I Can Only Masturbate to Orgasm Face Down on My Stomach

Sun, 05/08/2011 - 13:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Dodson~

My name is M and I am 18 years old. I have been doing-it-myself for about 2 years now. I started off merely humping my bed, and a few months ago I started to apply my hand to my clit, which took a little bit of practice, but overall it wasn't too difficult.

My problem is that I can only masturbate face-down, on my stomach. I find the combination of humping, squeezing my legs and being able to get pressure on my clit much, much easier in that position. However, my back is beginning to hurt me and I'm guessing it's from humping too much.

So, because I'm always horny and can't just simply stop for a week, I'm thinking I'll just switch positions and lie on my back like most women do and that that will help.

BUT, like I said, I've found lying face-down much, much easier. I can't squeeze my legs properly and getting the right amount of feeling down there is difficult. Actually, when I masturbate face-down and roll over onto my back, it's as if all the pleasure I was getting goes away, unless I'm already really close to having an orgasm.

I've tried a number of times to masturbate on my back, but I've never gotten anywhere so far. I'm not entirely sure how you could help me, but do you any advice for this? And will doing it on my back be easier on my spine? Also, out of curiosity, is this common?

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

P.S., you're awesome. :)

Hi M,

Yes, lying on your tummy for masturbation is fairly common as is the humping. This style will not translate into partner sex when you want to have a boyfriend. If you spend some time reading what we have available on the website, we offer all kinds of information. I'd suggest you start with "How to Orgasm" which outlines my process of teaching masturbation. You are young enough to change this pattern now, but the longer you wait the more difficult it becomes.
I also have an essay on Upgrading Your Masturbation Technique under Sex Features. Just take the time and you'll find all the goodies that are available.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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humping and partner sex

Mon, 05/09/2011 - 08:12
lilyminx (not verified)

I masturbated this way from when I was a small child, and up until the last couple of years it was the only way I ever made myself come (though I used a pillow between my legs, not my hand).
From my experience, this masturbation style translated fantastically to partner sex (with a male lover) - once I felt confident enough to go for it!  A variety of things work - sometimes I mount my lover, cowgirl style, then lie forward till my clit is over his pubic bone, and rock on it. Sometimes I just spread my pussy lips over his erection and use it to stimulate myself in a similar position. And sometimes (with lovers I feel particularly connected to), I will ask to use their hand - underneath me, my pubic mound nestled in the palm of his hand, and one or two fingers curled inside me.
I have never had any complaints - in fact my lovers seem to really enjoy me getting off on them in this particular way. And I've even made some of THEM come with my particular style ...
Interestingly, it's only been as I've had more (and better) partner sex, that I've learned to make myself come in the 'classic' style  - though it's still not the easiest for me, and I prefer my tried and true technique - with the added extras of a dildo inside and bullet vibe between my clit and the pillow.
Guess you're never to old to learn new things ;)

I thought I was the only one!

Tue, 02/28/2012 - 06:51
JaneJohn Doe (not verified)

For most of my life this is how I got orgasms. You should try getting a vibrator though and laying on your back. Masterbating on my stomach for so many years has finally injured my finger. Putting all of your weights on your hand isn't good. (I'm only 100lbs.) For the past two weeks I haven't been able to bend my ring finger. I'm embarassed to go to the doctor. So just a heads up. Also if you practice using a vibrator on your back it becomes easier for you to get off my hand on your back.

Worried..about a particular problem..

Thu, 05/30/2013 - 04:22
Micra (not verified)

Hello there, 

I have a bit of a personal concern of mine I'd like to ask you about. None of the sites I've visited have answered my question, and yours came the closest to reassuring me that everything is okay. Browsing through the topics you have posted guides to, I found this is quite the trusted site to go to, I suppose, for anything concerning sexual health and experimentation, and wellness, etc. But you see, I have a particular question; Something I'm rather concerned about, scared even. 

