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Every Time I Get Close to Orgasm It "Stops"

Mon, 08/22/2016 - 08:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

I am a 23 year old and I've never had an orgasm. I've never had sex (though I like to say I took my own virginity!). I masturbate a lot, at least once a day. I mostly don't use toys, but I do have an array over tried out. For some reason I always reach the same stopping point regardless of if I'm with a partner, by myself, using toys, or not using toys. Whenever I reach this stopping point i just don't want to continue. It feels weird and it's not really pleasant. Sometimes when at exactly the moment I reach this stopping point I start crying and I have no idea why. This has happened with partners and when I'm by myself.

How Can I Improve Sex with a Partner?

Thu, 08/18/2016 - 07:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr Betty,

I first off wanted to thank you for responding to my message I sent in a few months ago where you encouraged me to stop listening to my peers bragging about their sex lives and do things at my own pace, including continuing with masturbation. It was so nice to receive your response.

I now have a sexual partner and have had penetrative sex for the first time a few days ago. He has done this before, although I don't think he has much experience either as despite the foreplay being good and feeling very turned on, the sex seemed pretty aggressive, and he didn't return the oral sex I gave to him. He also used a condom but was unable to orgasm, so the sex ended with us both feeling frustrated and awkward. For my first time it was a bit disappointing.

Will Masturbating Face Down Ruin Partner Sex?

Mon, 08/15/2016 - 07:12
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I'm 18 years old and have been masturbating and able to reach orgasm since a really young age. I've always been and continue to be a very sexual person. I masturbate regularly, sometimes more than once. I'm a virgin but i've had phone sex with guys before. However, i'm always masturbating on my face, humping my bed, couch, walls, pillows, shower etc. sometimes i reach my hand and spread my lips and i'm able to orgasm every time. Lately, i've been trying to masturbate lying on my back and touching my clit, even inserting a finger in but I don't find it as pleasurable as being face down.

How Do I Explain My Sexual Preferences to My Partners?

Thu, 08/11/2016 - 07:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I am a 29 year-old African American heterosexual male and I came across your videos on you tube a few months ago and first I want to thank you for all you guys and gals do and your great work.

How Can I Move On After Getting Herpes From My First Love?

Mon, 08/08/2016 - 12:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty:

You are one of my teachers. I've read your whole page. I am a very hard working attractive 25 year old Caribbean woman and I got herpes 1 from a mutually monogamous relationship. He never knew he had it until he got a really bad flu and had broken up with me while being in love with me. His symptoms showed up a few days after. I had always asked my last flings to get tested, I did not ask him out of pure love. I trusted him but at the same time I assume responsibility. I knew before hand he wasn't tested.

Is My Boyfriend Gay or Bisexual?

Thu, 08/04/2016 - 11:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

my bf is straight so i always thought but we were talking about our biggest secrets and he said about 20 yrs ago he got drunk and high and had sex with a man. Ar first i was freaked out but i never stopped loving him and always stayed supportative he has brought it up a few times but last night he was telling me in details about him and the other guy and was getting himself aroused.

he made hints about wanting saying i would like to him see a man having sex with him? is that a hint that he wants to have a threesome with him and another man? Is he bi? or just really comfortable with his sexuality? He said hes been having wet dreams. idk what any of this means.

Thrusting Becomes Painful During Sex

Mon, 08/01/2016 - 15:42
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty! Your work is amazing and a wonderful contribution to people everywhere.

MY PROBLEM: Perhaps you have some insight. Sex seems great until my husband of five years starts thrusting. I feel a mixture of pleasure, but then soon, a growing tearing/burning pain often cuts the sex short.

What Do You Think About the Taoists' Ideas of Having Orgasms in Different Chakras?

Fri, 07/29/2016 - 07:30
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Huge fan. I've watched every Youtube video, read your biography, and watched the BodySex documentary. Love all of your work! And love you! Your education has meant a lot to me.

Just wondering what you think about the Tao jade egg practices? (An ayurvedic practitioner recommended it on her blog. I just bought one and have noticed a tremendous amount of lubrication. And I'm feeling pretty turned on. I take it out to clean it with tea tree oil sometimes. I haven't tried any of the exercises yet.)

Betty: Lubricating and feeling turned on is your own answer.

What do you think about the Taoists' ideas of having orgasms in different chakras?

He's in Pain. We Can't Have Sex. I'm Tortured

Mon, 07/25/2016 - 07:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty.

Before I start, I apologise for the length of my message.

I am 42. Married for 20 years and counting. I was diagnosed with Leukeamia at the age of 20. (Still fighting the battle.)

I lost my virginity to my husband who is ten years older than I from the UK. Now I'm not blowing/tooting my horn, but he's a skilled lover and spent the first few years of our marriage teaching me. My 'lessons' as he called them.

Took me a long time to accept sex as a good thing. 'Cause I was raised in the South with fanatical religious southern baptists. And all things sexual including masturbation- you name it- was my one way ticket to hell.

All I End Up Doing is Making Her Clitoris Sensitive with No Orgasm

Wed, 07/20/2016 - 07:04
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey Betty,

My girlfriend and I met the first week of college and have been going out for about half a year now. She is amazing and very giving in bed. She has had her share of sexual partners in the past with a couple of boys and one girl and she tells me that they had never been able to help her reach an orgasm. Only she herself on her own has reached an orgasm. I am also the first person she has had sex with and of course I want to help her feel a great deal of pleasure and help her reach an orgasm.