Derek Polonsky MD's blog

Porn is a Huge Phenomenon

Wed, 09/04/2013 - 14:54
Submitted by Derek Polonsky MD

London, December 1960. Grey, foggy, cold. I was fifteen years old, on a school tour from Johannesburg with 30 other teens and we were excited to know that at the first opportunity, we would be heading to a bookstore to buy a copy of Lady Chatterley’s Lover.

South Africa at that point was banning anything from people to books and magazines, and anything sexual was definitely off limits. The obscenity trial in London in 1960 resulted in D.H. Lawrence’s books being published in the UK for the first time.

If You Want to Know About Penises Talk to a Gay Guy

Thu, 05/30/2013 - 08:07
Submitted by Derek Polonsky MD

So I'm talking with a good friend of mine who happens to be gay. Somehow we get into a discussion about foreskins, which neither of us have. He says that in his experience with penises, adding, if you want to know about penises talk to a gay guy, the enjoyment of having the foreskin rubbed over the glans far exceeds the pleasure he has noted both for himself and with other circumcised guys.

Talking About Sex Requires Humor & Occasional Profanity (Thank you, Betty Dodson)

Fri, 01/29/2010 - 13:41
Submitted by Derek Polonsky MD

The first time I did a physical exam as a medical student, I realized that I entered that very private space we instinctively know not to cross. In a social situation we learn not to stand too close, and when people do not respect our space boundary, we usually feel uncomfortable. I instinctively try to move away. Undressing someone I did not know, and feeling various parts of his or her body felt strange, unnatural, intrusive. I remember doing a genital exam on a young man, only to realize when I was writing up my notes, that I had no recollection of what I had seen or felt.

Talking about sex is an intrinsic part of the work I do. It feels routine when I ask for the details about sex. How do you masturbate? Do you like him to go down on you? Have you tried putting your penis into her vagina slowly with very shallow thrusting? I have to remind myself that outside of my office, these conversations are not routine. In fact, they are bizarre.