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Should I Have My Prostate Checked After 50?

Mon, 10/03/2011 - 16:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Thank you for your reply! I am very glad your internet page is there! After weeks of surfing the internet I find your approach is the only serious one and there is going beyond what can be found in books (!). - I am loosing a lot of energy when ejaculating. I can feel it for days. It puts me in bad mood. I find that some ejaculate too much. One can see it. They look old with 35. I find rapid ejaculating without listening to the body is a form of violence on ones own body. I find pleasuring without wanting anything but being with what can be sensed, can be a tremendous experience.

The slow start is like a key of opening up to stronger sensations. I discovered that after meditation pleasuring works particularly well. Without ejaculating I go through most of the sensations one has when having a quick orgasm with ejaculating. After hours of pleasuring (without ejaculating) the testicles feel like they do after ejaculation. After years of pleasuring the sensations on the penis are stronger and are not only concentrated around the penis but spread to areas nearby and the whole body. Pleasuring/ masturbating without ejaculating has an effect on the brain, mostly the right side. There is higher sensitivity and one is less disturbed, better focused and there is a wider range of perception.

I was most excited about one of the discussions on your page about masturbating with a friend side by side without touching the other but sharing the sensations. For me this is like a dream! It could solve many problems we have with sex, I thought. - I have seen the statistics which say ejaculating is good to reduce prostate cancer. The statistics, however, does not tell whether those who did not ejaculate often did pleasure themselfs often or not. I would say once the prostate is active and is stimulated regularly this will not increase the likelyhood for getting prostate cancer. But some say the ejaculating gets some of the substances out which might cause cancer. Would you recommend regular blood tests after 50 to check whether the prostate is doing fine?

regards,

W

Dear W,

I see you have given withholding ejaculations a lot of thought. What you say I have heard other men say similar things. I totally support your following statement: "I find pleasuring without wanting anything but being with what can be sensed, can be a tremendous experience." I do agree with you.

As for getting medically checked out, that's fine. Just don't let the doctor talk you into taking some worthless med unless absolutely necessary. In those cases I'd get a second opinion. Sounds to me like you are taking very good care of yourself. Carry on.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Radical Prostatectomy

Walter's picture
Thu, 02/07/2013 - 08:03
Walter

In 2004, I had a PSA (Prostate Specific Antigen) test as part
of my general physical.  Because it showed a significant increase over the previous year, I was referred to a urologist for a biopsy.  He went into my
rectum and sampled the prostate through the intestine wall.  For a few days after the procedure my urine contained blood but had stopped within a week.  The results showed the presence of an aggressive form of cancer.  My wife and I
decided the best option was to totally remove the prostate.

 

A month later I underwent the prostatectomy operation and recovered rather quickly.  After two or three months, I was able to get my first erection, without any drugs.  As time passed, I returned to masturbating, the erections became firmer and I was able to reach enjoyable orgasms that did require a good deal of manual stimulation.

 

Over the years, I’ve used porn for stimulation; however, I’ve gotten tired of it.  What works these days is remembering the sexual encounters of years gone by.  For example: Going down on “B” after receiving a great blow-job from her; or ‘C’ ridding me like a cowgirl.  My erections are still good and hard and many
of the orgasms are more wide spread over my body whereas before they were just
in the penis.  Sometimes I’ll lose the erection before reaching a climax but I’m still satisfied with the feeling of rubbing myself.  Note that without the
prostate, there is no ejaculate; however, the Cowper’s gland still produces
pre-ejaculate fluid when I’m really turned on.

 

I plan to posted picture showing the scar running from just below my navel to the pubic bone and others that show my erect state in Betty’s Genital Art Gallery.  I don’t stick out as straight as I did before, but that doesn’t bother me.

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