Hi Betty, I'd like some advise from either you or Eric.
I recently started a physical relationship with pretty inexperienced man. Like other men I'd been with I figured I would make him cum pretty easily if not with my hand, my mouth. Neither of those things have worked and while hes not bothered by it, I am. I told myself I wouldn't have intercourse with him until I'd made him orgasm a different way but we did. Even then he didn't orgasm!
He says its nothing i am doing wrong and I'm trying hard not to take it personally and ask what I can do to help but he says he doesn't know. If he's not worried about finishing should I just get over it and enjoy myself? Can i suggest using a cock ring during sex? I've always been curious about those...
You've answered your own question. "If he's not worried about finishing should I just get over it and enjoy myself?" Yes, yes, and yes. My position has always been that each of us is responsible for our own orgasm. Don't waste your time by turning into his shrink. It appears you can suggest anything you want to as he seems very co-operative. Cock rings are an aid to keeping a man's penis firm by holding the blood in, so sure, try one. You might also try very slowly (with short nails and lots of lube) doing anal penetration while he's receiving a blow job from you. This one is a winner if the guy is not too over protective of his butty hole. In many ways, a man who doesn't ejaculate is ideal. Relax and enjoy your selves.