Notes of a Recovering Squirter

Sun, 05/03/2015 - 08:12
Submitted by Ambrosia

For a little over 10 years my most common way to “come” was squirting or ejaculating, whatever term you prefer and if you believe it's a real come or not.

It started when a lover of mine, after he and I had had a delicious day of outdoor exhibitionist sex at one of our local nude beaches, didn't let up on my pussy's ravenous hunger for penetration. He deftly worked a curved tip dildo in and out of my vagina while I writhed happily on the back seat of his volvo. I massaged my clit with whatever lube we had at the time and mixed it in with a little bit of wine for a Bacchus aromatic effect.

The sun was settling in for the night. In the glow of its fading golden light, I occasionally came out of my reverie and we then gazed into each others eyes. He had spent some time with a Tantrika who taught him the rudiments of her yogic practice. This made him determined to make what he called my amrita come flowing out of the inner recesses of my yoni. Suddenly, it happened. I felt the first gush of warm liquid spill over onto my vulva lips and my fingers. I quickly opened my eyes to the sight of a mini fountain of clear liquid rising out of my pussy. It was all quite romantic.

While I melted into this sweet and warm release of feeling, something coming out of me versus something convulsing within me, he grabbed a beach towel placing it under by bottom to sop up the musky smelling waters that escaped over the dam. He said to me, “ Now you will always squirt.” So like a hypnotist's subject, I followed his directions, at least for the next decade or so.

I really did enjoy this female ejaculating a lot of the time, though I spent hard earned cash on a couple of ruined mattresses, blankets, pads and spent precious time washing a multitude of towels every week. It could be labor intensive preparing my bed for a hot night of wet sex. Sometimes the waters smelled like pee, sometimes not, or very little anyway. Sometimes the spot on the bed was slightly yellow, sometimes not. Some men loved to drink me, some did not. I didn't know the true science of what my pussy's squirting was all about. I didn't question it really until I went to Betty's BodySex workshop. Vulva show and tell told it all.

When Betty and I together gazed at my vulva in the mirror before me she asked me to squeeze my pubococcygeal muscle and for the life of me, no matter how hard I tried, I could not make my inner muscles go in and up, only out. She explained to me that all that gushing was causing my pussy to lose its strength and I needed to Kegel like someone practicing piano everyday. It was also moving my orgasmic energy out of my clit, though I was having orgasms still with my clit but not as frequently as 10 years ago. I instead was giving in to the fountain effect or what she called it, a parlor trick.

My lover and I, at the time, were having difficulty with me coming during intercourse which is not that big a deal since vibrators were a welcomed tool in our partner sex. However, once I began a daily and sometimes hourly Kegel practice and consciously moved the energy away from the “release” and instead focused on my clit being the pleasure of our sex together, I did have mind blowing orgasms with him sans vibrator and very little release or none of ejaculate, amrita, gush, squirt, pee or whatever the hell that was that rushed out of me.

Tonight, 10 months after BodySex, I got out the mirror and looked well into the face of my vulva, Precious Frisky, and watched her do her stuff. My inner muscles go in and up like I want them to. I have my strength, my power, my real pleasure back. I am not giving it away to the universe out there uselessly to be spilt out and dried up by the sun. I am pulling it up and inside of me and my creativity can now be used orgasmically, wisely and well for myself and others. At the very least, that's my hope and my dream.

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What a delightul post from a Bodysex woman!

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Sun, 05/03/2015 - 10:49
Betty Dodson

Ambrosia you and your vulva Frisky have made my day! Another honest assessment of female ejaculation to clear up all the misunderstandings and myths surrounding this response that can be "natural" and also "learned." Thanks to porn and guys who adore "making a woman squirt" to entertain him, or to prove he has some special skill, or that gives him bragging rights about being such a sexual stud.....whatever! I'm so happy to hear a woman speaking the truth about who has to clean up the damn mess! And that squirting is not as pleasurabale as a good old fashioned clitoral orgasm combined with vaginal penetration. 

Thank you, thank you, thank you. And keep your PC muscle strong for YOUR pleasure with your orgasms that you can share with others. Happy Orgasms indeed!

Thank you, Betty!

