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Am I a Lesbian or Bisexual?

Sun, 01/08/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am 17 years old and I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend, although I've always been in romantic relationships with boys, until now. One thing I know for sure is I've always been attracted to women (I've always fantisized about girls bodies) but I don't know if I'm attracted to boys at all: I've never had a sexual experience, encounter or relationship with a man (not because I don't want to, I just haven't had the opportunity) and I think penises are gross and they scare me.

I've read this is normal since I've never had sex with a man and when the time comes I'll get used to it. I'm desperate to know my sexuality because I don't know what to tell people when they ask me and want to label me.

Dear J,

I Feel Pressure But Not Pleasure

Sat, 12/31/2016 - 15:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm an 18 year old girl who likes girls. I am currently in a long-term relationship but have never orgasmed during intercourse. I feel pressure occasionally but never any pleasure. Touching my clitorus and penetration both just feel like pressure, no sensation at all. I have tried masturbation since I was in middle school or so (maybe a little sooner) with the same results, no sensation.

I Need to Practice Delaying Ejaculation. Should I Cheat or Masturbate?

Thu, 12/29/2016 - 09:03
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Throughout my 18 year marriage with my wife I've been a premature ejaculator (it's been really hard for both of us). The thing is is that I get turned on so quickly (every time I embrace my wife and give her a kiss there's a stirring in my pants - I never have a cuddle without becoming erect (and it's embarrassing to be honest - perhaps it would be less so if I could avoid cumming after 1 or 2 minutes inside her).

I have found that using a delay cream helps and makes sex last a lot longer and much more enjoyable.

Wife Feels It Takes Me Too Long to Ejaculate

Mon, 12/19/2016 - 08:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

Most of your readers complain about them or their men not lasting long enough to enjoy sex. My problem is just the opposite. I enjoy sex and want to enjoy it as long as I can. This means that I can stay erect and have sex for over an hour on average. This has become a problem as my wife feels I take too long.

She says that sex with me is hard work and take a lot of effort. In fact, I am the one doing all the hard work while she enjoys it with her head in the pillows. To please her I try to cum earlier but thats not easy for me and leaves me unsatisfied.

Can You help me figure out how I can finish quickly and enjoy sex at the same time. is there something wrong with me?

Thanks, R

Dear R,

New BF Wants Me to Squirt

Mon, 11/28/2016 - 08:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty and Carlin,

I'm in my 40's and just getting back out there after my 25 year marriage ended. My sex life with the ex was not too exciting. A new guy I've been seeing for a few months is more adventurous sexually (I took a tip from Betty and went out with a younger guy LOL). Anyhow, this guy seems obsessed with getting me to "squirt" and even makes me feel like there's something wrong with me because I can't pull it off.

I don't know much about it, I pretty much thought it was a "stunt" done in adult movies to make guys think they are "big studs" for making a woman ejaculate. Am I right to be ambivalent about this? Frankly it seems like a big mess more than anything.

Thanks!
R

What is a Good Age to Teach Kids About Sex?

Tue, 11/22/2016 - 08:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am brand new to this amazing resource and have spent all day combing through posts and podcast videos and I really appreciate what a wonderful set of educational tools you and Carlin have provided here.

I have a 5 year old daughter and I'm wondering how I can incorporate sex education into her development in a healthy way and at what age it's appropriate?

Is My Hooded Clitoris Keeping Me From Pleasure?

Wed, 11/16/2016 - 08:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dearest Betty and Carlin, get a drink, this is a long one.

I am a 63yr old lesbian and I have finally started my journey toward sexual healing and liberation. I discovered your wonderful web site while searching for information on hooded clits. Google had listed it’s best results, when I accidentally dropped my mouse on the keyboard, and up popped your clitoral hood chart page. If that’s not the Goddess sending me to you, I don’t know what is.

I started reading. I read for hours. I cried out of pain, I cried out of joy, I cried out of anger, finally I cried out of sadness that it has taken me 63 years to start this healing.

Went on the Pill & Lost My Orgasm

Mon, 10/31/2016 - 12:48
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi there!

I feel like my story has a lot of weird details, so thank you ahead of time for your patience. I am experiencing some issues with orgasm and am looking for advice and help.

I got married a three years ago in my early 20s. I was a virgin until my wedding night, so the only sexual experience I have has been with my husband (my husband was not a virgin, not sure if you might need to know that as well). Even though we didn’t have sex before marriage, we have always had a lot of chemistry. I remember I would become very aroused just from making out, even with no petting or serious touching.