Masturbate by Rubbing Head of Penis - No Strokes - Is That Normal?

Mon, 03/21/2011 - 08:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I have masturbated for many years. I am however still a virgin. When I masturbate, I use only my thumb index and middle finger and rub the head of my penis like i was rolling a spit wad. I have always done it this way and when i try to stroke it, it feels foriegn. Most people talk about stroking their cock. Is what I am doing abnormal?

C

Dear C,

You have an unusual masturbation technique that may or may not translate into penis/vagina sex. I suggest you spend a minute or two stroking the shaft up and over your glans (head of the penis) and back down until it no longer feels foreign to you. Then finish with "old faithful" and roll another spit ball. That's such a cute definition that really works. I could visualize exactly what you've been doing. I don't believe in normal or abnormal. Instead I welcome all the differences in each unique individual. Remember, as long as you are having sex with yourself, you are an orgasmic man not a "virgin."

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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RE: Masturbate by Rubbing Head of Penis

Sun, 11/22/2015 - 04:02
Joe_Mama (not verified)

I know the question I am responding to is 4-years-old, but I have to pipe-in on this one. There is no wrong way to masturbate, however certain techniques can result in sexual dysfunction later on. In reality, many men have a hard time orgasming from glans stimulation only--with it being too sensitive. I do an edging technique (bringing myself close to orgasm then backing off) by rubbing the glans. For me, anyway, it can become so intense, I cannot continue. I have had my wife do this technique on me and had her continue to rub the glans as I came. It was so intense, I screamed and blacked out; I have never been able to touch the penis head during ejaculation.
Opening up your masturbation options really helps with different types of sex and different types of partners, too. If you become used to only one type of stimulation, it can create problems for having sex with another person. The hand can create sensations and intensity a vagina or anus cannot even come close to replicating, so varying your technique is always a good idea. You should be able to make yourself cum in a multitude of different ways. For example: I can rub just the tip, keeping myself on the verge for over an hour; I can grab it and wank off in a minute flat; or, I can even use a prostate messager, rub my nipples at the same time, and cum without touching my penis, whatsoever.
You have never felt something, until you have had a prostate only orgasm--there is nothing that can compare. The build-up takes a long time, you feel like you are orgasming every couple minutes, then you blow your load with unreal force (I do anyway). And, for me, anyway, I don't lose my erection and can have another orgasm in less than a minute.

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