Sun, 05/03/2015 - 13:26
rebtorres (not verified)

I so appreciate you and your skillful observations and teachings which you have acquired because of your life time devotion to women's sexual pleasure, health and orgasms. My life is so rich and full because of you. I want to continue to learn from you and all the other women who have this devotion too. I love you, Betty Dodson!!

I squirt because...

Sun, 05/03/2015 - 18:37
CM (not verified)

I squirt because it is pleasurable. It can be a real pain to clean up, so I 'control' it now. But I am torn, I don't like having to hold back on all the facets of the sexaul pleasures I feel. So I am trying to find a balance...[/size]

I don't know what Betty's

Sun, 05/03/2015 - 22:21
Heather J (not verified)

I don't know what Betty's deal with female ejaculation is but you can tell she doesn't like it and doesn't think anyone else should either. Glad you can finally cum now the way someone else wants you to do it... back then it was your boyfriend's way... now it's Betty's.

To be forever curious of learning the science of sex and love.

Mon, 05/04/2015 - 09:01
feminist indignation (not verified)

     what a beautiful description of our body and how it works. What trials and tribulations we go through to find pleasure within our selves and with others.

     Thank you for sharing your journey of your self discover with us here. And I hear it as just that, a journey, of discovery and learning one that you have shared with partners. Thanks for exploring the difficulties with this squirting thing and problems of not fully understanding
our body and our body's relationship to one's lover.

     It's so easy to blame others for what we do. And we all know that blaming is the first step before establishing fault. Establishing fault is the step right before punishment either with the tongue of the lash. You refrain from finding fault, blaming and punishing others, and
simply objectively explaining both how our bodies work and your journey.

     You give others and organism strength and power to be forever curious of learning the science of sex and love.

reply to Heather

Mon, 05/04/2015 - 12:05
rebtorres (not verified)

The squirting has its place and I still do at times but I was sacrificing my intense clitoral orgasms for this show. Also I could see from vulva show and tell that I was losing a lot of my PC strength and I know all that gushing was contributing to it. I don't come Betty's way.... I come my way.  It is true that my partner sex at the time improved, that is I had orgasms during intercourse as i consciously moved the energy away form squirting. And THAT I enjoyed ever so much more.

reply to CM

Mon, 05/04/2015 - 13:14
rebtorres (not verified)

I think not to judge oneself for however one comes is key. I still squirt at times, it feels good but I don't want to sacrifice the amazing clitoral orgasm for a sense of release in another fashiion. Do what feels right for you! Love love love, Ambrosia

reply to feminist indignation

Mon, 05/04/2015 - 13:18
rebtorres (not verified)

My eyes welled up with tears in reading your very sensitive response to my post. Thank you for your support for my journey of learning about myself. I support everyone in that too! Also, your analysis of finding fault is WELL SAID! Bravo! Love and hugs, Ambrosia

Ambrosia - you are welcome and thanks for hearing me too!

Wed, 05/06/2015 - 08:54
feminist indignation (not verified)

     It was a pleasure to join with you in hearing you. I'm not sure I gave you support as much as attempted to guess at and understand your needs and values not in parroting
your words but in letting you know how I received your meaning. Contrary to popular belief it's better to guess wrong, then we would have to work a little harder, delve a little deeper for
you to reveal and for me to understand your meaning. I just guessed, only you
know for sure what you meant.

     This is risky business as it leaves us open to being blamed and thus as we all know the next step is punished. Thank you for the objective quality of your story. It made it more likely we would hear hearing both your journey and your meaning. In hearing the restorative quality
of your journey we guess you seemed to homer all aspects of it. Honor as in value all the ups and downs turns and bothersome detours - honor how in community we are learning from each other and ourselves.

      It is a wonder that as humans we impact each other so profoundly just by our
expressions that; the love, connection and community brought forth by acting
restoratively is so often supplanted by fear and punishment.

I squirt because

Wed, 05/13/2015 - 15:59
Kamaate (not verified)

I squirt almost each time I get a good fuck. I dont agree with Betty that squirting makes one loose down there. I am in my late forties now but still as tight as ever and i orgasm easily. I come from a background where sex education is still common and involves both pleasing oneself and your partner. Talk to a woman from Uganda and you will know what I am talking about.

