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Dear Betty,

My 33 year old housemate has 3 black belts and she drives a Harley. She is a gorgeous woman. She is all about thinking positive. Her boss hired her to make presentations and be a girl Friday because he knew she was eye candy and it would please potential clients to have a brilliant beautiful woman on the team. They both openly acknowledged this. She was ok with it.

Hello, my boyfriend just broke up with me saying that I gave him herpes, even though I've never been tested (I'm 21) and have never had any of the described symptoms. After a few months (september to february) of having sex with him (oral and vaginal). the question came up if I had been tested and at the time I hadn't but said yes and that I was clean. No questions were asked if he had been tested, though he claimed to have had sex with a few other girls before me.

My wife and I have been married for 25 years. We both take care of ourselves as much as possible via Bowflex etc.

My question is about my wife and her double digit orgasms. She has approximately 30 to 60 orgasms in a two hour session of love making. These are clitoral (about 5), vaginal (about 40) and ejaculation from multiple sources. I am wondering if this is normal as her orgasms can last as long as thirty seconds and the number and intensity seem to increase and not decrease.

Dr. Betty,

I fear that I am grossly misinformed about my body and perhaps the female anatomy in general, but alas, I think I'll ask my question anyway. At the age of 19, I've decided that it's time for me to penetrate my vagina, but for some reason, I can't get the little bugger open! I've been following your instructions--playing with myself, taking my time, exploring my nether regions--but it hasn't been working. As you can imagine, this is seriously frustrating!

Dear Dr. Betty,

I recently had some interesting discussions about pornography and web censorship with somebody who is generally very liberal (and a neo-pagan) but also an Alice Schwarzer/Dworkin-type feminist and says pornography is absolutely never justifiable, among other things because sexuality is something sacred and not meant to be sold in her opinion. In my opinion anything goes as long as no one gets hurt and everything happens out of free will; therefore not all pornography is objectionable. I was wondering which arguments in favour of pornography you would use in that kind of discussion?

Hello Ms. Dodson,

I've turned 19 at the beginning of this month. About 3 weeks ago, I met this new girl. We haven't had sex yet, so this will be the best time for me to ask this...My penis size is of pretty good proportions. It's 7 1/2" long and almost 6" around. Would this size hurt the average woman during intercourse?

Sorry for the long story but one thing sort of lead to another with this question. My wife recently did something to me while giving me head that was totally new and a little surprising. She began to massage (very gently) with her fingers below my balls and eventually made her way to my anus. I found myself enjoying this immensely while at the same time a little embarrassed.

Hello, 

I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now, and we are starting to have sex. But for me it is not pleasurable and hurts a lot. The pain has nothing to do with not being lubricated enough, as we use a natural lubricant to help. Penetrative vaginal sex really hurts, and I feel no pleasure at all from it apart from an almost continuous pain. It is either painful, or just "comfortable" or "blank" but nothing better. I was wanting to know if there is any way I could possibly improve it.