Takes Me 45 Minutes to Orgasm!

Mon, 12/13/2010 - 17:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty!

Can I just first say that I've been a fan of yours for a long time now?! I think you're great!

Here's my problem. For years, I was able to cum quickly. Within 10 minutes. About 8 months ago, I started losing my orgasm more and more often until, I just plain lost the ability. Well, for a little over 6 months, I just couldn't cum. Finally, after much work with my loving (very understanding) boyfriend, I was able to orgasm again. Unfortunately, though, it takes me a good 45 minutes to climax. And that's on a good day! Do you have any suggestions as to what I should do? I feel like I've tried everything and I'm just so frustrated right now!

Thank you so much!


Dear L,

I don't know your age or what kind of stimulation you're using but 45 minutes is not such a long time. I often masturbate for at least an hour for a really good come. How about getting a Magic Wand vibrator. Your boyfriend will appreciate it as much as you will. Go to "First Time Orgasm" on the site and read it a couple of times. Try what I recommend and stop worrying how long it takes you to enjoy yourself.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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I usually come super quick

Tue, 12/21/2010 - 14:28
Niece (not verified)

I usually come super quick too, this changed when I was briefly on anti-depressants, took me over an hour to orgasm. It wasn't just that it was prolonged that was frustrating, it was the change that upset me, my body was deviating from its usual behavior, so I understand the frustration. Anyways, my point of all this is to say, that some meds might interefere with this. May be an obvious answer though.