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Do Clitoral Orgasms & Vaginals Orgasms Feel Different?

Thu, 05/05/2011 - 12:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm a 22-year-old female in a healthy relationship. I lost my virginity at the age of 18, but I had been achieving clitoral orgasms since the age of 14 on my own. Since having a few different partners, I am unsure whether I have ever had a real vaginal orgasm.

I have never really got much out of sex in the past, but with my current boyfriend everything is great as he always ensures I am fully aroused before sex and makes sure that if he (on the rare occasion) comes first, that I still get mine.

With him I do get a building sensation during sex and fluttery feeling inside which usually peaks, which I assume is the orgasm. The reason I'm questioning it is it's not as big as a clitoral orgasm.

I was speaking to a female friend and she was telling me how she has these HUGE orgasms during sex and I know we're all different but it made me wonder whether I actually achieve a proper vaginal orgasm.

If you could clear up any differences your aware of that would be great!

Many thanks

L

Dear L,

It's never a good idea to measure ourselves against some thing another woman reports especially when it comes to sex. A clitoral orgasm is more direct and they are usually always stronger in the sensation department. However, a vaginal orgasm takes longer and it has the added emotional content of your beloved inside you.

How about having both kinds of stimulation at the same time, clitoral and vaginal? That turned out to be my favorite, especially when I am doing my own clitoris while my lover is focused on slow penetration. In the end, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. So enjoy all of them.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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peeing during sex/female ejaculation

Tue, 07/05/2011 - 15:43
Jolene (not verified)

Dear Dr. Betty,
Let me first start off by saying that I in fact know the difference between the two. What I was wondering is if there's a way for me to stop peeing during, and if there's away for me to learn how to squirt?

Thanks,
Jolene

Dear Dr. Betty, I am 23 yrs

Tue, 09/06/2011 - 03:00
CS (not verified)

Dear Dr. Betty,
I am 23 yrs old and have been having sex since age 15. My issue is, I feel that I am "weird or abnormal" because I dont ejaculate to the extent that it seems I should. There isn't much cum visible(I even had a problem with not knowing when I would cum) and I feel I let my partner down or feel that I am faking it when it happens. I feel the intensity, but it's nowhere near as intense as when I masturbate. And about masturbation, I notice I put so much focus on my clitoris and not the vagina. I get so much more pleasure from my clit than my vagina. Could this be why my vaginal orgasams aren't as intense?
Thanks,
C

You obviously have not read anything on D&R

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Tue, 09/06/2011 - 10:41
Betty Dodson

It amazes me how many young women ask obvious questions that have been answered again and again on the website.  They are drowning in mis-information about G spots, squirting, what to call their sex organ and they are still in the dak ages of wanting vaginal orgasms. They want to please a partner more than enjoy their own orgasms. It makes a sex educator want to cry!

Please go back and read "How to Orgasm" as well as "Ask Dr. Betty" and my "Sex Features" on the Navagation Bar. Read everything more than once so it sinks in. Your clitoris is your primary sex organ for orgasms and pleasure.

Dr. Betty

wow

Wed, 09/07/2011 - 14:48
E-Grace

I'm shocked (SHOCKED!) at the question and comment on here. I'm 23 and these are women my age who don't seem to have a clue! (No offense, because I love them and want them to get help)  Please stop believing what your little friends tell you. It seems like all women we speak to have these amazing vaginal orgasms and they just don't know how it happens yet this website along with thousands of others are filled with girls saying they can't and need to learn. Makes you realize how many women are simply fibbing. Even to their good friends who want some advice. If women stopped lying to their men and friends, stopped faking orgasms and learned to love their clits, the world would be having a much better sex life. Sure vaginal orgasms are real. But they're nothing more than orgasms brought on by stimulating the internal portion of our divine clitoris. And many women who orgasm during sex are achieving it by, unknowingly, rubbing their clitoris on their partner's body. So there. Mystery solved.

To Jolene: yes and maybe

Wed, 09/07/2011 - 14:59
E-Grace

You can stop peeing during sex by squeezing your p.c. muscles. The reason you're peeing is because you're pushing instead of squeezing. Go to the bathroom beforehand too. If you want to learn to squirt, you're going to have to push instead of squeeze. So the two contradict each other. From what I've heard (from Dr. Laura Berman), women who don't ejaculate (and that's most women) end up getting the fluid in their bladder (it's harmless and you just go to the bathroom like normal later). The ejaculate comes from a different gland that men have too (I think) but with men, it comes out their penis. Unless he in-ejaculates which is when his semen goes into his bladder (doesn't this remind you of what most women do?) My idea is that men and women are different and female ejaculation is the equivalent to male in-ejaculation in a way. If you don't squirt, who cares? Don't be with a guy who insists you learn. You're female-bodied so you're not designed to ejaculate because you don't need sperm to enter someone's body in order to procreate. 

I really don't understand why women want to ejaculate

Wed, 09/07/2011 - 20:19
Heylin

This must be a new thing. I believe I first heard about female ejaculation about 15-20 years ago as something that happens to some women. I thought of it as something weird. I like having orgasms, I enjoy the release that happens during urination, I wonder if this female ejaculation feels like a combination between the 2. I guess I could give myself clit stim while urinating to find out. At least the younger girls are seeking out information on their orgasms. When I was younger, I just realized that we never discussed whether or not we were actually getting pleasure from the activities we engaged in.

Masturbation

Sat, 03/30/2013 - 11:18
Jessbubbles (not verified)

Hi dr betty,
Ive been masturbating since i was about 11 and am 14 now. I can never seem to stay horny after one orgasm eg: ill have a clitoral orgasm and be to sensative to touch again. I know this is normal but would like some tips on how to keep going. 
Thanks, Jess x

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