Do Men Like a Completely Shaved Vulva?

Thu, 06/02/2011 - 12:43
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I was curious, do you think that men like it shaved? My boyfriend just likes me to please him in whatever way and the previous relationships I have had all told me that they like my pussy clean and shaven. Why is it that they like it shaved and should I do the same for my current boyfriend? It's a little embarrassing to let him see me with hair.

PLEASE HELP!

~J

Dear J,

I think as women we have to ask why we knock ourselves out to please men? What do you want, shaved or trimmed or a full bush? After all it's you sex organ not his! He's lucky to get to play with it when you're in the mood.

Your generation of boys has grown up watching porn and the industry standard has created a stereotype for women. The porn of the sixties and seventies was far more eclectic but today it's plastic surgery city. Lots of blonde hair, nose jobs, breast implants, blow job lips and shaved pussies to name a few alterations. Just so you know, I'm beginning to see women with trimmed pubic hair and I prefer that look by far. It's your vulva just like it's your head. It's really up to you as to how you chose to wear your hair and how you style your vulva.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Thu, 06/02/2011 - 15:56

Its also helpful to remember that men are not just one category - there are men who like shaved and men who like bushy and men who like underarm hair and men who like the whole range. Some statistics might indicate just how wide the range can be, as with all things sexual.

...the hair down there.....

Thu, 06/02/2011 - 19:43
marki (not verified)

Whether to shave or not to shave is and well should be up to the owner of the patch. Be it underarm, legs or vulva...it should be up to HER if it is short, long, landing strip, waxed clean and smooth or bushy as The Jackson Five's afros in 1970!
I agree with Betty....why should YOU do anything to YOUR body just to please HIM? I am a man.....and my wife asked if I liked it shaved or hairy and my answer was 'it's yours....do with it as you see fit....just share it with me and we will be fine'.
She has tried it bushy, shaved, trimmed and everything in between....after that she just decided to let it go I don't care what style it is as long as she shares it with me! I love her....not her pubic hairstyle. If he loves you for YOU he won't care what it looks like as long as the pleasure is mutual. If it becomes a bone of contention then get rid of HIM....he didn't deserve you.

Just my two cents........

marki

'Manscaped' is preferable for me

Marias Chaos's picture
Fri, 06/03/2011 - 10:23

I agree with the above comments.

But to clarify, I like my man trimmed. Not shaved but groomed. And it will effect how much oral he receives. One of the first things I think about when I see a nice cock, is having it in my mouth. I perform oral because I LOVE TO. Some men are naturally hairier than others and I have noticed that I enjoy licking and sucking a 'manscaped' cock a lot more..or a man who is not as hairy in the first place. I will naturally spend more time and enjoy performing oral more when I don't have a bunch of pubic hair stuck in my teeth or in the back of my throat. Realistically, it just ruins the continuity and the mood.

MY ADVICE: Explore what you like! Try different things. FOR YOU. And if you want to consider your partner's preference, I think that is kind and considerate.

MY PREFERENCE: FOR >>>ME!
I like my pussy waxed.

The first couple of days after a waxing I get extra horny and excited. I get wet just walking around. My pussy is more sensitive and responsive to anything brushing past the lips when it is bare and hairless. Shaving doesn't even compare. FOR SEX AND THE SAKE OF PLEASURE I LOVE BEING WAXED!!!

In fact it is time for me to get a wax done and I have less enjoyed masturbation lately because I have let it get longer than I normally do. --I am getting antsy sitting here writing this..I think I need to go get waxed tonight! lol

TO NOTE: I dont prefer the look..My fave pussy VISUALLY has to be CARLIN'S. OMGAWD hers is so beautiful!

