Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative. They're done in the nude but it's not sexual. It's about building sisterhood and healing body shame.
The next workshops will be held in the Spring on these dates:
May 25 & 26
June 22 & 23
They take place at Betty's apartment in midtown manhattan from 1-6pm Saturday and Sunday.
The price is $1,000 and that includes everything you'll need (you get to take the vaginal barbell home with you). I wish every young woman could take a workshop and connect with herself as part of her sexual rite of passage.
If you're traveling from out of town here are some hotels close to Betty's apartment:
Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One. Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images as a sex education resource. Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women.


After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.
Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation upon which all of human sexuality is based. It’s very consistent that each client I see struggling with orgasms as an adult has no memory of masturbating in childhood or in their teens. The absence of this natural self-exploration interferes with the development of nerve pathways that carry positive sensations from our genitals to the pleasure center in the brain. This blocks or slows down the development of sexual release with orgasm.
Indiana University released their national sex survey - we had to review their findings. It seems that the clitoris still reigns supreme.
Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex.
Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way they can get off. Some are stimulating their genitals with one or both hands pressed between legs that are tightly squeezed together while lying face down on their tummies- not conducive to sharing orgasms with another person. Others are humping folded blankets, wooden floors, riding the arm of an overstuffed chair or pressing against hard counter tops.
I just love this piece. Who knew that women get erections just like men:
Betty -
I realize that you are of the opinion that taking a while to orgasm during masturbation is a great and wonderful thing, but when it takes me 45 minutes to an hour to come, I get frustrated. Sometimes I don't want to spend that much of my day petting my kitty. I have a life that is (sadly) not dedicated to hour long self-sexing sessions.
The orgasms themselves are magnificent, they just take too long to happen. I'm perfectly willing to spend a few hours a week having at myself, but there are times I'd like be quicker about it. I was just wondering if you had any advice for an orgasmer on the go?
B
Dear B,
Americans consume more pornography than any country in the world...the Bible Belt consumes the most. I believe that porn consumption tracks directly with sexual repression. When we make something taboo, we want it even more.
In the ultimate hypocritical move, several banks have denied adult stars and adult companies bank accounts and loans citing "moral" grounds.
Chanel Preston (featured left) went public when her bank opened an account in her company's name then closed it the next day when she admitted working in the adult industry. You so know that someone in the bank pulled up her web cam site and they spent all afternoon watching clips before revoking her account.
I had many good times at Sandstone - a consensual sex club and nudist community on the West Coast in the early 1970s.
Nudity means that we are who we are. Otherwise, we're in costume playing a role. Everything was so civilized and relaxed and open at Sandstone. I will forever admire the founders of Sandstone, John and Barbara Williamson for their vision of a sexually open society.
Dr. Betty,
I am 22 years old and a virgin. I currently have to go to the GYN because I'm on oral contraceptives for my acne and horrible menstrual cycles (heavy heavy bleeding, major cramps, etc.. I missed a lot of school before I started) and they say I have to get pelvic exams every so often in order to continue on my birth control.
When the GYN inserts the speculum, the pain is almost unbearable, to the point where I'm usually in tears. I also bleed fairly heavily afterwards as well.
Is this normal? My GYN has never commented on it. Any idea how often I'm actually supposed to go in for a pelvic exam when I'm not sexually active? Every MD I talk to tells me a different time frame. I have an appointment next week and I'm getting very nervous for it.
Reid Mihalko is one of our favorite "sex geeks". I remember the day when Betty shared this story...she was a bit chagrined. She doesn't know what came over her but she did punch Reid in the asshole:
Not many New York women know that it's completely and totally legal to go topless anywhere & anytime as long as it's for a "non-commercial" purpose. You can't charge people to look at your breasts. We owe this privilege to the tireless efforts of performance artist and photographer Holly Van Voast (pictured left).
She's been arrested numerous times for bearing her breasts in public (she went topless at Hooters, a public park and in front of a public school). This year the NYPD is training their officers that they can't arrest women solely for going topless (they can arrest you if your simulating sex or masturbating while topless).
Hi Betty,
I am in a loving and beautiful and sexy marriage with an incredible man who also happens to have a physical disability. He uses a wheelchair and cannot walk, but he has full sensation in his body with the ability to get erect and cum like any other able-bodied man. We are very passionate about each other, but because of his physical limitations, our sex (intercourse) has become repetitive. There are only two positions that are possible for us.
I want to infuse some excitement into our sex life. We do a lot of foreplay, which is great, but I was wondering if you can point me in the direction of some resources where we can learn how to take our intercourse to the next level.
Thanks,
J
Dear J,
Christy Turlington is a 44 year-old supermodel who hasn't had any plastic surgery and doesn't plan to...ever. In her latest interview with Harper's Bazaar, she confessed that she "can't wait to be 50".
It's so refreshing to hear a woman welcome age. Her livelihood is her face and to forego treatments that could extend her career is pretty f*cking noble.
I was searching for an image of Christy and googled "Christy Turlington no photoshop". I found this image which was entitled "wrinkly face Christy". Wow. So many male actors have visible wrinkles. Why are we so offended to see a female face graced by age?
I've been looking into laser treatments to get rid of the sun damage on my face...time to refocus.
Hi Betty,
I have noticed that the first few times I'm with a new person we spend A LOT of time being sexy together. Like hours in a row. This seems normal because we're getting to know each other's bodies and it's super exciting. But if this new-sexy-getting-to-know-each-other-for-hours-night involves hours of different types of vaginal fingering or other penetration it always means my vagina and vulva are sore for the next day or couple of days.