Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative. They're done in the nude but it's not sexual. It's about building sisterhood and healing body shame.
The next workshops will be held in the Spring on these dates:
May 25 & 26
June 22 & 23
They take place at Betty's apartment in midtown manhattan from 1-6pm Saturday and Sunday.
The price is $1,000 and that includes everything you'll need (you get to take the vaginal barbell home with you). I wish every young woman could take a workshop and connect with herself as part of her sexual rite of passage.
If you're traveling from out of town here are some hotels close to Betty's apartment:
Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One. Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images as a sex education resource. Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women.


After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.
Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation upon which all of human sexuality is based. It’s very consistent that each client I see struggling with orgasms as an adult has no memory of masturbating in childhood or in their teens. The absence of this natural self-exploration interferes with the development of nerve pathways that carry positive sensations from our genitals to the pleasure center in the brain. This blocks or slows down the development of sexual release with orgasm.
Indiana University released their national sex survey - we had to review their findings. It seems that the clitoris still reigns supreme.
Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex.
Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way they can get off. Some are stimulating their genitals with one or both hands pressed between legs that are tightly squeezed together while lying face down on their tummies- not conducive to sharing orgasms with another person. Others are humping folded blankets, wooden floors, riding the arm of an overstuffed chair or pressing against hard counter tops.
I just love this piece. Who knew that women get erections just like men:
I’m just back from teaching in Toronto where my friends and sex educators Reid Mihalko, Monique Darling and me taught a weekend training on Energy Sex. The weekend was incredible, but I personally had a breakthrough that I want to share about the power of sexual communication.
Another friend and fellow sex educator approached me during the event and said that she would “love to connect.” I personally had been struggling to find the “right answer” for me to this question. I was explaining this to Reid and he pointed out that there was just one hole in my game that would likely change everything.
This is what I want to share with you today.
Meet Duro-Aina Adebola (14), Akindele Abiola (14), Faleke Oluwatoyin (14) and Bello Eniola (15) - three young girls who invented a urine powered generator.
1 Liter of urine gives you 6 hours of electricity.
Hi I'm a 16 year old girl and around 8 months ago I went on the pill dianette to try to control my acne. I was a little bit apprehensive because I'd heard that it can be a dangerous pill, but I thought that it would be worth it to clear my skin.
But I got a lot more than I bargained for because the side effects I experienced seem to have been very unusual. I got very very low and depressed about my self. Every day I just felt feelings of self loathing and I used to worry a lot about the way my body looks,especially my labia which I thought was way too big (I now understand how ridiculous that is).
Yesterday was Harvey Milk's birthday. He only served 11 months as the first openly gay politician before his murder.
I would have loved to meet him.
It kind of looks like she doesn't have any arms....but it is Helen Mirren in a corset.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I'm a 28 year old female and to get right to the point I have very little feeling "down there". I can sit and fondue and finger myself for hours and feel as calm as I would watching golf. Even when applying pressure to my clitoris or internally to what i think is my gspot. Nothing. I can have and have had two types of orgasms. One with a powerful vibrator directly in my clitoris. I own the hitachi and have to use it on high and even then sometimes it's hit or miss. The second way was with a partner who was fingering me quite roughly and actually caused me to "squirt" or in these three cases flood.
There’s a really endearing scene in Grey’s Anatomy where two young doctors try to have a discreet conversation about sex in front of a patient. April says “I told him I’ve never been to the carnival but I have and now I don’t know what to do.” Meredith replies “I love the carnival. I go to the carnival any chance I get.” I could not agree more. In fact, I love the carnival so much I often go alone.
This carnival comparison got me thinking about monogamy.
Have you ever really considered what a big responsibility it is to be monogamous?
Betty -
I realize that you are of the opinion that taking a while to orgasm during masturbation is a great and wonderful thing, but when it takes me 45 minutes to an hour to come, I get frustrated. Sometimes I don't want to spend that much of my day petting my kitty. I have a life that is (sadly) not dedicated to hour long self-sexing sessions.
The orgasms themselves are magnificent, they just take too long to happen. I'm perfectly willing to spend a few hours a week having at myself, but there are times I'd like be quicker about it. I was just wondering if you had any advice for an orgasmer on the go?
B
Dear B,
Americans consume more pornography than any country in the world...the Bible Belt consumes the most. I believe that porn consumption tracks directly with sexual repression. When we make something taboo, we want it even more.
In the ultimate hypocritical move, several banks have denied adult stars and adult companies bank accounts and loans citing "moral" grounds.
Chanel Preston (featured left) went public when her bank opened an account in her company's name then closed it the next day when she admitted working in the adult industry. You so know that someone in the bank pulled up her web cam site and they spent all afternoon watching clips before revoking her account.