in reality it's as desirable as putting too much spice or salt on someone elses  food or asking them to eat chocolate all day. It's too much.

Yes, we don't want every dick to be monserous.

I remember a series of forum posts where penis size was discussed among twenty-something women. Most of the women actually didn't care for huge penises. One said that she would rather have a lover with a 5" cock than a 10" cock, because she wanted to be comfortable during sex, and a huge cock just wasn't very comfortable. Another point some of the respondents made was that hugely endowed men aren't necessarily good lovers---they may tend to be selfish, very impressed with themselves, and think that the only thing they need to know about pleasing a woman is banging away with their oversized cocks. So please take heed from the many women for whom average is just fine, and who value other things in a lover besides size.

The best lover I've ever had certainly was NOT the largest! And it has been my experience with these overly-endowed lovers that finesse and technique go out the window, and they're mode of fucking is usually like getting a battering ram to the cervix. If you're not confident with your penis or perhaps not as skilled with coitus, work on being a better lover with your hands! You can make up for an average or small penis with dextrous fingers and the ability to listen and take direction.

"It's a good thing they don't have a way to add penis implants like
women's boobs or far too many men would be walking around with a big
hunk of meat strapped to their leg."

- Actually that's exactly how the stars have 10 inch penises. These are not natural at all, it's a shame men don't know about this, they watch a porno and then feel bad about themselves not knowing that the porn star penis is fake, just like his co-strars boobs.

Most of the men I've been with have been average. 5-7" works well for me.

I do agree with you when it comes to girth, but not all women would agree. Just remember Dear Steven88, even a finger feels good when used for maximum pleasure inside a woman's vagina while you are tonguing her clitoris. Men need to realize that very few women can orgasm with a big, little thick or short fat cock thrusting inside her vagina. A well used muscular tongue easily comes in first for many of us.

Steve, I'm sorry you feel inadequate. Though it may matter to some, it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or that it makes you less interesting. Please don't try to change your penis, just love it for what it is. 

And, your penis is there not for her but for YOU. Our bodies are our own and they are sacred. Any person we choose to share them with should feel nothing but priviliged.

And if they do express their opinions in an insensitive way or as a statement of fact like "it's too small", you need to throw them out. Do that as a service to yourself, to tell yourself that you deserve better.

Love diversity!

Steven, personally I think people who take pains to point out what
they don't care for in a partner's body are less than kind. I know it
would hurt to hear such a thing, but someone who cares about you
wouldn't make you feel bad in this way, and (easy for me to say) you're
better off without them. While some women are orgasmic during
intercourse, even for those who are, intercourse probably only accounts
for a small percentage of their total orgasms. In other words, overall
satisfaction for many women doesn't seem to depend on intercourse anyway. If you keep looking, I think you can meet a woman who will value your enthusiasm and other skills in bed, and be fine with how you're built too.

I've had one, maybe 2 lovers that I had a similar complaint against but I never told them that. What's the point? It's not like it something that could be changed anyway. And one thing I've noticed since I've had children is that my vaginal muscles can clamp in one direction it seems but not so in order to acheive all around super tightness but thankfully I was never called on that either. But if it's a problem, I imagine that there are toys that can fit around the base of your penis to improve girth. A partner might decide your penis is great to try anal with (if you're interested in that, just because you're male, I won't assume that you have to stick your dick in any warm hole available) or you might find a lover who has a very tight vagina and thinks your penis is the best thing since sliced bread. Anyway, I'm kind of a bitch, and I've said some awful things to lovers and husbands throughout the years but I honestly can't recall ever calling a man out on his penis size or impotency problems (had that problem in my teens with a boyfriend in his 20's, not so much as a middle aged woman, go figure). I value enthusiasm and technique a lot and enjoy more of the male body than just his penis. I hope you hope a woman who appreciates you, you sound like a lot of fun in bed.

Betty, Patrick, Heylin, Elin...

Thanks so much for your supportive, encouraging thoughts.  I very much appreciate them... :).  I recognize that each of you is quite right in what you say.  I wish there were some way that what these women have said to me could be "unsaid," as their words have a way of sticking in my head despite my efforts to wipe them away...  It's this whole dynamic that inspired me to post photos in the gallery here under "Love-Hate."  I love women, love sex, and love intimacy, but that love doesn't always extend to myself...  Something I must work on...  Thanks again to each of you for your thoughtful comments. :)

Male packages come in different sizes. It is like a christmas present. Most take the biggest package because they think it has the better gift. but a small package can contain delicate earrings, or erotic music CD to entice having sex.
I think if a man is confident about his body, sex is truely mind blowing. It is the same for a woman. Men like woman that is confident with the body because they have a sensual ora about them. They don't have to doctor them. Yes I have my flaws but my quailties shine brighter. And those are the high points I make sure a man pay attention to. 
*Blushing* I used to be very sub-consicence about my small breast that I would always cross my arms. My first husband would make fun of them. I wanted to breast feed but he said that it would be hard for the baby to find them. Then my second husband broke my habit of that real quick. He asked me to breast feed and he would sit there and watch me. He would even help I would be so tired that he would hold the baby so that I could sleep and still feed the baby. After that I never had small breast. I had sexy nipples. LOL
Size does not matter it is how it is used and the bod behind it. Plus I want to enjoy a mans company, not that he has to stand 2 blocks away to have sex, and also just think if it is so big that you do not get that comfy cozy warm feeling all at once.

Male packages come in different sizes. It is like a Christmas present.
Most take the biggest package because they think it has the better gift, but a small package can contain delicate earrings, or erotic music CD to entice having sex. I think if a man is confident about his body, sex is truly mind blowing. It is the same for a woman. Men like woman that is confident with the body because they have a sensual aura about them. Yes I have my flaws but my qualities shine brighter. And those are the high points I make sure a man pay attention to them. 
*Blushing* I used to be very sub-conscience about my small breast that I would always cross my arms. My first husband would make fun of them. I wanted to breast feed but he said that
it would be hard for the baby to find them. Then my second husband broke my habit of that real quick. He asked me to breast feed and he would sit there and watch me. He would even help I would be so tired that he would hold the baby so that I could sleep and still feed the
baby. After that I never had small breast. I had sexy nipples. LOL
Size does not matter it is how it is used and the bod behind it. Plus I want to enjoy a mans company, not that he has to stand 2 blocks away to have sex, and also just think if it is so big that you do not get that comfy cozy warm feeling all at once.

That's good to hear. I'm 4.5 inches max, and all I've ever heard is that bigger is better. People don't seem to care that there are guys who are small.

We've discovered that the word "penis" was originally derived from two root words "pee" and "knees". When ancient humans started talking, one of the women saw a man standing erect peeing in the wind. The wind blew the pee onto his knees. Once done, he started to head towards a group of the women for sex.
The woman who saw him pee started shouting "pee knees! pee knee! to warn the others. Eventually the two words evolved into the modern word "penis" which is still used today. And that is the truth. The moral of the story... be careful when hangin with men who wear shorts.