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Finding My Inner Ethical Slut

Betty Dodson's picture
Fri, 02/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty-

I am 23, and have been single for 3 years since moving to New York, working a ton and having occasional unfulfilling casual sex. I read the book CUNT shortly after moving here, and not only discovered who you were and your greatness, but it opened a new door to my sexuality and femininity. Since then, I have been studying your books and words avidly, loving myself regularly, spreading your wisdom to all my favorite women, getting my PC muscle in shape, smiling more because of all the loving I get to be having with myself, and adoring every minute of it all.

Can't Achieve Orgasm

Betty Dodson's picture
Fri, 02/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was never a fan of masturbating, but my boyfriend and I started engaging in phone sex with each other whenever we are not in physical contact. My problem is, I can't make myself orgasm nor can my boyfriend. I remember having orgasms a few times just having sexual thoughts. And a few years back, I orgasmed when my then boyfriend touched me. Now, I can't do it anymore and I don't know why.

Great Sex with Wife But How Can I Last Longer?

Betty Dodson's picture
Fri, 02/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Cheers Betty,

I, age 70, and my wife, age 66, are retired. We continue to enjoy intimate moments on a regular basis. We each also enjoy alone-time. After some brief explanations, I have three questions for you.

The Truth About the Rhythm Method

Betty Dodson's picture
Fri, 02/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am writing you about the "Birth Control Makes My Pussy Drier" article, where you say that "Although I never tried it, once a woman gets tuned into her ovulation times, that too can be adequate."

The reason I am writing you is that I am an "Ogino daughter." My mom, who is about your age or maybe a few years younger, did exactly that when she was a teenager. She relied on counting the days to her ovulation ("natural method birth control"}. This led her to two pregnancies, one at 16 that ended in an abortion (when abortions were still illegal in my country) and the other at 19, and that's me.

Wife Having Hip Surgery. Should I Take a Lover?

Betty Dodson's picture
Fri, 02/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty-

I am 67 years old and have a healthy sex drive. I stay trim by working out 3 days a week at the health club. I am active in outdoor activities. My wife is 4 years younger than me and seems to have almost no sex drive. This has been going on for about the last four years. I think I can relate this change to her surgery for hip replacement. The Dr. cautioned her about urinary tract infections after surgery.

Love My Elongated Clitoris

Betty Dodson's picture
Fri, 02/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty

I am 58 and just recently married a 65 year old widower. All my life I felt embarrassed by a very plump and elongated clitoris. A always masturbated even from a young age-by rubbing the shaft. I always felt an orgasm in my vagina and my clitoris. I love my husband so much. He is the first man to understand me sexually. He will lovingly masturbate my clitoris which is really like a small penis while I'm lying in bed in his arms for time on end. I feel so loved and complete and for the first time I know how lucky I am to be different.

Sex Has Started to Hurt

Betty Dodson's picture
Fri, 02/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

About two months ago I started to feel pain during sex. It was like I was clenching my vagina unwillingly and not allowing for intercourse with my husband, who I love and have no problems with. After a few doctor's visits and an ultrasound it was decided that I had BV, but had been diagnosed with a yeast infection on the first visit (and treated as such).

Suddenly, I Can't Orgasm

Betty Dodson's picture
Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've been with my current boyfriend, monogamously, for about a year and a half now. Achieving orgasm during sex with him hasn't really been a huge problem up until two months ago. That's not to say that I got off all the time; it was either I did, or I didn't come but still enjoyed the closeness of it. Then suddenly I've been having spells where I wouldn't get off during sex for many consecutive sessions. I would get really close so many times, but somehow couldn't reach it even given 30 minutes. I've been trying to do everything I can to fix it, and I know they all say that the first step is using masturbation to find out what you like, but the kicker is that I have NEVER orgasmed through masturbation. I've tried and tried and while I can make it feel good, it's just not enough to put me over the edge.

The Eroscillator is My Favorite Vibe

Betty Dodson's picture
Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I just found your web site and it's great. I am going to order some of your books and videos. You are the second person I have ever talked to about sex except my husband. I am 52 years old and have been married for 35 years. Since I was a child the only way I could have an orgasm was on the corner of a piece of furniture. I told my pastors wife about it and she said not to do it anymore. I did it anyway to get sexual release, but then felt guilty about it.

Can't Orgasm and It Hurts

Betty Dodson's picture
Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 36 yrs. old. Until I was 30 yrs. old I did not know that women had orgasms. I have NO interest in sex at all. My relationship of 6 yrs is failing because of this. My boyfriend feels like he's just my best friend since we don't have sexual relations besides me taking care of him. When we are together it hurts most of the time on the left side. Do you have any answers for me?

C

Dear C,