hmmmm

Fri, 06/03/2011 - 10:52

Here's something....
I love hair on women, I think natural is beautiful, I also really appreciate when a woman wants to remove her hair for her own reasons, or even to give our lovemaking a little variety or texture or a different sensation, ultimately it's up to her.
We seem to be obssessed with female body hair, and we rarely discuss male body hair. I am a hairy man and growing up i was constantly being teased and made fun of for having this stuff growing out of my body by both men and women. In many cases I found women to be very cruel and just plain insensitive towards me. And still are in many cases. I appreciate that there is a great deal of negative social conditioning that we need to be perfect and you rarely ever see hairy men in the mainstream unless they are being made fun of and people seem to want a slim perfect hairless body, but that's not me, and it's not ever going to be me. So where do people like me fit in? Where are the mature intelligent discussions about the hirsute male? we talk at great length about how women have to deal with negative stereotyping, barbie'ism etc, but believe me, women can be just as cruel, if not more so to men....Where are the women who actually like to see some hair on a man and accept them as beautiful, wonderful amazing people? Where are the images of men with hair showing natural beauty? Now thankfully i have had the amazing fortune to have met some of these women with whom I have shared the most amazing experiences, including my current partner who is incredible at teasing me and using my hair as an added sensorial experience on my body both for herself and me. I will say that having hair on one's body can be incredibly sensual, just the wind blowing through the thickness of my chest hair is enough to turn me on sometimes. And using a hairbrush lightly over my body sends me into ecstatic sensory oblivion...hmmmm
But I digress... can we have a discussion about men and their hair, rather than focussing on women all the time.....
love
Ravi!

I LOVE CHEST HAIR!

Marias Chaos's picture
Fri, 06/03/2011 - 11:51

Indeed Ravi, you are so right. It is too bad society can be so negative and cruel about what is natural.

Perhaps D&R needs a "male" section.

My ex husband of over 13 yrs was a hairy man, he was sooo self conscious. He is a beautiful man with a wonderful body, and in particular he has an incredible back, but covered in hair. I loved his hairy chest! It didn't bother me he had back hair, but it sure bothered him and for good reason, society is not kind to the hairy male. At least not American society. I would have to remove his back hair with creams before any public swimming event was going to occur.

I love all types of men, but I have to say..nothing worse than a man who SHAVES his chest! I don't like whisker burn. I dont like licking short sharp hairs. I want to rub all parts of me all over all parts of him! Shaving makes that difficult.

So IF someone needs to remove hair I really don't recommend shaving bare. Yes to trimming,waxing,creams etc.

It is too bad society can be so negative and cruel about what is natural.

And now I want to find a hairy man and brush his body...that sounds sooo hot! Great tip..thanks!

Shaved Vulva

Sat, 06/04/2011 - 09:15
soapberryusa (not verified)

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"He's lucky to get to play with it when you're in the mood."
This statement by a sex educator is deplorable.  This attitude creates friction and resentment toward women from men.  Essentially that is exploiting men.  If Betty were any kind of a psychologist she would know that is unprofessional.  Another one of her lame-ass statements: "We have the pussy and everybody wants it." Men that fall victim to such ill-conceived attitudes from women are supplicants better known as pussy whipped.  If men had the balls to cut off sex from women who do you think will fall first?  But men do not have the self-control.  They are all ball-less bell-curve Bobs. And I thought this was a cool site. Noblesse oblige? Not here!

I can only speak for myself...

Sat, 06/04/2011 - 11:33

... but I like pubic hair on women! It just looks womanly and feminine to me. I'm not talking about a wild, unkempt bush, but a reasonably well manicured, in control, but generous triangle of fur down there. When I first got together with my wife she was in the habit of shaving completely, but ever since she's always made sure to have at least a nice little patch of hair on her pubic region, but shaves the area below completely. That way we both end up happy.

Bacteria

Sat, 06/04/2011 - 19:12
soapberryusa (not verified)

Hair is a bacteria trap!  Even on a man face.  Really now who would want to have oral sex and deal with hair in the mouth or kiss someone with a beard.  "What fools these mortals be."

I wouldn't worry too much about hair

Sat, 06/04/2011 - 20:15

Soap and water should get rid of the nasty bacteria. My husband has a beard and I haven't come down with any skin infections. Worry about dirty hands more than hair. It's personal preference and nothing important in the grand scheme of things. 

Totally Smooth For Years

Miss Moonlight's picture
Sun, 06/05/2011 - 00:41

I wet shave as part of my shower routine using hair conditioner.  I have been smooth for years; in fact some past lovers have not liked it!  For me it feels cleaner and I think it increases sensitvity but I do this for me and me alone, not others!

Fools, indeed...

Mon, 06/06/2011 - 00:58
Liz Caitlin (not verified)

Plenty of women like kissing a man with a beard, myself included. And somehow humans survived through all of that nasty bacteria-laden pubic hair you speak so disgustedly of for hundreds of thousands of years...

