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If a Man has a Smaller Penis What Sex Positions Will Give His Woman Pleasure?

Tue, 01/12/2016 - 09:44
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I first want to say I really enjoy your website and find it very informative.

Ok, so I have question to ask concerning sexual positions and penis size. If a man has something of a smaller penis what sexual positions can be used to give his woman pleasure? Is woman on top really the way to go? And is there any advice you can give me about penis extenders?

Thank you for answering my questions.

Dear A,

The best info for you is to understand that most women do NOT have orgasms from penis/vagina intercourse. That's how we make babies! So you can stop worrying about having an average penis. The only bad news is that you will never be a porn star. Boo hoo! All Online porn shows women faking orgasms from fucking cause that's the number ONE fantasy for you guys.

Experience a Sharp Pain While Masturbating

Mon, 01/04/2016 - 08:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr Betty,

I don't know who else to ask as I'd feel really awkward going to my doctor about this! So I'd be really grateful if you could provide some guidance.

First thing to mention is that I don't really masturbate a lot. I have never orgasmed either alone or with a partner. I've never really let that bother me too much, but my new boyfriend seems really hassled by it so I figured I should try.

Is It Too Late for Me to Orgasm?

Sat, 01/02/2016 - 10:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm 64 years old and just found this site last night. Where were you 30 years ago?

I had a radical hysterectomy when I was 50. Before then I was never able to orgasm in my 30 years of marriage. I did find myself waking up at night with a clitoral orgasm which was great but I never figured out how I got there. I now am in a relationship with a very loving man and feel there may be hope.

My question is, is it too late. I noticed after my hysterectomy that my night time orgasms slowly left. I don't have them any more. My lover really arouses me and I am wondering what I can do to help myself become more responsive.

Thanks for your help.,

Dear R,

How Do I Explore My Bisexuality in a Monogamous Relationship

Thu, 12/31/2015 - 08:19
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm 20 years old and have been with my current partner for 3 years. He is strictly monogamous and I think " I'm recently coming into my identity as bisexual as well and have been really wishing I could it explore it more. It's not that I don't love my partner and cherish the way our relationship is, it's just that I wish I could explore other relationships as well.

Do you have any advice?

Dear M,

Seems you answered your own questions. "I may be more of a polyamorous type of person. I've been feeling for awhile now like I'm missing out on the chance to date and be intimate with other people, especially being so young."

I was Prescribed Saphris & Lost My Orgasm

Wed, 12/23/2015 - 09:55
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 45. I've been very sexually sensitive since I was 12. I could almost orgasm on thought alone. Four years ago I was prescribed Saphris 5mg, once a day. I was also diagnosed with hemorraghic cysts on ovaries one year ago. I have lost 95% of my ability to feel any pleasure at all. This happened 3 years ago. I still get wet and can feel small muscle spasms when I have intercourse, similair to when I had sex when I could feel something. I've noticed the hood of my clitoris had shrunk.

Should I Go Back to Masturbating & Watching Porn?

Wed, 12/16/2015 - 09:29
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am 27 year old male. I have been enjoying masturbation since I was 18. But recently I came across this phenomenon called Nofap and its benefits. So to see how it works, I stopped masturbating and watching porn. Lots of changes I saw within me. I craved for women a lot than before. I could only hold on to it for 20 days max.

I thought masturbation was the reason for me never having a girlfriend. I have had sexual experience with women but not relationships. Only thing I wanna ask here is, should I go back to regular masturbation and watching porn?

Dear A,

After One Orgasm I Feel DONE

Tue, 12/15/2015 - 08:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. B,

I hear all the time about the multiorgasmic capability of women. For me, after I come, I feel DONE. I'd love to be multiorgasmic, but the feeling of wanting to get off go away after I orgasm. I have pressure/tension orgasms (still trying to master tension/relaxation ones - my mom bought me a magic wand so I hope that helps!).

I have tried to continue to stimulate myself after an orgasm, but it just doesn't feel good anymore. Will I ever be able to have multiple orgasms?

Dear B,

Although you didn't mention your age, I'll assume you're a teen. First having one good orgasm is quite enough for most of us. One of the problems with so much sex information available is that we get piggy too soon and want it all NOW!

How Do I Not Let My Emotional Discomfort Override My Physical Response?

Mon, 11/30/2015 - 08:32
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am new to your and Carlin's site and have enjoyed browsing the videos, books, and all the other information provided. I have recently turned 50 yrs old and haven't been the most sexual active of people for various reasons. In retrospect of this fact, I feel as though it may have worked to my advantage in that, I do not have a lot of baggage in the form of negative sexual experiences to reprogram.

Most of what I have read or heard on this site has to do, how to physically manipulate my body to achieve a desired sensation which has been very interesting and helpful. I am also noticing as I explore the realms of self touch and stimulation, not only does it wake up my physical self but my emotional self. And there, I find my baggage.