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Did a Rocket Blast Damage My Orgasm?

Mon, 09/19/2016 - 08:19
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am a 31 year old woman that has never had an orgasm...I think. I joined the military at 18 and was too busy to really explore my body and I also would regularly be intoxicated if I did have sex with male partners. At 21 I came out and started to sleep with women but mainly would touch them and not spend much time on myself. During these times I also deployed to Iraq twice for 12 month deployments where I slept in tents with 30+ people and was unable to masturbate. I always assumed the orgasm would come later on when I had time. Basically, I didn't make it a priority then.

I Feel Nothing in My Clit & Vag

Tue, 09/06/2016 - 06:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I hit puberty when I was only 9 and started feeling really sexual at about 13. I would try rubbing my clit,fingering, the "come here" motion and nothing worked. Not only did I not feel pleasure, but I barely felt anything at all. Especially in my clit. I was so disappointed and frustrated about not feeling anything that I threw away my virginity to see if it was different. It wasn't. I felt absolutely nothing. Not even pain. The boy was only 13 and it was his first time too, but he really tried. He tried sucking on my clit and rubbing it during penetration. Didn't feel it. I took a break from sex after hating it so much and tried to stick to masturbation.

Is It Wrong That I'm a 30 Year Old Virgin?

Wed, 08/31/2016 - 08:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

love the website. So my question is this. I am a 30 year old virgin is something wrong with me for being one? I feel that I should have lost it a long time ago. Now for more about me. I am a straight man and I feel guilty for finding women attractive and also my heterosexuality feels wrong. I am also really insecure about the size of my penis. I come from a house where my dad was a sexual deviant and through out my teenage years my mother constantly reminded my me about it.so my sexual feelings feel wrong till the point that I have publicly purged my sexual self till the point where not even my own family knows I am straight.

How Can Women Present Such Different Responses?

Thu, 08/25/2016 - 07:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

First of all, as a woman, I can't thank you and Carlin enough for your empowering, liberating efforts, which have closely guided me through my journey of sexual discovery.

I've masturbated with tension since I've been a child by humping the mattress and keeping my legs straight. It gives me localized, nice little orgasms which are clearly defined: there's a built-up of tension, I reach that small peak, calm down, get wet and my clit becomes very sensitive (in a good way).

Every Time I Get Close to Orgasm It "Stops"

Mon, 08/22/2016 - 08:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

I am a 23 year old and I've never had an orgasm. I've never had sex (though I like to say I took my own virginity!). I masturbate a lot, at least once a day. I mostly don't use toys, but I do have an array over tried out. For some reason I always reach the same stopping point regardless of if I'm with a partner, by myself, using toys, or not using toys. Whenever I reach this stopping point i just don't want to continue. It feels weird and it's not really pleasant. Sometimes when at exactly the moment I reach this stopping point I start crying and I have no idea why. This has happened with partners and when I'm by myself.

How Can I Improve Sex with a Partner?

Thu, 08/18/2016 - 07:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr Betty,

I first off wanted to thank you for responding to my message I sent in a few months ago where you encouraged me to stop listening to my peers bragging about their sex lives and do things at my own pace, including continuing with masturbation. It was so nice to receive your response.

I now have a sexual partner and have had penetrative sex for the first time a few days ago. He has done this before, although I don't think he has much experience either as despite the foreplay being good and feeling very turned on, the sex seemed pretty aggressive, and he didn't return the oral sex I gave to him. He also used a condom but was unable to orgasm, so the sex ended with us both feeling frustrated and awkward. For my first time it was a bit disappointing.

Will Masturbating Face Down Ruin Partner Sex?

Mon, 08/15/2016 - 07:12
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I'm 18 years old and have been masturbating and able to reach orgasm since a really young age. I've always been and continue to be a very sexual person. I masturbate regularly, sometimes more than once. I'm a virgin but i've had phone sex with guys before. However, i'm always masturbating on my face, humping my bed, couch, walls, pillows, shower etc. sometimes i reach my hand and spread my lips and i'm able to orgasm every time. Lately, i've been trying to masturbate lying on my back and touching my clit, even inserting a finger in but I don't find it as pleasurable as being face down.

How Do I Explain My Sexual Preferences to My Partners?

Thu, 08/11/2016 - 07:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I am a 29 year-old African American heterosexual male and I came across your videos on you tube a few months ago and first I want to thank you for all you guys and gals do and your great work.

How Can I Move On After Getting Herpes From My First Love?

Mon, 08/08/2016 - 12:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty:

You are one of my teachers. I've read your whole page. I am a very hard working attractive 25 year old Caribbean woman and I got herpes 1 from a mutually monogamous relationship. He never knew he had it until he got a really bad flu and had broken up with me while being in love with me. His symptoms showed up a few days after. I had always asked my last flings to get tested, I did not ask him out of pure love. I trusted him but at the same time I assume responsibility. I knew before hand he wasn't tested.

Is My Boyfriend Gay or Bisexual?

Thu, 08/04/2016 - 11:56
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

my bf is straight so i always thought but we were talking about our biggest secrets and he said about 20 yrs ago he got drunk and high and had sex with a man. Ar first i was freaked out but i never stopped loving him and always stayed supportative he has brought it up a few times but last night he was telling me in details about him and the other guy and was getting himself aroused.

he made hints about wanting saying i would like to him see a man having sex with him? is that a hint that he wants to have a threesome with him and another man? Is he bi? or just really comfortable with his sexuality? He said hes been having wet dreams. idk what any of this means.