Do what you want!

Thu, 06/09/2011 - 08:47

Fisrt of all ,it should not be about what he wants. This is your body and your hair. Do what you want. I've had my pussy completely shaved for boyfriends in the past and realized I'm doing all of this extra shaving for them, what are they doing for me? I grew my bush out again and have been more natural ever since with the exception of the bikini trim. I've engaged in sex with both men and women and I can tell you that I love giving oral sex to ladies with a bush more than shaved ladies. again, my personal preference! I've had guys and gals both act completely surprised when they see my thick triangle between my legs, but all said they loved it and I look like a "Woman" not a little girl. To me the bush is the framework around my labia and clit. It is art in the truest form. It adds yet another level of excitment to guys and girls I have relationships with because once they see me naked, they still doen't see "Everything" The bush hides my labia and clit somewhat, so in order for them to see my most intimate parts, they need to be down close which usually means yummy treats for me! The Porn industry should not dictate what you do with your body. Enjoy life and stop worrying about such trivial things.

Hair

Thu, 06/09/2011 - 19:27
soapberryusa (not verified)

You are really working it with that hair thing, aren't you?  Don't you think that people on this website are really trifled up?

full body hair removal?

Marias Chaos's picture
Thu, 06/09/2011 - 22:16

So you shave the top of your head and your whole body?...blasted hairs! lol

Hair

Fri, 06/10/2011 - 09:00
soapberryusa (not verified)

[= 9.5pt; color: black; font-family: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA]The only hair that really looks good is on your head. Pubic hair looks dreadful if it doesn't have the perfect pattern, thickness and direction of flow.  You should know this it is basic stuff.  As you languish in your insouciance.[/]

Shaved or not

Tue, 06/14/2011 - 13:54
Dennis Stevens (not verified)

I have learned much from the women in my life. To wit:
Two marriages and many women later, my partners all seem to have similar tastes when it comes to sex play. I have shaved since I was 25 because of my first wife, who loved giving head and disliked pubic hair in her teeth. For the past 40 years, my testicles, penis and surrounding topography are kept bare. She still keeps her vulva 100% bare. We learned how arousing and stimulating sexual play without hairs is.
My second wife never had shaved. When she first saw me nude, it took her a few seconds to start fondling and sucking me. It was her first time sucking a cock. That same day, she asked me to shave her vulva. I still shave her a couple times a month. She keeps it maintained daily.
So what's it all mean? Do as you wish. And, please,  no garbage about shaving men and women liking the little boy girl look. There's nothing about an adult man and woman looking like a child without pubic hair.

Pubic hair

Tue, 06/14/2011 - 17:53
soapberryusa (not verified)

Almost 30 years ago when I first started watching porn on video tape it was pretty exciting to see porn at all.  Virually all had hair which I didn't think much about.  Today almost all porn will have shaved pubic hair and the difference is amazing.  I sometimes watch old porn and it is  tough to watch while seeing all that unkempt hair. Very few women can have really cool pubic hair. Mostly it is so distracting and funky looking.  It does look nasty whether it is or not.  Hair in your mouth is not a good thing. I know all the hard case militants will raise hell about my opinion.   But what can you do.

I LOVE BUSH

Wed, 06/29/2011 - 21:08
SEB (not verified)

period

Hair, it's yours.

Thu, 06/30/2011 - 03:04
Scandinavian (not verified)

As a young man, I am way more turned on by a woman with a "bush" of sorts. A trim, for me, is a lot better than a full shave. I can understand the actual practicality of shaving (bikinis etc.) but I don't get the full shave.
In my opinion it's their own decision, not their boyfriend's or girlfriend's decision, yours. If they leave you for it, I think they didn't like you that much to begin with.

My Condolences

Thu, 06/30/2011 - 08:08
soapberryusa (not verified)

It is ok for the litttle people to have a lack of visionary wisdom

Well......

Tue, 05/13/2014 - 21:40
kkayt (not verified)

All women aren't like that Ravi. I consider a "bare" man, or a hairless guy to be MUCH less manly than one with hair. Bring it on! I like his genital hair to be trimmed but, chest, arms, legs?? Love it hairy. And love stache's and beards too. Those people that teased you? They're nuts. I hope time's healed your wounds and you are proud of yourself as you are. 

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