Need Tips on How to Masturbate With a Vibrator vs. My Fingers

Tue, 11/02/2010 - 12:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty-

I'm 21 and have been masturbating since before I can remember. I just recently started using a vibrator and my world changed. It feels amazing! It's like my whole clit- internal and external is being engaged.

So I guess my question is two-fold. When I would masturbate with my hand, I would get myself off by quick fast movements and then just press my fingers into my clit as I came. Now, using a vibe, the vibrations while I come are too much but if I take it off, it disrupts (and sometimes aborts) my orgasm. How do you suggest I maneuver this?

Also, I want to incorporate vibes into sex with my boyfriend but every time we try I end up moving it away- it's too bulky and cumbersome. Plus, I find it hard to focus on the sex and holding it in place. Do you have any suggestions for how to more easily use a vibe during sex?

Thanks!!

Dear S,

Just as you come, move the vibe off to one side or just above your clit. Or put your finger on your clit like you used to do and put the vibe on top of the finger. That will soften the intensity.

Since I don't know what kind of vibe you are using, I do know an Eroscillator is good for partnersex because it is thin and more easy to maneuver. Check it out in our Sex Shop. I also recommend the Mystic Wand which is battery operated and has a low setting along with 5 variations. It's small and also easy to handle. Go to our Video section and check out Sexual Skills. We show partnersex with a woman using a vibe in different positions. Enjoy!

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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I sometimes have similar issue

WildOrchid's picture
Tue, 11/02/2010 - 14:35

When I orgasm the vibrations get too intense and the uncomfortable sensation diminishes my orgasm. I noticed that when I'm using lower setting from the start or when I stimulate myself through clothes this doesn't happen. When I orgasm I'm too out of it to turn down the vibrations.

I always masturbate with

Tue, 11/02/2010 - 15:55

I always masturbate with sweatpants on when I'm using a vibrator.  You could use a wash cloth too

Thanks

Tue, 11/02/2010 - 23:15
Susie (not verified)

Thanks everyone! I will definitely try these tips out, and am eager to do so!

Yahooooo....

Wed, 12/01/2010 - 20:27
annoymous (not verified)

hi everyone! great to hear your stories. well when i first started masturbating i was 7 or 8 and i started as an women started out using there fingers. after many years of doing this i found it really tiresome and boring. so one day i bought i back massager and have been using that for a few years but considered using or buying a vibrator any tips on what i should use?

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