I'm alone, and by that I mean, I don't have a lover and I'm not in a committed relationship. I'm 20 years old and have never had sex. But I do masturbate sometimes - I'll throw that out there. Sometimes you just have the urge and you do it. My normal method is humping something underneath me till I orgasm. But this time I decided to try something new just for a little, and that's what ended up worrying me. 

My question for you is: Can it be harmful for a girl to hump something laying on her back and her pelvis moving upwards towards the ceiling? Because when I did this recently (and this is the first time I've ever tried this angle, since I usually stick with my first method), I heard this weird nose. I had my pants on and underwear on too, but it sounded like the lubricant that comes out to wet the vagina just before sex was suctioned back in and made a "sucking" sound, then a sort of rumbly-bubbling sound as if my stomach were rumbling. I was immediately scared and got concerned and kept thinking about what it was, but nonetheless, I finished masturbating and coming and everything felt fine afterwards. I don't feel any different now. 
Please, whenever it is convenient for you, answer my question. My brain's become restless trying to figure it out. And I've even talked to my friend about it, but he's a guy, and doesn't know much; He was just giving me guesses. And I'm not okay yet with talking about it to one of my female companions. So that's what I wanna know. Please and thank you for your time. 

Sincerely, 
"Micra"

me too

Fri, 02/13/2015 - 15:19
Anonymouskace (not verified)

Try using the palm of your wrist while laying on your stomach it has always helped me

C'mon girls. The information you seek

Fri, 02/13/2015 - 17:03

is on the front page of our website. Check out the left hand column that lists all or our topics. Instead of feeling helpless become more pro active. Once you SEEK you will FIND.

I think most of us start

Sat, 02/14/2015 - 08:56

I think most of us start masturbating on our bellies. It's where stuff is, and pressing into our beds is perhaps much more instinctual and natural than any other way. I masturbated growing up grinding my semi-flaccid penis into my palm well into my teens. Didn't start doing it via the more typical 'stroking' way until I starting viewing porn regularly.

Transitioning to 'convential' positions just take time and practice. But I don't think there's anything inherently significant for our backs doing so. If you have a sore back from doing it I'd think it's due to other things than that unless you're doing it for so long each day it seems more likely. Most of us have horrible posture sitting at our computers and such that'd be my first thought. Not anything we're doing in bed.

Okay so I've been doing the

Thu, 05/07/2015 - 22:35
3333333 (not verified)

Okay so I've been doing the same thing for as long as I remember, on my belly, I basically need the pressure against me to get to orgasam. My problem is I can't do it during sex. And my boyfriend feels like it's his fault, what are ways that I can orgasm during sex ?

Try This Position - woman on top

Tue, 05/12/2015 - 11:56

I found this to be great position for woman on top and the 'humping' style to be suited for partner sex with a man. Lay on top of your guy who is fully erect, position yourself on top of him taking care that his penis is between your spread labia and can easily cause friction against your clitoris...then hump away. If you stay close to the upper head of the man's penis, the friction of your humping will hit the underside of the guys penis where he feels most sensitive, so he will enjoy that as well.  Give it a shot, it could be good fun, highly exciting for the guy too, and he has access to grabbing your butt to help  your thrusting or can reach your breasts for stimulation if you so desire.
Good Luck!

Normal or not

Wed, 05/13/2015 - 01:34
AnonymousNnnn (not verified)

I lay on my stomach and hump my hand.. Well more like move my hand very roughly over my clit. Sometimes I have to press really really hard. I don't really move my body. I have been doing this since I was about five. I think that I might have made myself less sensitive. I have never been able to get off having sex with a male.. Ever. Plus not I'm having to press harder and hard to get off.. Is this normal?

how to change my masuburating style

Mon, 08/10/2015 - 12:54
rikisanjay (not verified)

Gi Dr. Dodson i am riki, now aim 25 since 14 iam mastrubating by humping the bed (lying on the bed and my stomach and body on bed), and my style of mastrubation is by side ways rubbing of my pennis agianst bed and i want to change this style, so i tried of normal way of shagging with hand but i cant sperm out in shagging and during fucking my gf also a cant sperm out.. how to do so..?

