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Sorry folks, I have been such a no-show. Once again, I am caught in dissertation hell.

I found this video and decided to post it. Here is how NOT to be an enlightened parent.

Okay picture this, you're a kid in the privacy of your own room getting down with your bad self. Mid-wank session --who should walk in but Mom -- in all her Stepford mom glory. MOTHERS DO NOT DO THIS TO YOUR HORNY OFFSPRING!

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Thanksgiving may be an American holiday, but the Chinese have a good reason to be thankful anyway. Seems that sex toys have become a hot ticket item on the Chinese market. According to a Reuters article, sex toys can be found all over China -- in "adult health shops", hotels, and even convenience stores.

The market is huge and GROWING; they're projecting sales revenue in the range of 6.4 billion in the next few years -- and that's a lot of batteries! According to online retailer Lin DeGang, proprietor of www.oyeah.com.cn, "Within five years, sex toys will be a common commodity for everyday use... a key element of a fashionable lifestyle."

Strike one for Chinese women!

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Hi everybody, I didn't mean to stay gone for so long. It has been a busy few weeks for me. I was hellbent on getting my proposal submitted last term, but sadly no cigar. Oh, I finished it alright, and the chair of my dissertation found more I needed to work on. (Sigh). So very close...

When I started my dissertation hours, the required text that we used was called Surviving Your Dissertation. Now, I understand why it was called that. And I would like to propose a title change for this fine book -- how 'bout calling it to Surviving Your Dissertation With All Your Hair Intact.

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Marilyn Monroe was a legend, an iconic beauty, and a lesbian? That's the word on the street anyway. Marilyn has been dead for almost 50 years, and she is still making headlines.

The fiftieth anniversary of her death is coming up on August 5th. And there have been some new biographies to commemorate the event. One book, Marilyn Monroe: Private And Undisclosed, by Michelle Morgan asserts that many of the blonde beauty's problems stemmed from the fact that she was a closet lesbian.

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I have never been with a man on Viagra or any other erection enhancing drug, though I have been with a few men who were possible candidates. And yes the experiences were frustrating, but more so because of their reactions to not being able to "rise to the occasion".

Many of these men were hellbent on getting it up and keeping the focus on intercourse. God forbid, we do something else instead. According to a study, I recently came across this isn't at all unusual. Researchers in New Zealand looked at the effects of Viagra on female partners and called it The Downside of Viagra: Women's Experiences and Concerns.

Yes, Viagra has a downside.

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This woman is amazing! She is in the Guinness Book of World Records as the world's oldest female bodybuilder. This 75 years old grandmother has the body of a someone half her age, or younger. Geez, I don't have her body, and I am in my 40s.

Okay, I have to admit it, I would rather sit on my ass and eat chocolate than exercise. I think my bad habits are starting to show too. In fact, I know they are. But not Ernestine, she got into body building at the age of 56 when trying on a swimsuit for a pool party turned into a ego busting move (isn't it always?!). She started working out and never looked back. She runs 80 miles a week and can bench press 150 pounds. This grandma (and "Rocky" fan) can fuck your shit up. Lol.

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Hi all, yes, I am still around and still busting my ass trying to get this research proposal ready for prime-time.

Recently, I came across a very interesting article on why women lose sexual interest -- even in happy relationships. Karen Sims and Marta Meana conducted a qualitative (in-depth interview based) research study on 19 married women published in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy.

There were three main themes that emerged from their data: 1. institutionalization of the relationship, 2. over-familiarity, 3. the problem of de-sexualization. Fancy terms, I know, but what do they mean?

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Catherine the Great was a woman of unbridled sexual passion, according to Tony Perrottet's hilarious little book on history's most tawdry sexual scandals, Napoleon's Privates. And one unsavory rumor has it that her sexual habits killed her. That is, her supposed passion for horse dick.

According to legend, the queen, a talented horsewoman, died from bonking a stallion. This rumor, which appeared soon after her death in 1796, claimed the empress while in flagrante delicto with a horsey stud ended up flat as pancake when the massive creature fell on her!

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I just finished reading Ashley Judd's article in the Daily Beast. And I had to blog about it. For those who haven't heard, there has been a lot of media speculation over the last few weeks that she has had plastic surgery -- largely due to a TV appearance she made with a puffy face.

She finally answered her critics, not only by denying surgery (she says she was on steroids for a cold), but by pointing out that discussions like this are a load of sexist crap. I loved, loved, loved her statements. She writes:

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Human beings have always had a fondness for sex toys. A few years ago, researchers in Germany dug up what is surely one of the world's oldest dildos -- a full eight inches of siltstone love for some prehistoric ancestor's happy orifice.

You can check out my post Female Self-Loving and the Dildo: A Short Pleasurable History for more info. This short video from the Kinsey Institute contains some very old "sex toys". I put the term in parenthesis because many of them look more like bawdy party favors (similar to our modern equivalent the penis shaped ice cube tray, which I am sure you all have, right?), than actual devices for sexual stimulation.

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This short video deals with our insane cultural attitudes about sex. Our society is so dichotomized about this issue. On one hand, the most searched term on the internet is "sex", pornography brings in billions of dollars a year in revenue, and yet abstinence based sex ed has been the rule for years, vibrators are illegal in some states (sadly, I happen to live in one), and politicians want to plan your family for you.

Well, happy Valentine's Day! I thought I would celebrate this sexy holiday with the movie that purportedly has the first female orgasm in film history, Ecstasy. This 1933 Czech film turned largely unknown actress Heddy Lamarr into a sensation.

Not only was the gorgeous Heddy naked but writhing in ecstasy, hence the title. The movie's love scene (for those who don't want to watch the film all the way through, and you know who you are) starts at 45:32. You would miss a lot fast forwarding though.

I have been enjoying some of the articles and videos at the New School of Erotic Touch. This is a great website that provides specific information on how to pleasure yourself and your partner. Seriously, their videos Fire in the Valley and The Best of Vulva Massage are among the best I have seen on how to manually stimulate a woman's genitals. And they are a rare thing online.

Much of my life has been about freeing myself from shackles. Some of these shackles came from my parents, some were from society, and some were self-imposed. In regards to the latter, I have made progress, but I have a long way to go. A long way.

Socially, our culture has a long way to go in accepting women as fully deserving and entitled individuals. So much of what constitutes traditional femininity is a charade. A way of not being who you are, of shaping your second-rate self into a first rate copy of something more acceptable that doesn't take up so much space.

Well, I am going to start off the new year with a bitch about Google. The world's foremost web browser (among other things) apparently doesn't much care for one of the finer parts of the female anatomy -- the clitoris. If you set the filter on Google search to strictly filter out adult content, it also filters out the word "clitoris".

That is, you will get nothing if you type the word in Google search. Absolutely nada. Apparently, Google has put this medically correct term for a woman's primary sex organ on its list of dirty words that are not "family friendly" for safe search. However, if you type in "penis" you get 196,000,000 returns. A man's dick, it seems, isn't obscene but a clit is.