Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
All names have been altered to protect your privacy.
I have never had any feeling inside my vagina. I never have since I started having sex. I can feel that something is there but no pleasure at all, not even a little. And I know for a fact that it is NOT the guy. I have had a few different sex partners over the years of different shapes, sizes, and performances. I can have a mind blowing orgasm by playing with my clit but never from inside.
Hi Betty,
What can I do to allow myself to let my husband bring me to orgasm. Over the years I've had very lazy lovers who were not interested in putting in the effort to find out what worked for me. Although I masturbated my entire life I never accidently had an orgasm and being in a very religious family I had never realized that women did.
I find it odd that I didn't accidently have one as I spent a lot of time masterbating through my teens. I was 18 before I had sex and my first boyfriend told me about female orgasms. When I couldn't promptly perform he simply bought me a vibrator. That did the trick.
I'm a 31-year-old woman, with a mild movement disorder, and do not think I've ever orgasmed. Don't think. I've read some of your literature and perhaps my occasional mild wave of release could be one...but...not sure.
I'm sure this question has been brought up several times but I have to ask for myself...I spent 2.5 years in an abusive relationship when the main goal of sex was for my boyfriend to orgasm, not me. I was just used to letting him use me to get his nut off. I thought I was passed that when I had sex with my next partner and had orgasms no problem. Now I'm in another serious relationship, my next relationship since the bad one, and I can't consistently have an orgasm. Sometimes I can and it's great but I can only do it once.
I am 19 and have a healthy sex life but have never come during sex or even felt like it. However, I love my vibrator and get a really amazing feeling when im using her at certain points and i'm guessing that is what it feels like to Orgasm, but liquid never follows. Is this normal? and sometimes after about 50 minutes or so of using my vibrator I will release a LOT of liquid. (literally a bucketfull) Sorry if i grossed you out, but could I have some advice please on if this is natural lol?
Dear C,
Hello!
I am searching for an effective means of birth control to use with my boyfriend. My OTC and OTC Lo are making me very dry, and lube isn't helping very much. Our sex life is being seriously affected. I considered an IUD, but have heard such horror stories, that I am no longer. Any ideas
Hi Betty,
Would first like to thank you for this great site. Well, here it goes. I have been married for 15 years. During the last 5 or so the wife has gradually lost all her interest in sex. We use to have a great sexual relationship but now it has turned into almost none. Sex is few and far between maybe once every couple months. So I find myself pleasuring me often to make up for what dosent happen in bed between us. I have talked to her about, but its just pointless. She has lost sexual interest so its just too bad for me.
Hi Betty/ Carlin,
As you may have noticed in the pic, i've got concaving nipples. I' am happy with the way my areolas are, it's nicely circled around my tits. Is it possible to get puffy tits without any augmentation or transplant.
Betty
i am trying to find information on the development of the uncircumcised penis through puberty. My 11 yo son is complaining to me that he feels his foreskin is too tight when he experiences erections. I would like to know if this is a normal phase, and if it will loosen with time and masturbation, as the body often takes care of itself.
He has had an infection under the foreskin in the past, and at the time i found it very difficult to find a doctor to care for him who was not convinced circumcision was the answer. Naturally if there were medical reasons to circumcise then i would ensure he had this surgery done, but i don't want this to happen if its not in his best interests.
Dear Dad,
Hello Dr. Betty,
Thank you for all the work you have done on behalf of women's sex education. I have been following you for years and I am a big fan or your work. I have a practical question about sex toy maintenance. If I am using bondage equipment i.e. leather or rope in partner sex, is there a specific product you recommend for cleaning the rope/leather?