Will a Guy Have Trouble Staying Inside Me during Sex?

Mon, 10/03/2011 - 16:29
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr Betty!,

Here I go with another question for you. This one is about vaginal tightness. I have noticed when I use a bigger toy, it doesn't stay in. It's like my vagina pushes it out. This gets annoying when I want that full feeling when I orgasm, but always have to keep pushing it back in. Will this be an issue in a partner sex situation? Will I push him out of me? Or will I be so tight that it's uncomfortable for him? (I'm not being overly concerned with 'him', I already know full well that it's not going to be absolutely comfortable for me.) I also have another question about a subject I know you loathe!

The mythical hymen! I have noticed that there seems to be a band of tissue at the bottom of my vaginal opening. When I use a large toy, it stretches and stings. I menstruate and am able to use tampons without a problem. Will this tissue pose problems when I'm finally with a man? Would it be possible, if I sent a photo, to get your opinion? (I hope that wasn't an inappropriate request, if it was, my apologies.) Thank you so much for all your answers and help. You don't know how much I appreciate it. You and Carlin are pretty much the only women I can ask about sexual issues, so you have no idea how much I value your advice.

Best Regards,

PS: When I do finally have partner sex, lol, you'll be the first to know! Hopefully it will be very soon.

Dear M,

When using a dildo they all get pushed out unless anchored by your hand or some one holding it. With a partner, he can push back and keep his dick in place. Yes, send a photo and I'll look at what you are talking about. Meanwhile stay more in the moment instead of thinking about future possible problems. Continue to enjoy your own orgasms and your body will know how to respond when you have sex with a partner.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time