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I have question for you, i'm one of thoose teens who cannot understand why i cant orgasm. I have tried so many times but I never feel like i'm even close. And during partner sex sometimes I feel like im close but then I get this feeling that I have to pee, and then I get really scared, I start thinking, am I even close or am I just going to pee in his bad, which would be horrible.. Whenever i'm having partner sex and he stimulates my clitoris and it feels really good, but then I get this pee'ing feeling again, and I freak out, and kind of hold my pee muscles like crazy so I dont pee or if i'm going to pee(?)
Dear Dr Dodson
I contacted you a while ago with regards to experiencing a loss of sensation in my clitoris having used an electric toothbrush to masturbate.
It has been over a year now and the sensation has not come back but also my vagina area and clitoris is still dry and my clitoris is still a dull colour and forming plaque like bits on it that I have to regularly clean off.
Dear Betty and Carlin,
I've recently been dating a boob-man who loves playing with my breasts. A lot. He has great hands and I love it also so its been great fun. We hooked up 3 or 4 times this week where there was extensive breast fondling/sucking and this morning while we were playing, my boob began to lactate. It wasn't gushing, but enough spilled on him to notice and wonder where it came from. When we figured it out we played around with it and could squeeze more out. It was fascinating.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I'm a 42 year old woman who has lost her sex drive. I used to get my period every 35 days (always been that way and hubby and I loved that as it gave us plenty of time for sex each cycle) but the last year and a half, I've been getting it every 24 days. My sex drive has also disappeared. I miss it a lot.
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have always had a great sex life. My husband has a high drive and even after all these years still wants me all the time! I love that he wants me so much but the hormones are just not there for me to reciprocate. I think I must be experiencing pre-menopause. Is there anything that can be done to boost my drive?
I'm 27 this year and I have just had my first baby 4 months ago, I had an extremely quick labour and pushed him out in three contraction which only took 13 mins because this was so fast I came out with third degree tears to me perineum and 25 stitches, after 2 months I started sexual intercourse with my husband and experienced a fair bit of pain towards my perineum we have been using heaps of lubrication and have been having sex about 2-3 times a week. I have explored after my husband telling me that he could feel scar tissue towards the back passage and I have felt it and it still hurts and a bit lumpy and hard which I'm assuming is scare tissue.
Dear Doctor Betty,
Do you by any chance have a video on how to have sex? I know it's such a remarkable weird question, but I don't know who else I can ask. My doubt is: The penis goes into the vagina (hole) or into the inner lips?
The first sex all women need to have is with themselves. The vaginal opening is located between the inner lips. I encourage you to discover this for yourself before you have sex with a partner. You need to read around the website for the information you seek. Here is a link to get you started.
Dear Dr Betty,
I have been struggling with this for some time and would like to seek your advice.
8 months ago, when I was overseas for a stint, I started a relationship with Y, a married man 13 years older than me (I'm 25), although I had and still have a boyfriend, X. It was mutual attraction between Y and me; I have always been turned on by older men, loved his patience and tenderness towards me, and he found me attractive. We had amazing chemistry, just kissing would get me really wet. I later also found out that he has been in a sexless relationship for 3 out of 5 years of his marriage.
My fiancé just found out that I was faking orgasms.. Honestly I did and I was trying to make it seem so real but somehow he found out.. That doesn't mean I was lying the whole time I had great G spot orgasms but the problem is I don't know why can't I come every time we make love.
I'm not a fan of masturbation but I tried lately just by stimulating my clit and I came twice in 8mins. Please tell me how to deal with this emotionally because I know it hurt his feeling by making him think he's not good enough for me and sexually to make sure that whenever we make love or have sex we both enjoy it without having to fake orgasms or act and lie.
Thank you so much
First of all, thanks for the amazing resources you have here! For the first time since I started trying to understand my own orgasms–it's been about four years!–I found validation for my own experiences. As it turns out, I've been giving myself pressure orgasms since I was young, and I, like others who have submitted questions, was worried that I had "ruined" my clitoris. After reading your techniques and tips I feel confident that I can wean myself off the pressure orgasm and learn some new tricks, and hopefully even orgasm with a partner.
My question is: am I going to know when I'm having a non-pressure orgasm?
I'm having a problem with my new lover's cock popping out during sex. He's bigger than average and I haven't had this problem before, except sometimes with my husband who is also a little thicker. But the amount it happens with him would be comical if it wasn't so frustrating. It seems to be a particular issue with me on top, which is my favorite position, especially when I like to lean forward and grind my clit on his pubic bone. The two things many lovers have commented on is that I'm very wet and tight.