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Had Orgasms as a Teen but Now Nothing

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

My name is Katie and I'm 23 years old. I used to be highly orgasmic as a teenager and always wanted sex. For the last several years, however, I've experienced so many problems that I just don't know what to do: chronic vaginitis for two years and extreme dryness, and most recently I haven't been able to orgasm at all with my boyfriend or by myself with a vibrator (on high settings it can take over 45 minutes) and I never want sex.

Can You Have Too Much Sex?

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am concerned about my behavior. Simply because I don't know any other women like me. I don't want to get married, I don't want children, and I love sex but maybe a little too much if that is possible. Almost every one of my relationships, no matter how long (the longest being 2 years), I have cheated at some point. I don't feel bad about it at all. I usually warn guys that, the first time they say no to me, I will be looking else where. I am very demanding of men. When I want sex, I better get it. It's so terrible but I tend to treat them like human dildos. I masturbate every day even when I'm in a relationship. Guys always say they can keep up with me but they never can, so I cheat.

I'm a Woman Who Fantasizes and Wants to Stop

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Goddess of Masturbation,

Allow me to reintroduce myself: My name is Wand I am the ballsy girl who decided to approach you after being denied entry by campus security: The masses of other horny girls were swarming your virtues. They said it was a breech of fire code, but I think you were the only one in danger of this fire code. My loins were aflame because of you! And I couldn't take my eyes off your firm ass and butch-like stance. Very intriguing, all the photos I've seen of you, looking the most femme with makeup and hairspray, and femme-smile. Yet in person you reveled a strong, sexy, obscure butch. Ahhh, all the fantasies I can create with just that knowledge alone! I would love to meet you again; when/where are your next appearances?

My Clitoris has Decreased Sensitivity

Tue, 01/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I have just recently found out that the aforementioned topic is a bad thing. This explains a lot to me (a 20- year old woman). From the approximate ages or 8 to 18, I probably masturbated using water pressure from the faucet in my bath tub almost every time I took a bath -- so, almost daily. Now at the age of twenty, I find myself in college and frustrating every man I meet.

Why Does My Vagina Tear During Sex?

Tue, 01/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

Just found your site and thought you might be able to answer a question I've been trying to have answered for years now. I had a child almost 4 years ago, and got a nasty perineal tear; they couldn't decide if it was fourth or fifth degree, but either way it was bad and required a lot of stitches. They said it healed up fine, and I have to admit I didn't have any troubles at the time.

Can't Orgasm Since Menopause

Tue, 01/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am in the late stages of menopause and have been having trouble reaching orgasm. My history has been that I have only been able to have an orgasm via oral sex or with a vibrator. Lately, it is only with a vibrator and even then it is about 50% of the time. I recently began hormone replacement therapy to regulate my hormones; testosterone was particularly low. When I am having sex, I do become very excited and during intercourse my clit becomes "erect", but that seems to be the end of it - touching it or having oral sex does not increase the level of excitement I feel in my clitoris. And finding my G-spot has always been a mystery. I love intercourse but do not feel any "build up" other than a rush just before my partner comes. I'm beginning to feel depressed about not being able to have an orgasm during partnersex and my boyfriend has been very understanding but it must bother him on some level. Any advice?

Can I Teach Myself to Orgasm?

Sun, 08/26/2007 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello
Thank you for your inforation about having a private session with Dr. Dodson regarding my lack of orgasm. As you advised, I will be ordering her video.

If I can take care of this all by myself with a simple video, and can save my marriage, then I'd rather not say anything to my husband just yet.

From what I read on the web site and in the magazine article about Betty I am going to need some paraphernalia besides the video in order to have any luck with myself. Can you or she suggest anything and maybe even a place I can get these things without total embarrassment or my husband finding out about the problem?

Do I need A Dildo To Exercise My Kegels?

Thu, 05/17/2007 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Dodson:

In your book, Sex for One, you talk about having to do Kegel Exercises for incontinence. Is it necessary to have a dildo in the vagina? My instructions state that you should tighten the muscles around the sphincter but not tighten the buttocks, upper thighs, etc.

Your book made me feel better about my vulva's appearance. I too thought my wattle was ugly and extended due to masturbation. To give you an example of how poor my education is, I thought the wattle WAS my clitoris. I also enjoyed your artwork and hope you'll have more published.

Thanks! L

Dear L,

Why are Sex Work and Feminism Mutually Exclusive?

Mon, 01/29/2007 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Miss Betty:

March 1st is the anniversary of my first orgasm and I felt it time to thank you for your role in that. After stumbling upon your website two years ago in dire sexual frustration over my "inability" to orgasm, I was inspired by the empowering nature of the material you and Grant have included and proceeded to lay down to enjoy my own sexual responses. Before I knew it - fireworks! I wept and released years' worth of inadequacy.

What Can I do About Vaginal Dryness?

Sat, 07/29/2006 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hiya Betty,

Love your website! I am a 21 year old female who just gave birth to my second child two months ago. I have been having trouble getting wet ever since I can remember. Even when I masturbate, at first I get a little moist but then it seems to just dry up and then I get uncomfortable. I've almost always had to use lube whenever I have sex with my husband. Is this normal for my age? And is there anything I can do to make myself get wet?