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Wife Having Hip Surgery. Should I Take a Lover?

Fri, 02/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty-

I am 67 years old and have a healthy sex drive. I stay trim by working out 3 days a week at the health club. I am active in outdoor activities. My wife is 4 years younger than me and seems to have almost no sex drive. This has been going on for about the last four years. I think I can relate this change to her surgery for hip replacement. The Dr. cautioned her about urinary tract infections after surgery.

Love My Elongated Clitoris

Fri, 02/01/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty

I am 58 and just recently married a 65 year old widower. All my life I felt embarrassed by a very plump and elongated clitoris. A always masturbated even from a young age-by rubbing the shaft. I always felt an orgasm in my vagina and my clitoris. I love my husband so much. He is the first man to understand me sexually. He will lovingly masturbate my clitoris which is really like a small penis while I'm lying in bed in his arms for time on end. I feel so loved and complete and for the first time I know how lucky I am to be different.

I Think My Clitoris is a Penis

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I appreciate so much your book "Sex for One". It's amazing how these old self-defeating messages rob us of our dearest self-love. I believe orgasm rejuvenates our whole system as taught by Yoginis for centuries. My first orgasm (never to be repeated) was a Whopper through oral sex from a "guru" type.

Suddenly, I Can't Orgasm

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've been with my current boyfriend, monogamously, for about a year and a half now. Achieving orgasm during sex with him hasn't really been a huge problem up until two months ago. That's not to say that I got off all the time; it was either I did, or I didn't come but still enjoyed the closeness of it. Then suddenly I've been having spells where I wouldn't get off during sex for many consecutive sessions. I would get really close so many times, but somehow couldn't reach it even given 30 minutes. I've been trying to do everything I can to fix it, and I know they all say that the first step is using masturbation to find out what you like, but the kicker is that I have NEVER orgasmed through masturbation. I've tried and tried and while I can make it feel good, it's just not enough to put me over the edge.

The Eroscillator is My Favorite Vibe

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I just found your web site and it's great. I am going to order some of your books and videos. You are the second person I have ever talked to about sex except my husband. I am 52 years old and have been married for 35 years. Since I was a child the only way I could have an orgasm was on the corner of a piece of furniture. I told my pastors wife about it and she said not to do it anymore. I did it anyway to get sexual release, but then felt guilty about it.

Can't Orgasm and It Hurts

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I'm 36 yrs. old. Until I was 30 yrs. old I did not know that women had orgasms. I have NO interest in sex at all. My relationship of 6 yrs is failing because of this. My boyfriend feels like he's just my best friend since we don't have sexual relations besides me taking care of him. When we are together it hurts most of the time on the left side. Do you have any answers for me?

C

Dear C,

Is It Dangerous to Have Anal Sex?

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm a straight man who's been enjoying sex normally. Recently I've been to a hotel where there was a ''biddet'' something I wasn't used to. I sat on it and had warm water in my anus and it was lovely. immediately i touched it and fantasized about having a penis inside. So I put some saliva on my fingers and started stimulating my anus which I found offered great pleasure. My fantasies went wild and now I have a doubt about going into bed with a man. I don't feel attracted to men at all but the pleasure I had with my fingers was amazing.

Had Orgasms as a Teen but Now Nothing

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

My name is Katie and I'm 23 years old. I used to be highly orgasmic as a teenager and always wanted sex. For the last several years, however, I've experienced so many problems that I just don't know what to do: chronic vaginitis for two years and extreme dryness, and most recently I haven't been able to orgasm at all with my boyfriend or by myself with a vibrator (on high settings it can take over 45 minutes) and I never want sex.

Can You Have Too Much Sex?

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am concerned about my behavior. Simply because I don't know any other women like me. I don't want to get married, I don't want children, and I love sex but maybe a little too much if that is possible. Almost every one of my relationships, no matter how long (the longest being 2 years), I have cheated at some point. I don't feel bad about it at all. I usually warn guys that, the first time they say no to me, I will be looking else where. I am very demanding of men. When I want sex, I better get it. It's so terrible but I tend to treat them like human dildos. I masturbate every day even when I'm in a relationship. Guys always say they can keep up with me but they never can, so I cheat.

I'm a Woman Who Fantasizes and Wants to Stop

Tue, 01/15/2008 - 00:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Goddess of Masturbation,

Allow me to reintroduce myself: My name is Wand I am the ballsy girl who decided to approach you after being denied entry by campus security: The masses of other horny girls were swarming your virtues. They said it was a breech of fire code, but I think you were the only one in danger of this fire code. My loins were aflame because of you! And I couldn't take my eyes off your firm ass and butch-like stance. Very intriguing, all the photos I've seen of you, looking the most femme with makeup and hairspray, and femme-smile. Yet in person you reveled a strong, sexy, obscure butch. Ahhh, all the fantasies I can create with just that knowledge alone! I would love to meet you again; when/where are your next appearances?