Believe me you can squirt and

Wed, 05/13/2015 - 16:07
Kamaate (not verified)

Believe me you can squirt and have clitorial orgasm at the same time! Read more about "kachabali" and you will know what I mean. Squirting comes to me naturally when he taps and rubs his erect penis against my clit. Betty seems to think otherwise but I know that squirting is satisfying. For the "soaked bedding" all it calls for is preparation. Have a towel set aside to take care of this. Its fun for me and my man.


Sat, 07/25/2015 - 09:50
msmnm6969 (not verified)

Squirting feels great. I haven't figured out what makes me squirting or get off, but yes wet every where, ,,

squirting feels so good

Tue, 07/28/2015 - 11:51
msmnm6969 (not verified)

I thought I was peeing. ..but no smell...I waited till hubby wasn't looking and

Female ejaculation

Wed, 12/02/2015 - 23:43
Designguy (not verified)

Dear Betty
As a male who because of a motor cycle accident some 32 years ago left me with a semiflacid penis and limited sensation in my penis and testicles. The use of Viagra to create a ridgid penis was and is of little help when you can't feel the pussy your fucking. So being a paraplegic is no picnic I have and did discover the art of female ejaculation many years ago before any common knowledge was available. Being limited or shall I say being forced to try different ways of having sex. I discovered that any and all women can ejaculate when provoked in the right way with the g-spot and or clitoral stimula. I have had many women that have been taught by me and saying taught is a bit of a stretch but most of them had never ejaculated. Well by reading you blog and all the negativity toward a gushing skeens gland and release that ensues makes me wonder why you are so hostile towards squirters, plus the power business is beyond me. A good orgasm and and ejaculation from conilingus, penitration, fisting or a combination of all of above to bring you partner to a life altering weeping orgasm that releases every last synapse is a pretty fine thing. Most of my partners have said the had never experienced such an intense experience and many have been forever changed. My partner of 10 years now squirts each and every time and not the simulated ejaculation that is all over the net. I wonder if you have ever actually achieved a ejaculation yourself as each of my partners said it was life altering and there was no going back. So in your video about white stuff coming out of your vagina explain the actual process that is going on and not ragging about women power feminism etc and let them discover the most intense release a women can have. By not telling them the truth is like saying to a man you can never ejaculate. Both sexes are cut from the same cloth and we all ejaculate and it is the mother of all orgasm. Further the suggestion that it's not real or imaginary is just bunk as in my experience I can make any women ejaculate involuntarily and it's just a matter of technique and experience. 

This made me want to cry

Mon, 05/23/2016 - 22:08

Is this why I can't orgasm right because I squirt I always push out during my "orgasms" which doesn't give me pleasure like the tingles, it just feels like I'm holding in my pleasure and need to let it out, it can be like I can't see straight when it's intense though i feel no pleasure from the orgasm just from me riding out the release, though it's way better during the release. It makes me more sensitive. I also cum easily once I get one out. I don't wind down easy and can go for hours. Though, after about 3 hours I'm satiated. Lol I'm awful I know, can you imagine how many towels I go through in a session god I'm debating buying some exclusively for the purpose. 

To Squirt or not to Squirt!

Tue, 05/24/2016 - 17:47

Hi Kris, Thank you for sharing about your experiences in regards to squirting. For me, squirting is not an orgasm. It feels good, like a warm release but it is not the same. I have squirted when I orgasm but my orgasm originates in my clitoris. 
I am unsure what you mean about 'cumming more easily after you get one out." Do you mean squirting more? Yes, when I squirted I could go on and on and some men liked that because it was far more easy to make me squirt than make me orgasm authentically.
I find my orgasms, clitoral, to be the more satisfying of my experiences.
It takes concentration to pull the energy up into one's clitoris and it takes practice. Over time the squirting can end and you will be an orgasmic woman which is far more empowering and pleasurable, as well as less messy.
Peace and Pleasure
Rebekah Dyana (formerly Ambrosia)

Man Bashing

Tue, 01/17/2017 - 14:56
Jamil (not verified)

It appears that Betty may have some issues with men....hmmmmm. My woman squirted on her own and loves the intensity as well as when I equally stimulate her clitoris to's whatever turns the individual on....I think that's the most intelligent approach to this whole discussion.