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Can Women Have External Orgasms?

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 07/31/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I've read that many women can have an orgasm simply by squeezing their thighs together. When I was younger (I'm 25 now) I used to be able to have an external orgasm using only my fingers, now it takes the most high-powered vibrator I own to do the job. How can I train my body to have faster, easier, and more intense orgasms?

Is It Selfish to Want Partner Sex?

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 07/31/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty:

I have read and enjoyed your website for years and purchased many products over time. I appreciate your candor and straight forward advice, with which I agree most of the time. As a 57 year old male in a 35 year monogamous marriage, I think you missed something in your advice posted on line referenced above. WHAT ABOUT THE HUSBAND? I readily agree that from my perspective it is a selfish question, and one you have answered several times in the past. I think women should be advised of the pain from physical and emotional withdrawal her husband is going through, and given some advice on how she can ease that pain if she wants him to stick around to assist with her illnesses.

I'm 31 and Never Had an Orgasm!

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 07/31/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I've spent a lot of time over the last month reading up on your website. This is really hard for me to admit, but I am 31 and I've never had an orgasm, or at least what I think an orgasm is supposed to be. This is really hard for me to talk about, as far as being so graphic, but judging from your website, you are completely open and I love that about you!!

How Many Orgasms Are There?

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 07/17/2008 - 15:13
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello,
Hello,

The reason I'm writing you is that they showed a program on Swedish TV tonight with three ladies from UK visiting you. I liked your open approach to females learning how to masturbate. I am a middle aged Swedish woman angry about the established "knowledge" regarding female orgasm. If I search the internet many expert articles say there is only one climax for the woman to reach and that is the clitoral one. But there are three! Through clitoris stimulation, vaginal orgasm and the G spot. And there is a possibility of combining! I have had personal experiences from men telling me that most women never have orgasm. Consequently, they don't have to make an effort. Please, tell the world it is not so. Then both men and women will get a better sex life.

Best regards!

Using a Dimmer Switch With My Hitachi

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 07/17/2008 - 15:10
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm reading "Orgasms for Two" and enjoying it very much. I just ordered the Liberte' from Eric so I can use it during partnersex. I'm sharing here, not asking a question. I've gone through several Magic Wands in the past 25 years. I plug it into a rheostat that has a slider on a long cord so I can have the wand in one hand and the rheostat in the other. It easily adjusts both the high and the low vibrations to anything my clit wants. No towel as a buffer to muffle is needed.

Much love and admiration to you,

O

Dear O,

I've Never Had An Orgasm

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 07/17/2008 - 14:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty!
Hi Betty!

My name is Saria and im a 20 year old woman from sweden. So my english isnt perfect.. i apologise. I just saw you in a programe about orgasm's and i became very curious. I was in a relationship with a guy almost 4 years, and i never dared to tell him that i never had an orgasm. We are not together any more, so im happy i didnt tell him.

How Do I Enjoy Sex With Severe Rheumatoid Arthritis?

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 07/17/2008 - 13:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am a twenty-two year old virgin with severe rheumatoid arthritis. I've had a boyfriend now for a year, and though we have engaged in quite a lot of sexual activity, he is afraid that having sex with me will hurt me even more. I have extremely limited mobility in my left hip and right knee, and only so much stamina, but I love him and I want to try it. Even if it affects me poorly afterwards I'm still willing. Do you have any suggestions about what position might be the least likely to cause problems, and perhaps put my boyfriend at ease about hurting me?

Sincerely,

D

Dear D,

Can I Get Addicted to My Vibrator?

Betty Dodson's picture
Tue, 07/15/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am writing this to find out where I can purchase a Magic Wand vibrator like the one used in your video Celebrating Orgasm, which I just watched. I absolutely LOVED your book Sex For One, and read it in only a few hours. I cannot believe how much I learned about women (and men) in general or what is normal and not normal. I was SO very ignorant before reading your book, and now I am much smarter and more confident in myself to continue to explore and play and pleasure myself.

How Do I Ask My New Lover To Watch Me Masturbate?

Betty Dodson's picture
Sun, 06/15/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am 50 and divorced. I have had two marriages that just nearly killed me. I met this woman shortly after the breakup of my marriage and she became a good friend. She is 36 and quite petite (5'2"), I am a big guy (220lbs - 5' 10"). She has asked me, in a round about way, to have sex with her. She says she isn't getting any and asks if I am. I am not looking for a serious relationship and don't think she is either.

My Vagina is tight and dry...can I orgasm?

Betty Dodson's picture
Sat, 06/14/2008 - 23:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am a 60 year old crone.  I take lisinopril, hctz, and lipitor as well as lexapro. I have not had sex with a woman for more than 5 years. I have not touched myself in about 4-5 years. I have been very asexual in mind and body. I have been "dry" a very long time. I recently met the woman of my dreams. I am aroused to passion. We have made love twice. The second time was better for me than the first, however, no orgasm like I remember orgasms! I was actually wet the second time though! I did use a woman's lubricant during the day.