Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

A real government agency has finally said it...the emperor has no clothes on...10 years of abstinence-only sex ed hasn't kept kids from having sex at all.  They still have sex, it's unprotected, and sex infections are spreading rapidly. 

The latest statistics on chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis show that these three highly treatable infections continue to spread in the United States.

"Chlamydia and gonorrhea are stable at unacceptably high levels and syphilis is resurgent after almost being eliminated," said John Douglas, director of the division of sexually transmitted diseases at the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

What do people think is sexy?  A rosy complexion.  What gives you a rosy complexion?  Eating fruits and vegetables.  I just heard Eric say a "hell yeah". 

In a study were people were asked to rate an individuals level of attractiveness, researchers have found it was all about skin tone (another study confirmed these findings -"glow" and "radiance" were the key indicators of "beauty" even over symmetry).  An individual with a rosy complexion was rated as the most attractive even over those with a "golden" complexion so you can save some money on spray-on tans. 

Don’t we all love orgasms? I know I do. And so do these two beautiful women – Carlin Ross and Betty Dodson.What's so interesting is that the orgasms they describe are unlike those I experience. For good reasons, I'm sure. First, I'm rarely active after I have an orgasm. I suppose I'm like a man in this way; my body turns into ice cream in the sun. For example, rattled with stressful thoughts and anxious questions about my professional future, I was unable to go to sleep last night. Even my darling cats submersed in blissful slumber couldn't influence me to relax. What I had forgotten is that I recharged my batteries just that morning. I retrieved my batteries, stuffed them into my vibrator, and got to work!

Yes, women ask this question on the site and in Betty's private practice. All orgasms are different. Learn how to know if you had one.  

For those new to my blog, I write on my sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible or that they'd never thought of. It so often lights a desire inside to "Want to do that. To feel that." To want to learn how to have better sex through sex education, consulting, and coaching, maybe for the first time in their lives.

Olivia and I didn't take long to get our clothes off. In fact, she was already in bed when I arrived at her place.

"Clothes! Off! Now!" she exclaimed gleefully.

I laughed and stripped. She threw back the covers to invite me in and to show off her curvy hourglass-carved perfection of a body. We made out. Heavy and light mixed, right there naked together in bed. She did have her pink see-through panties on though.... My hands and attention on her D cups, her slender waist, and broad hips with a tight and full ass behind her. One thing led to another and before long she started scooting down toward the foot of the bed. A man knows what that means. Knows where she's going.

This week, an Amsterdam style "coffee shop" opened in the US. It's the first of it's kind to test the Obama administration's relaxing of policing medical use of marijuana.

I'm all for it - and I don't even smoke pot. I'm hoping this marks the beginning of us Americans relaxing restrictions on things that help us to feel good.

The reality is that people like drugs. They always have. They always will. But, superstitious thinking has wrestled the naturalness of pleasure away from us.

If you've never watched Secret Diary of a Call Girl on Showtime, you should.  It's based on a british blog about the day-to-day life of a high-end escort.  There's been widespread speculation about "who" really penned this blog with rumors it was a gay escort and not a woman at all.  Most felt that it glamourized sex work.  It does and that's the point.

Well, meet the real Belle Du Jour: Dr. Brooke Magnanti.  Magnanti is a respected specialist in developmental neurotoxicology and cancer epidemiology in a hospital research group in Bristol. Six years ago, in the final stages of her PhD thesis, she ran out of money and turned to prostitution through a London escort agency, charging £300 an hour.

I finally sat down and watched my pussy in action for I finally sat down and watched my pussy in action for

1) My clitoris is HUGE (Sorry, that's not a real lesson).

2) Our pussies can benchpress one serious barbell......Not just any barbell... Betty Dodson's barbell!!!

I knew Ellen Willis back in the day when we were feminists together. This trailer is for a book written by her daughter who went on a road trip across the country interviewing young women about their lives and what feminism means to them.  I look forward to reading Girl Drive:

Girldrive trailer! from Girldrive on Vimeo.

I love my labia.  And I renewed my love for my labia yesterday during an oral sex session.  For the most part, it's always a race to the vagina....a race to the clitoris and sometimes we forget just how sexually sensitive our labia are and how much pleasure they bring us as women.  They're so soft and tender to the touch.  They fold and undulate between our legs carrying with them lubricating juices.  I love the way they feel when I part them and run my finger past their smooth center and into my vaginal opening.  I love to feel them plump up with pleasure...pulling open...ready to receive whatever I may slide past them.

I'm going to see the movie Amelia tomorrow. Although this news item refers to Amelia's wild side, opting for non monogamy is hardly what I'd consider "wild." She wanted her husband to know that she didn't expect either one of them to adhere to a lifetime of sex restricted to one another. I find that an act of courage in a society that demands monogamy of women while many men get to cheat.

Not only did she lead a conventional life, but it seems that her plane just didn't "disappear". My friends made a film about TIGHAR, a group of researchers digging for truth, something that always turns me on.

Amelia's fourth cousin, Wally Earhart, believes that Amelia and her navigator, Fred Noonan, did not die as claimed by the government and the Navy when their twin-engine Electra plunged into the Pacific on July 2, 1937.

My university social biology professor says, "Sperm is cheap. Psychotherapy is expensive." I couldn't agree more.

I grew up in the meat packing district of Manhattan's West Village in the 70's, so it makes sense that at the age of 11, my mom introduced me to her tantric master. She wanted to make sure she raised a son who was an excellent lover.

My first lesson: orgasm control.

Tantric master taught me to pulse, and contract the muscles around the anus and urethra the closer I get to orgasm - stopping myself just short of release - relaxing into the sweet orgasmic feelings.

Once again, I write blog posts like these to show that there's more to incredible sex than how to do it better. All the hot skills and sophistication in the universe won't matter if you have health issues that put a stop to your sex life, or make it not what it could be.

Here is a link to a thorough article on how your gut (small intestine) and its state of healthy bacterial vs unhealthy has a big effect on your sex life. From things that make you lose your sex drive, like Irritable Bowel Syndrome, or IBS, chronic urinary tract infections in women, and vaginitis.