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I Can't Bring Her to Orgasm Anymore

Fri, 04/01/2016 - 07:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

First and foremost, hello. I am a new member on your site. I am in dire need of help. My problem is, I am in a long (international) distance relationship and my girlfriend is having problems achieving an orgasm. Of course, I have no problems getting mine. But the thing is, I would like to please her more and I don't enjoy it when she doesn't achieve an orgasm and I do. I'll admit at times I get worked up rather quickly and she loves long foreplay. Even with the addition of long foreplay she still doesn't orgasm. We don't get to see one another a lot because our relationship is an international one. We have a 16 month old child together and I know a child can run a person ragged.

What's the Difference Between Sexual Attraction & Objectification?

Sat, 03/26/2016 - 14:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

You're a feminist who is also very pro-sexual expression, so I'd like to get your opinion on this. What do you think is the difference between sexual attraction and objectification? Is there a difference? Personally, I think the lines are blurry as in my opinion all attraction is objectification to some degree.

B

Dear B,

Yes, Semantics is a bitch. While defining our individual meaning of words is important, it's also nearly impossible, I would agree with your observation that attraction and objectification are close to being the same thing. It could also be called "personal taste" in that we all have our favorite foods, colors, art, body types, etc.

Is It Common for Large Breasted Women to Suck Their Own Breasts?

Mon, 03/21/2016 - 07:26
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Dodson and Ms. Ross,

I've been blessed with very large boobs--DDDs. I have nice large sensitive nipples too that stay hard pretty much all the time. I love to have my tits sucked and licked. Very pleasurable for me!!! Recently, I discovered that I like to suck them too. I will do this while masturbating and it really gets me off!

Question: Am I weird for doing this? Is this a common thing for big breasted women to do? Do other women like this as well? I feel a tad freakish for doing it and am wondering if other women do it too. Thanks.

Dear J,

I Think I've Only Experienced Orgasm in My Sleep

Tue, 03/15/2016 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am a 49 year old woman who was raised very sexually repressed. I got married very late in life just 4 years ago. I have a very loving relationship with my husband who is almost 20 years my junior (and I don't care what other people think). I have had sexual partners prior to my marriage, but I can't say that I am sexually experienced. The dilemma that I am facing is that I have problems with arousal and orgasm. I don't think I have ever experienced an orgasm, only in my sleep.

I know you are a big proponent of masturbation, which due to my repressive upbringing I have never tried and when a girlfriend suggested it several years ago, I didn't think I liked the idea of touching myself, which now I think is sad that I thought that way.

When I Touch My Clitoris It Isn't Sensitive

Tue, 03/08/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello,

I am a 25 year old female, and my problem is I can't climax. Well I can but only with vibrators, never on my own with my fingers or while having intercourse. When my partner performs oral sex, it doesn't feel good, or bad i can just feel it.  The same thing is true with my clitoris, when I touch it it's not sensitive.

It does not feel good or bad, but I feel it. I started masterbating at about 13 years old with shower heads and that went on for a few years, that might be the reason why my clitoris isn't as responsive.

Is there anything I can do to fix that?

Dear C,

Since Antibiotics My Clit is Sore

Thu, 03/03/2016 - 07:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been with my partner now for about a year and a half. When we met it was complete passion through and through. But now I don't feel aroused by anything anymore. It takes me a long time to get worked up and I'm always in my head during sex it seems.

I've had about 6-8 UTI's within the last year and have been on antibiotics to treat them all. I became sick on a number of them but have now seemed to clear them all away. Unfortunately ever since all my antibiotics, my clitoris is sore whenever my partner attempts to touch it. This never used to be the case, I used to love when he did so.

How Do Kegels Improve Your Orgasms?

Tue, 03/01/2016 - 13:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was wondering if you could clear up some confusion I have regarding strengthening your PC muscles and orgasms. What I often read is that kegels will often "enhance" your orgasm or have them happen more frequently.(Yes )

I also have watched a video with you talking about them and how they first came about helping women achieve orgasm for the first time (while initially doing them for incontinence). I know how much you stress that most women who do have orgasm through intercourse are achieving it through clitoral stimulation.

I Want to Add Pleasure to My Life

Fri, 02/26/2016 - 08:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 32 year old woman who has had very little experience with learning how to reach orgasm during sex.

I never worried so much about it because my partners never really cared. But I am with a man now who wants to pleasure me and wants me to tell him what I like and how to make me feel good. I have realized that I don't know anything about this with dealing with myself since my focus has always been on my partner. I feel silly and embarrassed not even knowing where to begin. It frustrates him that he can't make me climax and I want to.

Lover Upset I Don't Care How Much He Ejaculates

Fri, 02/19/2016 - 10:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty

My lover is very disappointed that I frankly don't care how much semen he ejaculates. I have tried to explain that it makes no difference to me. how much. I am more concerned about the intensity and satisfactions of his orgasms.

Surely the amount of come is based on how long since his last ejaculation not the quality of our fuck?

I'm 63 and can't remember this being an important issue to lovers in my youth. Is this yet another case of men being persuaded that women love 'come' via porn sites. Please, let me know how you all feel, perhaps I'm the one with a problem?

T

Dear C,

The More I Get Aroused The More I Tighten Up

Wed, 02/17/2016 - 08:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Thank you so much for all you do for sexual education and female emancipation. I am so impressed with the body of work you have created, both in art and sexual health.

I'm a 30-year-old woman with primary vaginismus, and have attempted penetrative sex numerous times, with myself and with a partner, but after trying so many times, it's still a challenge. Of course, I have watched yours and Carlin's video on vaginismus, and have read all the literature I could find on the topic.