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Can't Orgasm Since Menopause

Tue, 01/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am in the late stages of menopause and have been having trouble reaching orgasm. My history has been that I have only been able to have an orgasm via oral sex or with a vibrator. Lately, it is only with a vibrator and even then it is about 50% of the time. I recently began hormone replacement therapy to regulate my hormones; testosterone was particularly low. When I am having sex, I do become very excited and during intercourse my clit becomes "erect", but that seems to be the end of it - touching it or having oral sex does not increase the level of excitement I feel in my clitoris. And finding my G-spot has always been a mystery. I love intercourse but do not feel any "build up" other than a rush just before my partner comes. I'm beginning to feel depressed about not being able to have an orgasm during partnersex and my boyfriend has been very understanding but it must bother him on some level. Any advice?

Can I Teach Myself to Orgasm?

Sun, 08/26/2007 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Thank you for your inforation about having a private session with Dr. Dodson regarding my lack of orgasm. As you advised, I will be ordering her video.

If I can take care of this all by myself with a simple video, and can save my marriage, then I'd rather not say anything to my husband just yet.

From what I read on the web site and in the magazine article about Betty I am going to need some paraphernalia besides the video in order to have any luck with myself. Can you or she suggest anything and maybe even a place I can get these things without total embarrassment or my husband finding out about the problem?

Do I need A Dildo To Exercise My Kegels?

Thu, 05/17/2007 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Dodson:

In your book, Sex for One, you talk about having to do Kegel Exercises for incontinence. Is it necessary to have a dildo in the vagina? My instructions state that you should tighten the muscles around the sphincter but not tighten the buttocks, upper thighs, etc.

Your book made me feel better about my vulva's appearance. I too thought my wattle was ugly and extended due to masturbation. To give you an example of how poor my education is, I thought the wattle WAS my clitoris. I also enjoyed your artwork and hope you'll have more published.

Thanks! L

Dear L,

Why are Sex Work and Feminism Mutually Exclusive?

Mon, 01/29/2007 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Miss Betty:

March 1st is the anniversary of my first orgasm and I felt it time to thank you for your role in that. After stumbling upon your website two years ago in dire sexual frustration over my "inability" to orgasm, I was inspired by the empowering nature of the material you and Grant have included and proceeded to lay down to enjoy my own sexual responses. Before I knew it - fireworks! I wept and released years' worth of inadequacy.

What Can I do About Vaginal Dryness?

Sat, 07/29/2006 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hiya Betty,

Love your website! I am a 21 year old female who just gave birth to my second child two months ago. I have been having trouble getting wet ever since I can remember. Even when I masturbate, at first I get a little moist but then it seems to just dry up and then I get uncomfortable. I've almost always had to use lube whenever I have sex with my husband. Is this normal for my age? And is there anything I can do to make myself get wet?

Your DVD Gave Me First Orgasm!

Tue, 07/18/2006 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm 47 years old and had my first orgasm with a vibrator about a month ago after watching and learning from your videotape Celebrating Orgasm. I can't thank you enough for what you have done for me. This has been a life long problem that has been like a heavy weight on my shoulders. The orgasms I have now are extremely intense and pleasurable. I just had no idea that this is what it would feel like. Also, thanks to learning from your video, I was able to have three orgasms in one session by continuing the stimulation.

Jealous of My Husband's Porn. HELP!

Wed, 05/10/2006 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I recently found out that my husband has been using porn sites quite extensively. These sites appear to be about hooking up with sexually likeminded people, and his "profiles" state explicitly that he is looking for someone. I spoke to him about this, and he assures me that it is only fantasy, and that I shouldn't over analyze it.

Thank You For Your Wonderful Books

Sat, 04/29/2006 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Thank you for your courage in speaking out for women and sex education. It is a subject nobody wants to talk about, but is so badly needed. Your books, videos, and products have greatly changed my life.

I am a woman, 49 years old, married 26 years, and believed sex WAS intercourse. I always felt something was missing but didn't know what. I didn't masturbate and didn't have orgasms. I didn't know what a clitoris was or what to do with it. My husband didn't have a clue as to why I didn't enjoy sex.

How Do I Use My Fingers To Masturbate

Sun, 04/16/2006 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

You've been a great inspiration to me and I felt you'd be the best person to turn to for advice about my masturbation dilemma. Here is my story:

My Pussy Is Too Tight!

Sat, 04/15/2006 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm a 21 year old who has never had sex. It's not that I haven't tried. But my vagina is so tight that my boyfriend can't penetrate me. I first tried having sex when I was 17 with my boyfriend at that time. We were both inexperienced and after trying various positions, we finally gave up because I was starting to get sore.

Now, I have a different boyfriend, and we have the same problem once again. My current boyfriend has had sex before so I realize that it's me and my tight vagina that's preventing us from having any intercourse. Once again, we tried various positions, but it hurt a lot and I even bled a little. What is wrong with me? And what can I do to make my vagina not so tight?


Dear J,