My Clitoris Was Removed...How Can I Experience Pleasure Without Having Penetrative Sex?

Mon, 08/16/2010 - 09:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey Dr Betty,

I'm a 22 year old female and I don't have a clitoris. I was circumcised as a baby so find masturbation very uneventful. It is frustrating for me to say the least because I feel like I've been robbed of a God given gift! So my question is how can someone like me receive pleasure without having penetrative sex?

Thank you


Dear K,

The best revenge for this inhuman religious practice would be success in achieving orgasm by discovering the internal clitoris and learning to enjoy sexual pleasure inside your vagina. If you are avoiding penetration for your future husband, then you must wait.

The clitoral glans is only the tip of the entire clitoral structure. The shaft extends above and attaches to the pubic bone. Then you have the legs, bulbs and urethral sponge of the clitoris that are erectile tissue and capable of creating sexual feelings including orgasm. The high setting on the Mystic Wand held right above where your clitoral glans was could possibly produce good sensations. That combined with pelvic thrusting or rocking while squeezing and releasing your pelvic floor muscle and breathing out loud would be worth trying. The Mystic Wand is battery operated and available in the UK.

My friend and colleague Barbara Carrellas was recently on The Learning Channel describing how she teaches people to "think and breathe to orgasm" which might be a possibility for you. Check out her website She also has a newsletter. Read around the website. I have supported an organization that helps African women restore their vulvas. If there is enough of the clitoral stem, it is possible for them to feel some pleasure. For others, at least the scare tissue is removed giving the vulva a more normal appearance.

Muslim and American mothers must stop the genital mutilation of their children's sex organs. I'm sure this ignorant practice ends when you have a family.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time