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Hi Dr's Betty and Carlin

I've been with my first boyfriend for about five months now, and we're having a great time together. We've been intimate pretty much since the beginning of our relationship, and I've since come to realize how much I like sex! I have no trouble coming, but he does. We've had success with masturbation and oral, but he has a hard time ejaculating inside me.

This is a testimonial written by a current client after our second session together. I love my job. The pic for this blog post is not one of Rachel :)

"Thanks, Eric, for another fun, inspiring, completely useful…and on and on….and on….(this is me going on and about you!) session."

"But seriously, for about a year now, I have been focused on putting the intimate and erotic spark back into my loooong term relationship with my husband. Since I’m not one for romantic gestures, I knew that more romance, the typical prescription, would not suit.

This month, The Scientist did a scientific examination of porn, asking the question, is porn good for us? It's an interesting question because, in a democratic society, I believe unquestionably that the answer is YES.

The Scientist article points out that our social myths about porn simply don't prove out. In fact, in many cases, reality is exactly opposite of the myths we've been told.

For example, a common view of porn is that it causes violent behavior towards women. However, in societies where there is increased access to porn, there has been either a decrease, or leveling off of rape.

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Okay, I admit it. I've become complacent in recent years about my pro-choice activism. But South Dakota's attack on the constitutionally-protected right to choose has the tiniest of tiny silver linings. NARAL: Pro-Choice America and Planned Parenthood are each getting a ridiculous pittance from my dwindling-too-soon-in-the-semester checking account. I'm clinging to the adage that every dollar helps.

This Denver Post article describing the extreme difficulty women already faced in South Dakota prior to the new sweeping criminal ban reminded me of my own state. According to the oh-so-pleasant American Death Camps website, Utah has three abortion clinics. (I had only been aware of two. Thanks for the good news, abortion foes!) All three clinics are within Salt Lake County. Meaning 96% of the counties in this state do not have an abortion clinic.

Snippet of text conversation (I've fixed the grammar, as I don't use/severely hate "text speak"):

Guy: Remember all that nasty stuff we used to talk about?
Me: Yeah. I miss it.
Guy: I thought you said you didn't like it!
Me: If I didn't like it, then why did I keep responding?
Guy: Yeah. I know. You still masturbate?
Me: Duh. I don't have any available dick.
Guy: Thought you were waiting until you got married.
Me: That's kind of changed.
Guy: Well... I have some available dick. Always did for you.
Me: What are you going to do with it?
Guy: Whatever you want.

Today is the 100th anniversary of the birth of International Women's Day. First agreed at a socialist women's conference in Copenhagen in 1910, its aim was to campaign for the rights of working women.

The timing is perfect. Our director Anna is here from Copenhagen to work with us on our upcoming new sexual skills series. How appropriate! After forty-some years of feminist activism promoting women's sexual liberation, I would love to have millions of us celebrating this day by having independent orgasms. That means with oneself.

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He wanted a very special birthday. And I wanted to give him one, an occasion that was memorable and unique. Of course, weeks before the big night, I told him that a surprise was in store, a birthday treat that he won't help but enjoy. Sexual innuendoes abound, we shared our tete-e-tete now and then until, finally, the night had arrived.

It's difficult to make the perfect whipped cream pasty. One can't use too much cream, as I made the mistake of doing. A huge glob of it fell on my foot. Some of it was on my stomach. Cleaning up was a breeze; I merely swept my finger through the foamy mess and licked it clean.

I have great difficulty seeing a doctor but I can't manage without my hands-on body healers. Yesterday I had my anal sphincters and coccyx's Rolfed. I've had Rolfers work on my body before and it's one of my favorite healing modalities. If Rolfing is a new concept, Dr. Ida Rolf brought together a group of her ideas that became "Structural Integration." She died in 1979 but her work lives on.

In the past few years my body has under gone some trauma. I fractured my L3 vertebrae from a fall on the sidewalk three years ago, and just last year, I had three fractured ribs as the result of an overzealous hug by a friend. My bones are not fragile; on the contrary, they're strong for a person entering her 8th decade.

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm afraid that my question might be a bit multi-layered...The first part is that I very rarely am capable of experiencing orgasm with a partner. I am a 22 year old female and have been with upwards of 30 partners both male and female. I have experienced all kinds of relationships, from long term monogamous ones to long term polyamorous ones to one night stands. I'm very open about sexuality in general and totally LOVE sex.

I have an oral fixation. I actually just realized it today. When I was younger, I used to suck my first two fingers. I stopped in second grade, because I got my front adult teeth and they were so gapped, I could fit my pinky in between them. I got braces to fix said gap, and my orthodontist recommended that I start wearing socks on my hands at night to break the habit.

It worked until third grade, when I got the braces off. I started sucking my pinky, then. My parents never really said anything, because I mostly did it at night. Some kids sleep with a teddy bear... I slept with my finger in my mouth (with the other hand in my pants)