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After I Orgasm I Want to be Alone

Mon, 07/18/2016 - 07:22
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr Betty,

I noticed after orgasm with a woman I get a sense of wanting to be alone. When I orgasm on my own I get a total feeling of disinterest in pursuing a partner with a thought like 'its too much work'. I heard about Post-coital tristesse and it sounded interesting to look into. I'm a 37 year old, single, hetero man.

The thought/attitude bothers me because I feel like I can be charming to get someone and say all the right thing(or try to at least) but then afterwards i lose interest for a short time. I dont want to pursue a woman then hurt her feelings. And sure enough, after a few minutes my mind is back at it, in charming mode with the same woman I happen to be spending time with.

I Can't Achieve Orgasm with Anyone

Fri, 07/15/2016 - 10:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 42 and I can only remember having an orgasm twice with a boyfriend in college. I've been exclusively with women for the last 7 yrs, not that it matters too much. The point is really that I haven't been able to achieve an orgasm with anyone. I've tried mastrbating on and off throughout the years, but I can't seem to teach myself to orgasm that way either. I've watch all kinds of videos and a few of yours as well. When I masterbate or am with a partner, I don't seem to have any sensation in my clitoris. Is this possible?

Are My Sex Dreams Ruining My Relationships?

Tue, 07/12/2016 - 06:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've been having trouble sticking to the right guy for more than a few months. I'm currently single drowning myself in romance novels and having a recurring dream for the past two weeks.

In my dream I don't know this person and, i barely look at him. I feel so much pleasure during the dream. I wake up and I am all hot and sweaty even with the AC on.

I've looked up online what recurring sex dreams are about, but nothing pawns out. I'm feeling like it's getting in the way of finding a guy or even getting out there. Maybe has to do with drowning myself In romance novels and wanting what the author writes. Hope you have a wonderful day stay cool!!!

E

Is My large Penis a Blessing or a Curse?

Wed, 07/06/2016 - 10:10
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Dodson,

I've been watching your videos and you speak on many different important topics. My question involves my penis. It's very long flaccid ( 10 inches) and gains 1 inch erect (11 inches or 11.5) I have photos to prove it such as dick print or nude if your not to shy or prudent. I constantly get strange stares.

Is my penis size a freak intended blessing or not? Thank you for you feedback and keep making those informative videos please.

T

Dear T,

Well, you certainly have an appropriate last name as an owner of an 11,.5 inch dick. I'm neither shy nor prudish so by all means, do send a dick pic. As to whether your penis size is a blessing would depend upon the person with whom you are having sex.

I Can't Orgasm. I Have a Covered Clit

Fri, 06/24/2016 - 06:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am in love with your videos. I deeply respect both you and Carlin's opinions and I thank you for opening my eyes removing shame around masturbation.

Happy to know you enjoy our videos. However, you would benefit more from reading the information inside the website.

I am 17 years old, and I've been masturbating for as long as I can remember. In 3rd grade, I would climb up and hang on the fireman's pole, and rope in gym-class for hours, just clenching and unclenching my PC muscles (I think that's what they're called). I would hang on the corner of our kitchen island, and off of door knobs.

The PC muscle is very important for enhancing your orgasms. Use it at the same time you stimulate your clitoris using coconut oil to enhance the sensation.

Boyfriend Uncomfortable with Porn in Our Sex Life

Tue, 06/21/2016 - 07:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I have been masturbating since I was about 13 years old (I'm 17 now.) The first time I had an orgasm was with an electric toothbrush as a vibrator. Since then I have gone in phases, trying to masturbate with only my hands, reading porn (in the form of smutty fan fiction), watching porn, using fingers on the inside and outside. I've experimented with lube and I now have a real vibrator (and a real dildo is on the way!) I also have a boyfriend (I identify as bisexual) and we have sex regularly.

For Everyone Struggling in Search of an Orgasm

Sat, 06/18/2016 - 08:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson
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I just read several question from women in their teens to fifty and beyond searching for their first orgasm. This sexual suffering seems never ending and it breaks my heart. Something totally natural has been perverted by religions in male dominated cultures. This is when wives and mothers are turned into a sexual police force controlling their daughters to be virgins until they're married. Patriarchy could never survive without a matriarchy to keep it in place.

Do You Feel There's a Double Standard: Male vs Female Bisexuality?

Mon, 06/13/2016 - 07:27
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty & Carlin:

I have had good heterosexual sex throughout my life. Now, at 50, I'm more interested in ever to have sex with another male. Seems that my most arousing fantasies these days involve sucking a beautiful hard cock and fucking and getting fucked hard by another guy... It's such a hot fantasy!

My question is, do you feel there's a double standard when it comes to male vs female bisexuality. I feel that somehow it's seen as OK for the girls to fuck other girls, but for boys to fuck is just down right gay. Your feedback is respected and appreciated!

B

Dear B,

Betty, What's Your Sex Life with Men These Days?

Tue, 06/07/2016 - 07:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Hope I'm not being too nosey. I would like to know what your sex life with men is like these days?

W

Hi W, Since I'm about as far "out" sexually as you can get, I loved your question. As you might suspect, not many men (young or old) are interested in having sex with an "older" woman, especially one as knowledgeable as I am. They want youth with no comparisons which keeps alive the "virginity myth."
Since I did the same thing when I was in my seventies (The youth of old age.) I understand this. During that decade I was living with a man who was some forty years younger. Our sexlife was spectacular! I was also teaching him all that I'd learned as a sexually active woman.

Is It Ethical to Have Sex for $ with Someone Cheating on a Partner?

Fri, 06/03/2016 - 08:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I appreciate your frank and honest approach to sexuality, Betty, and the way you and your team are focused on empowering women. Thank you for that. I've been wanting to ask a true feminist this question for some time: Is it ethical for a person to have sex for money with someone they know is cheating on a partner?

I get that the "cheating" part is mostly the fault of the person soliciting (usually male). However, one of the reasons sex work is frowned upon is because of this fact. Most women who are not sex workers tend to be very judgmental about prostitutes, which I think stems from this reality.