Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I am 23, I've been masturbating since childhood, and always thought I never had an orgasm, but after reading some of the stories on the page i realized I might be having them because I can feel contractions in my vagina but I dont feel anything with them.

I feel the building up sensation, get really tense and then when the tension realeases I don't feel anything, I actually prefer the build up sensation than the release, are those orgasms? If so what can I do to feel them? I know I shouldn't idealize it and expect a big explosion or something like that but I'd like to feel a little something at least.

Thanks!
M

Dear M,

Like they say, "Getting there is half of the fun." In your case it seems to be the most fun. This is a problem for your generation that has grown up with porn as sex education. Your expectations of what to feel in orgasm is not in line with what is happening to your body. Keep reading the website and experimenting and homing your masturbation skills. Get out of your head and focus on what your body is feeling. The vaginal contractions do not happen for all women at orgasm but since you get them, that's a pretty good sign that you are coming. Slow down. Consider using your spell checker or taking the time to read your email that is full of mistakes. It indicated to me that you are rushing way too fast to get where?

Dr. Betty