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Hi Betty (& Carlin),
I've been watching your YT videos off and on since I was a teenager! Thank you so much for posting them. I have a question I hope you can help me with.
Hi Betty and Carlin,
I'm in my 40's and just getting back out there after my 25 year marriage ended. My sex life with the ex was not too exciting. A new guy I've been seeing for a few months is more adventurous sexually (I took a tip from Betty and went out with a younger guy LOL). Anyhow, this guy seems obsessed with getting me to "squirt" and even makes me feel like there's something wrong with me because I can't pull it off.
I don't know much about it, I pretty much thought it was a "stunt" done in adult movies to make guys think they are "big studs" for making a woman ejaculate. Am I right to be ambivalent about this? Frankly it seems like a big mess more than anything.
Hi Dr. Betty,
I am brand new to this amazing resource and have spent all day combing through posts and podcast videos and I really appreciate what a wonderful set of educational tools you and Carlin have provided here.
I have a 5 year old daughter and I'm wondering how I can incorporate sex education into her development in a healthy way and at what age it's appropriate?
Dearest Betty and Carlin, get a drink, this is a long one.
I am a 63yr old lesbian and I have finally started my journey toward sexual healing and liberation. I discovered your wonderful web site while searching for information on hooded clits. Google had listed it’s best results, when I accidentally dropped my mouse on the keyboard, and up popped your clitoral hood chart page. If that’s not the Goddess sending me to you, I don’t know what is.
I started reading. I read for hours. I cried out of pain, I cried out of joy, I cried out of anger, finally I cried out of sadness that it has taken me 63 years to start this healing.
I feel like my story has a lot of weird details, so thank you ahead of time for your patience. I am experiencing some issues with orgasm and am looking for advice and help.
I got married a three years ago in my early 20s. I was a virgin until my wedding night, so the only sexual experience I have has been with my husband (my husband was not a virgin, not sure if you might need to know that as well). Even though we didn’t have sex before marriage, we have always had a lot of chemistry. I remember I would become very aroused just from making out, even with no petting or serious touching.
Dear Dr. Betty,
The concept of women always having their own way is not equality. Women have breasts and vaginas. Men have penises.
This fundamental inequality can not be balanced but in all other contexts, for women to have equality to men, men must have the same equality to women.
Women can "do things for themselves" but to overcome the imbalances, women and men should try to understand the world from each others and their own point of view.
I can't see how you can ever solve the differences that women experience without doing exactly the same for men. As a radical thinker, I'm surprised and disappointed at what seems to be your one sided outlook.
Dear Dr. Betty,
I hear/read a lot about male ED and diabetes. Is there a connection between female orgasm and diabetes?
I used to be able to achieve an orgasm easily, but since having diabetes it's more difficult and definitely less intense. I'm 65
The health of our bodies always affects our sexuality. However, I suspect your age of 65 also has to do with your orgasms. Also our length of time with the same partner can affect sexual interest and response. Since you are well past menopause, you might get your hormones checked out. I use a bio-identical hormone cream made from the soy bean plant. I avoid big pharma whenever it's possible.
Hope you're doing great.
This is Fabiola, from Mexico, your bodysex certification student and lifetime admirer. I write you to address a question that often comes to my mind since I started my journey at Bodysex, and as a sex researcher it marked the focus of everything I do.
For the last almost 4 years I've been developing my PhD dissertation on the influence of sexual norms and beliefs over the experience of sexual pleasure. As you can figure, the few research focused on sexual pleasure is not enough but have found a lot about sexual satisfaction, and here goes my question:
Do you consider sexual satisfaction and sexual pleasure to be different constructs, and why? I do.
I'm 34 and have always had a healthy sex drive. I have had anonymous sex and I love it. I find myself repressing my desire to be sexual, because it's not "proper". I don't have sex regularly, because I do not have a partner. So, that leaves me quite frustrated.
I want to give myself permission to have protected sex with as many men as I like, because I simply like sex. How do I move past the social norms and finally embrace who I am.
I am a 31 year old woman that has never had an orgasm...I think. I joined the military at 18 and was too busy to really explore my body and I also would regularly be intoxicated if I did have sex with male partners. At 21 I came out and started to sleep with women but mainly would touch them and not spend much time on myself. During these times I also deployed to Iraq twice for 12 month deployments where I slept in tents with 30+ people and was unable to masturbate. I always assumed the orgasm would come later on when I had time. Basically, I didn't make it a priority then.