These last two posts are examples of poor masturbation skills.

Tue, 08/11/2015 - 15:12

Both of them can go into the website and check out the left hand column for all of our topics. The information they seek is there free for the taking. Please take advantage of this so you can retrain your bodies to enjoy more sexual pleasures.

Betty Dodson

I've done the belly thing for years.

Mon, 10/03/2016 - 22:27
Amanda N. Romanach (not verified)

Except I do it over my clothes and have one hand on top of the other one and use my middle and ring fingers, along with the fabric of my clothes, to apply hard pressure to my clit while my legs are crossed and squeezed together. It only takes me 25-35 secs to cum this way. I like to get almost to the point and then stop, repeat and do that a few times. Always intense. I finally told my man after 10 years how I masturbate. I was humiliated but we tried it in bed with clothes off. I wait til he is like 45 seconds away from nutting and then I place my hands there. It's a lot harder without clothes and all wet, but he sits right behind my butt and starts pumping and to keep my clit and place and not all slippery, I use both middle fingers and squeeze it against his thrusting penis. It gets easier as long as the embarrassment is long gone. After I got comfortable with him it wasn't so hard to show others after we split up. :)

Worried about a particular problem

Sat, 03/11/2017 - 17:27
Hannah Travis (not verified)

Dear Worried,
Everything is perfectly normal. There is nothing you can harm by masturbation. Our anatomy is such that if nothing can happen with your own juices. You have very tight and closed cervix and juices under normal gravitational force cannot harm you in anyway.
Happy orgasming and have fun

I do it the same way as you!!

Sun, 03/12/2017 - 17:19
K.Renee (not verified)

YOU  ARE NORMAL!! I do know however the more frequently I masturbate, it does seem to take a little while longer to get off. Leave a few days inbetween and it might help. Since age 9 I have masturbated the SAME WAY that you do. Ive even pressed my clit against hard objects, like the kitchen counter, table and the desk in my office. But mainly its this way....I lie on my stomach on the floor with my hands one on top of the other, cupped over my vulva and clit. The heel of one hand is applying downward pressure against the upper area of my vulva, where the base of my clit is starting. Ive learned over the years if I flick the outside clit with a finger from my other hand at the same time as applying pressure,  it brings on an orgasm much faster than pressure alone. Try using a vibrator by just letting it stay all the way inside you as you press, and you will be in heaven! I have never been able to get off either during sex just like you. But if during real sex you do the same thing as you do when you mastrubate, you will orgasm, trust me. I did it all the time with my boyfriend now husband. He was so turned on by hearing me moan so loudly as I came, that he always cums in unison with me, or shortly thereafter. If you have a partner, teach them to lay directly on top of you as you lay on the floor with their stomach against your back. But tell them to support some of their own bodyweight on their forearms or else their weight will be too much and you cant breath!  Have them enter into your vagina from behind and enjoy feeling the penis move in and out of you. As your partner is getting you from behind, you go to work pressing on your external vulva, like I explained above. Within a few minutes your clit will be throbbing and your vaginal muscles will be contracting and the feeling is utterly amazing. As you cum, if you press on your clit  indirectly from the side through your external pussy lips, you should intesify the feeling of your throbbing clit. Let me know how it goes!!

Try this!

Sun, 03/12/2017 - 17:37
K.Renee (not verified)

Lie on the floor on your stomach and have him lie on top of you and enter you from behind. Make sure he supports some of his body weight on his forearms otherwise he will be too heavy on you and you wont be able to breath. Cup your hands underneath you, with one on top of the other and apply downward pressure on your external vulva right where the base of your clit starts, and you will have your orgasm!! The pressure that you indirectly apply on this area of your clit coupled with his penis rubbing your external clit will bring you to a throbbing orgasm! I have my husband either lightly bite,or suck on my neck or I telll him to "talk to me" as i rub as its such a turn on for both of us.

What happened to you is that

Wed, 04/19/2017 - 17:50
helping (not verified)

What happened to you is that you sucked air into your vagina. It's completely normal and you're fine.

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