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My Labia are Longer & Darker Than Most

Mon, 07/25/2011 - 15:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr Betty,

I am 16 years old and since I was twelve I've been really self conscious about the length of my labia. They are really long and darker then most. I'm really scarred when I have sex with my boyfriend because he hesitates to eat me out. I was showering at my friends once and she looked at it and said eww what are those? I don't know what to do.

Dear H,

Just know that you are in the majority of women who have extended inner lips. And that many people prefer what you have to what porn shows which has created this false preference. . .the clam shell. You have a vulva style that has the petals of a flower. Celebrate your beautiful vulva flower. Read what we have posted on inner labia by checking the left hand list of topics on our front page.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Celebrate yourself

Mon, 07/25/2011 - 20:29
Heylin

Don't even think about getting labiaplasty! I had asked my GYN about something and he mentioned that I have "prominent labia". I thought to myself, "Damn skippy I do, and those lovelies are prominent pleasure petals!" A lot of men are hesitant about going down, either because they're afraid of doing it wrong, or they're worried about a possible odor. Since you're only 16 and you're on this wonderful website, do your research on here and learn things I wished I had learned at that age.

If he hesitates to eat you

Tue, 07/26/2011 - 00:44
AmandaJ (not verified)

If he hesitates to eat you out dump him and find someone that will beg you to let him! I had the same worry, my inner labia are longer than my outer ones, and I was so insecure I wouldn't let my boyfriend go down on me. But I finally let him and he LOVES them. He sees nothing wrong with them and he loves going down on me and just getting close and personal with my labia! You deserve someone who loves your lady bits no matter what they look like because they're yours! 

The grass isn't greener on the other side!

Wed, 07/27/2011 - 15:41
Courtney (not verified)

I'm one of those people who was born with the porn-accepted style of labia (very small). When I saw the beautiful varieties of labia, I was so jealous!!! I personally wish I had more going on down there, but this is what I was born with and I am happy with it :) Don't even think about getting labiaplasty or you'll make my cunt cry. lmao
 

I may not look how you expect me to look, but that's ME!

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Tue, 08/02/2011 - 23:18
Joelface

The way our genitals look are so unique... we should celebrate their differences the way we do with snowflakes and fingerprints.
Learn to embrace your lips.... almost everyone goes through a period of doubt and worry about their genital shape - even guys! Trust me, many are so worried about the shape or length or girth of their penis.. but don't you think it would be better if people could just be happy with how they are?

You have to be a part of that change.. a part of the movement of us who say.. I may not look "normal" or how you "expect" me to look down there... but that's ME.. and I am SO happy to be the way I am!
And.. don't settle for someone who doesn't appreciate you for that. You can do SO MUCH better than that.

Hi AmandaJ Quote:I was so

Wed, 09/21/2011 - 16:37
RyanT (not verified)

Hi AmandaJ

Quote:
I was so insecure I wouldn't let my boyfriend go down on me. But I finally let him and he LOVES them.
    I feel the same way about my wife's gorgeously long and full labia. Love them! Not too long ago I actually hurt my neck during some vigorous cunnilingus. Was worth it, though. ;)

How to broach this subject early in a relationship?

Sun, 11/27/2011 - 22:27
newsense (not verified)

Thanks for this post! It made me feel better.

This thanksgiving I got rejected by my girl friend for having longer labia. She freaked out and broke up with me. We were friends for almost a year and then started falling in love with eachother... I am shocked and heart broken.

I am wondering how can one bring up this subject without getting too far into the relationship and without getting too vulnerable. I wouldn't want to get rejected after getting so invested in the other person! It takes an emotional toll to dump or get rejected for this reason! Suggestions?

Thanks in advance!

If someone is going to dump

Sun, 02/05/2012 - 02:20
Mercy (not verified)

If someone is going to dump you because of your labia size, you are much better off without them. It's your body! Not something that you should have to "bring up".

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