Can the Way I Masturbate be Translated into Partner Sex?

Mon, 09/19/2011 - 12:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

First I just want to thank you for all of the help you give women every day. I felt genuinely relieved after coming across this website.  So I have been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now we have sex often but the only problem is I have yet to get an orgasm. He goes down on me and uses his fingers almost every time which feels great but nothing ever happens. Not only am I frustrated with myself for not having gotten one yet but I also feel bad for my boyfriend who tries too hard each time. I masturbate on my belly using both hands to stimulate myself I never penetrate but I can give myself an orgasm. Is the way that I masturbate not able to translate to sex? If so, how do I change this habit? I have tried and nothing seems to do the trick.

Thanks,
M

Dear M,

Go back onto the website and read "Updating Your Masturbation Technique." Yes it's time for you to practice what I describe in "How to Orgasm." Spend some time taking advantage of what is already posted. And tell your boyfriend he's making it more difficult for you to come with his need to make you come. There's also an essay on "How Can I Make My Girlfriend Come?" It's your orgasm not his. Take control and also read my book, *Orgasms for Two.*

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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