Dear Dr. Betty,
You wonderful woman you, the knowledge and acceptance you share on your website has already helped my sex life and body image in more ways than I can count and now I have a question for you.
How can I make girl on top positions more comfortable? I'm more than aware of its popularity with men and women and I as a seemingly decently fit woman am terrible at it. I do tons of yoga and yet my hips just don't seem to want to make it work and when I move to something more akin to squatting I'm then dealing with lots of pain in my quadriceps. This leads to me putting my hands above his shoulders and leaning forward, the most comfortable position for me but then we risk him slipping out or worse, the miss thrust.
Ultimately, this leads to a reasonable amount of anxiety over a position that seems to be everyone's favorite, except me. Any advice?
Cowgirl (woman on top) was always one of my favorites. It's when I could "Run the fuck" which most of my boyfriends appreciated. When you feel the need to lean forward, place your hands on his chest. That way you don't get such an extreme angle. I also used to brace myself by putting my hands on my thighs for easy thrusting. Instead of pulling all the way out by going up and down, consider smaller movement more like grinding down on him and making small circles. Also you can try reverse Cow Girl by facing the other direction.
As for the squatting, forget it. Most of us can't handle that position long enough to enjoy it unless you're some kind of athlete. At times you can actually lay down on top of him and rest your upper body on your elbows. Thanks for asking and for taking advantage of my information.